Mmc

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Went for my 12 week today and baby had stopped growing at 8+4. They are giving me a week to see if things move on their own. Don't know how to feel but so feel guilty

Hi Pinapple, I should have been 8.5 weeks at scan but only measured 7. Still cramping and clots today but i do feel my breasts aren't as sore as yesterday

I’m assuming you have passed the main POC and now passing remain elements?

I tried medical management with my fourth MC, didn’t work within the expected 8hrs (was supervised in hospital, after suffering bad contraction pains), they managed to manually remove the main POC. Afterwards I bled for about 7-10 days, with smallish clots and stringy discharge (sorry TMI). The bleeding settled and was back into a four week cycle pretty much right away.

I lost my pregnancy symptoms before I found out about previous MCs, so was luckily spared that aspect. But it is all linked with how much and how quickly your hcg levels are reducing, which can vary from person to person.

If you’ve passed the sac, then hopefully it should just be a case of a week or so for everything else to clear out. However if you don’t think you’ve passed the sac, are bleeding excessively, have increased pain or there are any odd odours - I would get back in touch with EPU.

{{{hugs}}}

Thanks Pineapple. I don't know if I passed the sac or not, anything that came out happened while on toilet and couldn't see what it looked like as water turned red. I have a scan next week so will find out then. Thanks for taking the time to reply

@Iloveeating
Sorry you find yourself here, welcome to this little support group. I hope you have passed everything and so you can emotionally move on. I cannot help much, my miscarriage was natural (20th August, exact month today) but my last scan showed I still have POC left so I'm booked to have them removed tomorrow. Hopefully that would be it! When would the pregnancy symptoms go? Well, everyone is different, for some go earlier than for others. I never had many other than being really tired. I'm back to normal, although my pregnancy tests still show a faint positive line (would you believe it!!). Good luck with the next scan and keep us posted.

This weekend will be 6 weeks since I first started spotting and I haven't stopped since then... I'm looking forward to being pregnant (and don't bleed) so I don't have to wear a pad for a few months 🙈

Just wondering how everyone is doing. Hope it's all good news xx

Hi Ladies, went to see the Nurse at the Drs today as I've been unwell for 10 days really bad cough, sore throat etc and feeling so ill I have a chest infection! Off to Budapest 8am Sat morning so not great but hey ho. Feeling very run down.

Hope you're all well. @Pampl3m0use are you still around?x

May I join. I'm 39 and trying for my first baby.

Been diagnosed with likely my second MMC this week.

First pregnancy earlier this year ended when I went for a private early scan (stupidly thought it'd be lovely to see baby for the first time in a non medical setting) 17th March. Should've been 9weeks, bean measured just 3.1mm-around 6 weeks. I went through hell trying to sort it, and didn't stop bleeding until June. Bad luck they said, just carry on as you are, here's some higher dose folic acid to placate you.

Mid-August I found out I was pregnant again. I was so happy, and determined to be positive and repeated the mantra "today I am pregnant". I convinced myself I was experiencing symptoms, even thinking I was getting a bump this last week. But i was a fool. I went for a scan on weds at 8+6. My little bow measures just 4.2mm, no heartbeat and no blood flow. She was around 6 weeks and appears to have died within a day of bean.

I'm heartbroken. Just devastated. And angry. I trusted the medics when they said it was bad luck. I trusted them when they reassured me they didn't think it was to do with my blood (a major concern due to family history) and that I shouldn't take baby aspirin when I got my BFP. But now here I am, in limbo for two weeks before they'll even confirm she's gone, bleeding a little bit just like last time, and feeling with every bone in my body that there's something wrong with me.

My instincts say there's a problem, but the thought of having to live this nightmare a third time before they'll investigate is horrific. I'm looking at private tests but I don't know if finances will allow.

The worst thing is I'm starting to think I can't do it again, and that will mean giving up on being a mom. That right there is the most painful part of this. Letting go of my dream. It's just not fair.

Hugs to all xxxx

@Laney79 sorry for your losses. Be kind to yourself and give yourself some time to recover both physically and emotionally and when you feel better then think about it again. You might surprise yourself of how strong you are, you might have changed your mind by then and might wish to give it another go 🍀❤️ 💐 xx

Hello @Laney79, welcome to the group, so sorry you find yourself here.

It sounds like you’ve been through an awful time, in quick succession too. Please take some time to rest and recover, particularly before making any decisions.

I too fell for the line “it’s just bad luck” after my first MC and went happily into my second pregnancy only to MC again. Four down with testing of me and POC and still no answer forthcoming. Currently pregnant again, after most recent MC in May, with fingers and toes crossed this one works.

You mention blood concerns in your post, anything specific? I’ve had a previous DVT, although there doesn’t appear to be any underlying reason for it. I’m treated with clexane and more recently baby aspirin in pregnancy to help thin the blood and support implantation. It may be something to consider if there is a family history of clotting. Can you get your GP to run tests or refer you to a haematologist for testing?

{{{big hugs}}}

@Michelle0507 - you poor thing. You really haven’t been great this last wee while, sounds like your immune system is at an all time low.

Hope you are bearing up okay, and are back on track for Budapest. I’ve heard it’s suppose to be an amazing city. xox

Hey @Ladybug84, how are you doing? Did you have a ERPC to remove POC? Hope everything went okay and spotting is beginning to settle. xxx

@PineapplePrincess four? How do you cope? I'm finding it hard to breathe after two.

Blood wise - it's a gut feeling. With my first MMC I just felt it was something to do with my blood, I passed a small clot in the shower just before my confirmation scan. Family history wise, my dad has had three strokes and is type 2 diabetic, my mom has varicose veins and repeated issues with dvts/phlebitis/thrombosis (two heparin injections this week), my half sister also has varicose veins, my grandfather was on heparin for the last 10ish years of his life, my grandmother had a stroke, and my great grandfather died of a dvt. So plenty of Suss clotting issues.

More than anything it's my instinct-I feel it's something to do with my blood and the formation of the placenta/blood flow at the point I lost them both. X

Bizarrely I’ve found each successive miscarriage easier to deal with @Laney79. Maybe it just I’ve been more prepared for failure, there is also the old adage that with advancing age (I’m 42) you’re likely to encounter more ‘bad eggs’. Plus there’s the never-ending hope of being successful or getting to the three MCs and the referral to the RMC for testing. I’ve also found TTC my therapy, I found it really difficult when DH wanted to stop trying.

I would definitely get to your GP and ask for bloods and a referral. There is enough of a pattern there that could suggest an underlying condition. You could also argue for a referral to RMC, some will see you after two MCs where you have been TTC for 2+ years and are 38+. You just need to find a sympathetic GP.

My DVT wasn’t pregnancy related with no family history, but I’m automatically high risk during pregnancy. Have used clexane in previous pregnancies but this time is the first try with aspirin too.

Hello,

Not sure do anyone can help me but I am on day 11 of bleeding MMC. I'm Feb up and going to call hospital tomorrow for medicine to speed up the process.

However today I have had really bad cramps not passed anything (hospital confirmed Thursday still have not passed the sac) I get really bad cramping now and keep hoping to pass the sac but I feel like I actually need to poop. I have been 3 times this afternoon. Has anyone else experience this terrible feeling. I keep thinking this is it but no.

I just want it over and I don't know when and how it's going to be.

For me it was all over quite quickly. But when it actually passed I had a couple of hours of bad pain and feeling like I needed to poop.

I spotted blood for 2 days then passed the sack in the early hours of the morning. Pain was crampy. Then sore. And after it passed most of the pain went away.

So sorry for your loss.

@Funnybunnyfluff sorry for your loss. I took medical management for my mmc and I went to poop a few times before and during the bleeding process. Hopefully it will all be over soon for you

What happens just before you pass the sac?

Are you in pain, cramps? Or did you not even realise?

Does it pass when you go for a wee or is there a build up and feel you need to head to the bathroom.

Sorry I know this is really sensitive topic but i just don't know what to except. Anyone happy to share their experience is much appreciated.

@Funnybunnyfluff sorry it's taking so long ☹️ I understand how you're feeling, it's an awful time. Mine was similar. My miscarriage was natural. I was spotting/bleeding for 9 days before I passed the sac. The last two days before I passed it I experienced the same (cramps and need to poop). The day I finally passed it, the cramping increased gradually to a pain similar to contractions and it lasted 2 hours. Once the sac passed, the pain went.

I hope you feel better soon. Take care of yourself xx💐

Mine started with spotting blood. Had a scan which showed no heartbeat. Was 11 weeks but only measured 8.

Spotting continued for 2 days. Then woke up at 3 am with period like cramps. Got steadily worse over a couple of hours. Like contractions. Bad pain for about 2 hours and heavy bleeding. Felt like I needed to poop. But also had to sit on the toilet as was bleeding so much.

Could feel sack pass. Then the pain stopped and bleeding went back to heavy period like bleeding. This continued for a few days. Not much more pain. Passed a few smaller clots.

@Funnybunnyfluff everyone is different. You'll find This thread useful:

Tips for coping with the practicalities of miscarriage

Thank you so much ladies for your experiences. I'm hoping it will happen soon. Iv has a continuous cramping pain since about 3pm.

@PineapplePrincess hi lovely! Thanks for asking. The ERPC went ok under local (although I don't think it had made effect when the doctor started with the procedure). 5 or 10 minutes uncomfortable/slightly painful but was out of the hospital within 20 minutes after and no more pain or heavy bleeding. Hope my body goes back to normal soon. I have planned a romantic getaway in November for DH birthday, I think we deserve it 🙂 it'd be great if we could start TTC by then 😋

How are you feeling? Is the little bean showing yet? xx

@Michelle0507 I hope you've managed a restful break. I've been reading your messages and am so so sorry for what you've been through, it sounds utterly miserable and I'm sure the only consolation can be that things must improve from here. I've been thinking of you but forgot my mumsnet password and my life has been so all over the place in recent weeks that i just didn't get around to resetting until today.
I think I had a chemical pregnancy last month (I didn't actually test but my period was pretty late and I had nausea symptoms etc...). Then I ended up with a kidney infection and bed bound for a few days, then I found out that I was being made redundant. The combined effect was that I don't think I ovulated at all last month and now my period has arrived almost a week early. Sorry for the misery me. Struggling not to feel sorry for myself - am in the run-up month by month wise to my mum's serious mental health deterioration and suicide last year so it's all a bit meh :(
@PineapplePrincess I am so pleased for you. You continue to be the only pregnant person who I don't want to trip over (only joking, but you know what I mean...!
@Cleozeta how are you.

I'm so sorry to everyone else it's such a miserable time. Special mention to @Laney78. I recognise you from the TTC after miscarriage board. I'm so sorry you're having to go through this again and can only say I'm really hoping things get resolved much much quicker for you this time, and that your little one will come along before too long. Lots of love xx

Thank you for asking Pample, plodding on but getting nowhere unfortunately. 'Would have been' due date rappidly approaching and still nothing, and getting older by the minute, so seriously considering taking things the medical route in my panic, as AF came yesterday.

Sorry to hear things have been so shit for you. Hopefully it means that now the only way is up, and you will be due some luck on your side. Fingers crossed for you.

@Pampl3M0use lovely to see you back. Thank you.

I'm still suffering although I've finished my antibiotics don't want to go back to my GP I'm sick of going there (No pun intended)

I had an e mail from pampers today telling me I'm 28w I never signed up to anything so that's annoying!!!

Hi Ladies,

How is everyone?