Third miscarriage

[Greenglassteacup]

I think I'm starting my third miscarriage. Fucking stupid body failing me again

I'm so sorry for your loss and sorry about your partner's reaction. I'm in the exact same situation. I recently had a second miscarriage and have felt like I had 0 support from my partner both times. He just ignores the situation and becomes so distant. But believe me, they are hurting too.
For most men, carrying on as though nothing has happened is their way of copying with the pain. They won't admit their feelings to you, they mask it with a facade of acting normal. It's so frustrating I know. You just want to scream at them for not getting it, but honestly he needs support just like you do. Have a heart to heart with him and ask him how he really feels. Tell him that you won't judge him and it's completely normal to be emotional.
You're eachothers rocks at this hard, hard time. I completely understand you right now, it hurts to feel like your partner, the person who helped create this baby, doesn't care. But just know that they do care, they just pretend they're strong so they can cope.

My partner actually admitted to me today that he cried alone about it (and he's not the type to cry about much). He said that he didn't want to tell me how he felt because he saw how damaged I was about the miscarriage, and didn't want to put anymore stress on me. This all shocked me so much, because I was beginning to think he didn't even care. But it just proved to me that men and women are wired so differently. I wish we weren't, but these difficult times really make you understand eachothers differences.

So sorry for your loss greenglass. I have had five miscarriages now and I can't offer any words of wisdom that magically take that pain away. My last miscarriage was in march and when I think of them all, I well up again insideand have a cry, but right now it is so raw for you. You need to grieve however is right for you. I have always had a bit of time off work and decorated- no idea why, but I just always have this urge to change something in my life I have control of.

I have been through local nhs tests as have a great consultant and have just come back from specialist Rmc - so have to wait for their tests- expecting them to say nothing is wrong though. Because of the wait for the specialist referral I did go privately to see someone that tests for nk cells and have been given treatment for this.

Look after yourself, sometimes I think it feels a very lonely place to be, but your not alone, lots of lovely ladies on here supporting you xx