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Greenglassteacup · 13/05/2017 11:48

I think I'm starting my third miscarriage. Fucking stupid body failing me again

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keeponrunning85 · 13/05/2017 12:00

I'm so sorry greenglass. The world of recurrent miscarriage is shit. Are you under your local EPU so you can get a scan or bloods? I hope you've got some good support around you.

I'm 2 weeks down the line from number 4. Feeling pretty broken by it all and not sure where to go from here. Especially as when went to RMC after number 3 we were told oh it's just bad luck, keep trying and fingers crossed next time. Fat load of good the finger crossing did. I hate my useless uterus.

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Greenglassteacup · 13/05/2017 12:12

Hello. No not under the epu or anything. Just want to go to bed & not get up

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Greenglassteacup · 13/05/2017 12:13

No support either. Partner says "just got to get on with it, one of those things, blah blah". It's not happening in his body though is it so he seems to just carry on as normal

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Greenglassteacup · 13/05/2017 12:22

He says " I don't know what you want me to do"

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Catinthecorner · 13/05/2017 12:25

I am so very sorry for your loss. Your grief must be overwhelming right now. Would it help to talk? I may not say the right things in response but I will listen.

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Spottyladybird · 13/05/2017 12:27

Sorry for your losses.

Go to bed. I had two miscarriages. With the first I tried to carry on, with the second I thought 'fuck this' went to bed with biscuits, chocolate and films. Slept, cried, ate, cried some more. It helped a lot.

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Greenglassteacup · 13/05/2017 12:31

Got to go to a family party this afternoon and pretend to have fun

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TheLastUNIC0RN · 13/05/2017 12:38

So sorry for your losses. I'm in the midst of number 4 at the minute. Just what I will say if you are sure you are miscarrying please do get checked. My levels are not going down this time and they are monitoring me weekly - so it really is worth the trip to epu.
Apart from that please be kind to yourself and get some rest. Good luck xxxx

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Neverknowing · 13/05/2017 12:38

Oh green how awful for you! It's very sad your partner isn't supportive, maybe he just doesn't understand. Do you have someone you can speak to in real life? I think you'll find its more common than you realise, a lot of women really will understand.
A woman at my baby group said she was upset because she had multiple miscarriages and thought no one understood but when she told her (pregnant) sister it turned out she was the same. You need some real life support, you don't have to pretend to be okay Flowers

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Greaterthanthesumoftheparts · 13/05/2017 12:43

Hi green, I had my third start yesterday so here's a hand to hold from my side. It's shit isn't it. I have an appointment with the doctor next Friday to talk about tests for habitual abortion (what a horrible term that is, makes it sound like you do it on purpose!). Unfortunately in Switzerland there is no NHS and we just used our last funded IUI. So going forward its going to get very expensive! And with no guarantee of success.

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Greenglassteacup · 13/05/2017 13:01

What do I need to be checked for?

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Greenglassteacup · 13/05/2017 13:01

It's not that he's unkind, he's a good man but just very logical, rational

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Greenglassteacup · 13/05/2017 13:03

Got to get a shower and get ready for this party now, can't be bothered at all. Thank you all for your company and kind thoughts. I'm sorry that we all have this dreadful experience in common

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Greaterthanthesumoftheparts · 13/05/2017 13:26

As far as I know they will check for auto immune diseases and do genetic testing. Will hopefully learn more next week, I'll keep you posted. I also have to go out for drinks with the girls tonight, DP has his stag do today.

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Greenglassteacup · 13/05/2017 13:32

I have an autoimmune disease, it's in remission.

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keeponrunning85 · 13/05/2017 13:38

You should be referred to the recurrent miscarriage clinic after 3 miscarriages. You'll be seen by a doctor specialising in that area. They'll do a variety of bloods and probably scans. With my third and fourth miscarriage the pregnancy was also sent away for genetic testing.

And then depending on the results hopefully a plan for future pregnancies.

I don't know anyone who real life who has experienced the same, but I have some brilliant friends who have listened to me for hours, been a shoulder to cry on and kept me company when I needed it. Please reach out to people.

And if you don't want to go to the party don't go.

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sureitsgrand · 13/05/2017 13:41

Just to say I'm sorry Flowers

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sureitsgrand · 13/05/2017 13:41

Just to say I'm sorry Flowers

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Catinthecorner · 13/05/2017 14:20

Do not go to the party. You are grieving a terrible loss. Be kind to yourself and don't go. Text that you are unwell and in a lot of pain (that bit is true) will be heading to the doctor asap (true)and won't be able to make it

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Greenglassteacup · 19/05/2017 11:39

Stopped bleeding now. Pregnancy test is of course negative. Went to see the GP ( cold, dismissive). Got an appointment at the recurrent miscarriage clinic next month. Not sure if there is any point.

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Greenglassteacup · 19/05/2017 11:39

Feeling quite depressed

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Greenglassteacup · 19/05/2017 11:41

Was feeling marginally less depressed before I saw that horrible bitch of a GP actually

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Happenedagain2017 · 19/05/2017 13:08

I'm so sorry Greenglass. Medical professionals can seem very heartless sometimes. It's horrible. I know it feels pointless now but please don't lose hope. Look after yourself and allow yourself to be sad and angry. xxx

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Waitingforsherlock · 19/05/2017 13:14

So sorry for your loss. The doctors will look for evidence of anticardiolipin antibodies in your blood which can cause recurrent miscarriage. There is a condition called Hughes Syndrome which you may want to look at. Flowers

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Catinthecorner · 19/05/2017 15:05

I'm so sorry the GP was cold and dismissive to you. Do attend the clinic. They are the specialists and will hopefully be kinder and more helpful.

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