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Went for my 12 week today and baby had stopped growing at 8+4. They are giving me a week to see if things move on their own. Don't know how to feel but so feel guilty

@Michelle0507 I asked GP regarding aspirin and progesterone, he said it is no harm to take them. The reason I worried so much is because my second miscarriage started with spotting with brown blood around 8 weeks and I miscarried naturally in 2 weeks time. Although bleeding was getting heavier (bright colour) and I was passing out clots.

@PineapplePrincess I found it is so hard to keep calm and positive after two failed pregnancies. I don't have DC. I feel old as well, don't feel I have lots of time left. I will try my best to stay positive, thanks very much. X

Hi ladies, how is everyone keeping good to see ladies still on here that I have spoke to before @pineappleprincess it’s so good to hear your still doing well and everything ok with baby, and @michelle0507 sooo happy to hear your pregnant too, being ill isn’t so good but hopefully that will go away soon, no news on me ladies had MMC and EPRC 26july 2018 AF returned in Sept been trying again since but no luck, met with a friend who is now 6 months pregnant after 4 IVF and we worked out I’m now too old for NHS IVF if we needed to go that way I was 39 in May2018 ironically found out I was pregnant 4days after my birthday, this has totally depressed me now even more, find it hard to cope everyday work encouraged me to go see a councillor which I have seen twice so far but it gets harder every month when my AF arrives, how have you other ladies kept the strength to keep going? xx

Hi @ChattyL, thank you. Have my 12w scan tomorrow assume I'll be around 13w. Had an emergency scan Christmas eve due to pain all good measured 12+1 but baby wouldn't keep still so was a guess. I have ridiculous anxiety convinced there will be no HB tomorrow. Argh! Think I need to go and see my GP.

That is rubbish about IVF I'll be honest I don't know anything about IVF. Hoping you get some luck soon.xx

Hi @michelle0507 awe bless you imsure everyday is scary thinking something might be wrong, because we’ve all had something go wrong before we know how heartbreaking it is and are so scared, fingers crossed all is ok tomorrow I will be thinking about you xx
I’m still hoping we can do it naturally but to know that option of NHS has now passed and private will be the only way to go is another pressure too ☹️

@ChattyL it's disgusting really we pay tax & NI and you can't have it. But methadone etc is free, argh don't get me started because I wont stop.

Thank you. Had a scan at 6w, 8w, 11+6 (measured 12+1) so hoping tomorrow will really ease my worries. I've had a bloated bump since Christmas Eve and yesterday it went so I went into meltdown! I know I won't get a real bump for a while, although I've lost a stone!

@ChattyL it's disgusting really we pay tax & NI and you can't have it. But methadone etc is free, argh don't get me started because I wont stop.

Thank you. Had a scan at 6w, 8w, 11+6 (measured 12+1) so hoping tomorrow will really ease my worries. I've had a bloated bump since Christmas Eve and yesterday it went so I went into meltdown! I know I won't get a real bump for a while, although I've lost a stone!

@michelle0507 yeah the NHS isn’t fair for sure a lot of health issues people have caused thier self and get treatment for but something like IVF women&men usually don’t cause fertility issues thier self.
All the best today let us know how you get on xx

Hey guys. Hope everyone is well and is managing to relax over the Xmas and New Year break.

@Michelle0507 - how did the 12wk scan go? Hope everything is looking good.

@ChattyL - that sucks about IVF options. Have you spoken to someone, or is this published advice? I know IVF can be a bit of a postcode lottery. Where I am, you can qualify for IVF into mid-fourties, but on the condition you don’t have any living children and neither does your partner (by a previous relationship).

@Watermelonlover - how are you doing hun? When is your scan due now? Must be this week?

@PineapplePrincess all good thank you, due 9th July.

How are you?x

Hi @pineappleprincess just have read it so far booked appt to see doctor next Friday for more clarification, in Northern Ireland unfortunately it’s only 1 NHS IVF that’s offered, not fair when we’re sll part of the UK think Scotland is the best for this, no children either side for us.
@michelle0507 sooo happy to see your photos that’s amazing, I was scared to ask as you hadn’t posted, but so good to see wee baby and all is going well xx

Hi my, I cant find my previous threads to update. I went for the first scan at 8wk and no heartbeat but hcg levels rising. Then a week later which was yesterday the doctor confirmed that I'm having a MMC.

So this morning I had the d&c procedure to remove everything. It will be sent off to the lab to be examined and in a week we will discuss what happened. To say we are devastated is putting it mildly .

We struggled with conceiving my ds1 and only after traumatic fertility treatment were we successful. So this time around and after two years of trying we were ecstatic that we managed to do this on our own. But it was not meant to be.. Just feel numb, trying to keep busy. My dh took time of week as we need time to process this. Sorry just rambling.

Oh @Apple103, I’m so sorry to hear your news. .

There are no words of comfort right now, just know that time will eventually help and that you need to give yourself the space to grieve and be kind to yourself in the process. Hugging DS tightly is always a bonus too, I’ve found.

I’m glad to hear your getting some testing done. Perhaps this will provide some answers and direction.

Feel free to ramble here. We’re here to listen and support where we can. xxx

@Michelle0507 - fab news. Glad all went well. Summer baby too - hopefully some sunshine to enjoy during the maternity leave.

@ChattyL, might be worth making some IVF enquiries, just in case. We are Scotland based, there appears more support here for advancing age mothers; however we would have been excluded as we had DS. It was crushing to have that route closed to us, even though we were fortunate enough to have a child already.

Ladies how are you? I was so pleased to read about your news Michelle. I'm going for a scan today to try and find out what's going on with me. Cycles all over the place and ridiculously low progesterone.
I got through my mum's anniversary and have started a lovely new job plus my open university degree so much happier but hopefully will have a pregnancy to enjoy soon xx

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Good to hear from you @Pamplem00se, hope scan yielded some results. Glad to hear you’ve found a new job and have started OU. Hope anniversary passed without too much upset - always a difficult time

@Michelle0507 - how’s pregnancy progressing? Hopefully you and bubba are doing well.

We’re on the final strait, 35wks today. Finishing up from work next week. It’s been an odd time, ups and downs as bump has grown and realisation sunk in. But really struggled to have the innocent excitement that comes with a pregnancy pre-miscarriage.

Not bought anything for baby, relying on DS’ hand-me-downs mostly. Hoping that once bubba makes his/her appearance that nerves will finally dissipate and we can enjoy the new arrival. xxx

@pamplem00use lovely to see you back. Hope the scan goes well.

@PineapplePrincess I think things are well, I'm just so anxious I'm almost blocking it out to protect myself. I spoke to MW re anxiety she dismissed it all and told me I wouldn't be maternal if I didn't worry, there is worry and then not sleeping & not talking about the pregnancy!
I have my 20w scan Tue, hoping that'll ease my anxiety. I don't look preg and haven't felt anything so I think all those things have just added.
I haven't bought anything, my Aunt keeps buying bits I'm waiting for the 20w scan!xx

OK this is just to vent...I think the stigma surrounding miscarriage is absurd and completely backward. Women don’t talk about it, doctors act like everything is fine until it actually happens, nobody warns you how common and tragic it is. And also no one says the right thing unless they’ve gone through it. I had to take an hour train and taxi ride after my D&C and the cab driver just kept yelling at me while DH was is the pharmacy getting me some pads. I turned to him and said I just had surgery for mmc and can you give me a break here???!! He just muttered angrily at me. I wonder how he would feel if he had a baby die inside him and it was dead for three weeks and he didn’t know it was dead and just kept loving it and then had to get it cut out of him.

@Pampl3m0usse I’m so sorry for your loss. The same exact thing happened to me - mmc at 12 week scan, stopped growing at nine weeks. It was four days before the one year anniversary of my mom’s death last year from breast cancer. And my first and only baby. This all happened to me on Thursday and I feel so empty inside. I just touch my stomach at night and think about my baby.

Sending you hugs and hope you find the strength to get through this. xxx

All was well at my 20w scan and it's a boy.

Hope you're all well lovelies.x

So pleased to read this, congratulations @Michelle0507 my little chap is lots cuddlier than my girls (clearly love them all the same, but it's a nice side of having boys!!!). It gives me lots of hope (for me) and feelings of warmth for you!
My scan showed a cyst that's grown from my July scan, but GP is reassured as cancer markers normal in blood test and progesterone on the low side but suggests I'm ovulating (and possibly beginning to sort itself out after the last hellish year). Feeling cautiously optimistic! I've so much on right now that I think a pregnancy would freak me out a little (!!) but still hoping it will happen sooner rather than later.....xxx

Thank you. From my experience working with children boys are a lot more loving and cuddly compared to girls.

It sounds like things could be hopeful for you. Just take care of yourself and be kind to yourself x

waves to all

Hope everyone is doing okay. We’ve had a bit bit of a bumpy week, particularly after my waters broke Monday at 36+6. After delaying for steroid injections we finally got to meet baba this morning.

All 6lb 5oz of bouncing baby boy. He’s made it safe and sound, and is as cute as a button (a hairy little button - which may explain the horrific heartburn!?!)

Don’t give up ladies. Four miscarriages down, and at a 42, it is still possible.

@PineapplePrincess

Congratulations!!! Thanks for sharing the news. So happy for you and your success story. Loads of love 💕🎉🍼🍭🌷

@PineapplePrincess WELL DONE! I'm so pleased to hear about your little chap :) I hope that he's settling in well.....
@Michelle0507 how are you doing lovely?
So news from me.... I've got an appointment at the end of the month for cyst / query infertility / irregular cycles and spotting. I've been feeling a bit out of sorts this week so I did a pregnancy test.... and I'm pregnant. At least today. Incredibly early days but I'm hopeful and happy.... although I was beginning to come to terms with it not actually happening. Please keep your fingers crossed for me!
xxx

Hi Ladies,

I'm good thank you 22+3 and the bump has appeared. Can't wait to meet him.
Really nervous still I've done a referral for counselling.x