Recurrent Miscarriage Support Thread 29 - Support for Tests, Treatments and Trying Again

[barkingtreefrog]

Support, hugs, a wealth of collective knowledge and lots of hand holding as we try again. This thread moves like lightning so prepare to read fast!

Previous thread here

Link to the RMC investigations information

Stats update:

allthereis: 29. DC, 4MC
anniehoo: 42. TTC#1 for 2.5yrs, 4MC
barkingtreefrog: 36. TTC#1 since Dec 11, 2MC
bettybutterchops: 40. DS, 3MC, pg
bootles: 41. DS, 1TFMR, 4MC, pg
brummiegirl: 38. TTC#1 since Apr 14, 3MC, pg
bubblybubbles80: 34. TTC#1, 3MC
bumblebee0: 29. DS, 2MC, pg
bunnymad: 40. DD, 2MC
bythesea82: 33. TTC#1 since Dec 12, 3MC, pg
casiopeia: . TTC#1, 3MC
chrystley: 41. DD, 5MC, pg
cloudjumper: 43. DS, 4MC, pg
confu3ed: 39. DS, DD, 5MC, pg
desperatelyhopeful: DS, 10 MC.
emerald72: 43. DS, 3MC
enlightenedbunny: 34. TTC#1 since '10, 1TFMR, 3MC, pg
erica21: 32. DS, 2MC, pg
extrablessings: 33. DS, 6MC
fackinell: 44. TTC#1, 4MC
fififolle: 37. DC, 2MC, pg
flen: 36. TTC#1, 3MC, pg
floweroct: 34. TTC#1 since 11, 3MC
frecklefire: 40. DS, 3MC
genwah85: 29. DS, 3MC, pg
girliesaints: 37. DD, 4MC (1 twins)
girlinoz: 32. TTC#1, 3 MC
Ifinishedthebiscuits: 37. 2DS, 4MC
iloveyoubaby: . DD, 2MC
inamaymaybewrong. 37. DS, 2MC
jady77: 37. TTC#1 since Sep 14, 2MC, pg
kazz2112: 31. TTC#1 since Feb 14, 3MC
lauren83: 31. TTC #1 for 7yrs, 2MC (1 twins)
leah1984: . TTC#1, 2MC
loopyaboutmy2boys: 38. 2DS, 6MC
lovemylittlebear: 29. 1 ectopic, 2MC, pg
marchgirl: 37. DD, 5MC, pg
maverick79: 35. TTC#1, 2MC, pg
me2me2: 2DC, 2MC
mimidoddrioni: 35. TTC#1, 2MC
minnie74: 40. DS, 3MC, pg
monten: 37. TTC#1 since Apr 13, 1TFMR, 1MC
morganlefey: 29. DD, 3MC
mrsb0710: 29. TTC#1, 2MC
mrsconfusion: 36. DD, 3MC, pg
mrsdiddlydoo: 34. DS, 2MC, pg
notspartacus: 39. 2DD, 2 ectopic , 3MC
onedaymaybe1: 32. TTC#1, 3MC
onestep2015: 39. TTC#1 since May 13, 3MC, 1 ectopic /PUL
patienceisvirtuous: 37. TTC#1 since Mar 14, 2MC, pg
peqpit: 33. TTC#1 for 2yrs, 3MC
portmoon: 43. DS, DD, 5MC
sallywade: 36. DS, 1TFMR, 5MC, pg
sashakerr: 37. DS, 3MC
sebsmummy: 40. DS, 3MC, pg
sizethree: 35, TTC#1, 3MC, pg
snoopysimaginaryfriend: 29. TTC#1 since Sep 14, 3MC
spamminit: 25. 2DS, 2MC
strubidooo: 34. TTC#1 since Sep 12, 3MC, 1 ect
sunandrainbow: 38, TTC#1, 4MC, pg
teach3: 27. TTC#1, 3MC
texta: 32. TTC#1, 3MC
thepopandcry: 38, DS, 4MC
thornfield38: 34. TTC#1 for 2 yrs, 2MC, pg
tomcat81: 34. TTC#1 since Oct 14, 2MC
twilightstruggle: TTC#1 since Nov 12, 5MC
wadsy: 36. DS, 1 ectopic , 4 MC, pg

ourdaywillcome
daisybell

Thread babies
bakingtins: 40. 2DS, 4MC. Faith born May 14
tannyloo: 42, 2DS, 5MC. Bertie born Mar 15
tinytear: 41. DD, 5MC. Alice born Mar 15
justonemoretime: 39. 3MC. Scott born May 15
purplefrogshoes: 38. 2MC, 1CMP. John born May 15
longestlurkerever: 34. DD, 3MC. Beth born Jun 15
catlover2014: 35. TTC#1 since 09, 3MC. Louis born Jun 15
boozle80: 34. 3MC. Mhairi born Jun 15
belleende: 40. TTC#1, 2MC, 1 TFMR. Cissy born Jun 15

Monten I took eight months to conceive MC3 and then conceived this pregnancy 2.5 months later. I put my luck down to acupuncture and throwing the opks away.

I started acupuncture the cycle I conceived too.

I always conceive when I go and see Marcus Briggstocke do stand up comedy...

Thanks ladies, loving these stories. Must stay positive.

Ok, anyone who has spent more than five minutes in the fb group will know I've already been more active there in a day than I've been here for ages. I think it is time for me to bow out of the mn thread. Sorry that this means I will miss out on seeing some people. Selfishly I hope you will join us.

Please feel free to pm me if you'd like to stay in touch another way.

This thread has been a lifeline in the 2 years I've been on it. I credit it with giving me the knowledge and confidence to get the right support to try again. I've also been humbled and amazed at the warmth and generosity shown here.

Much love and hopefulness xxx

monten like bumble said we took 18 months to conceive mc1 and then I got pg with ds 3 months later. It took us just under 2 years (once we started trying again) to get mc2. We'd started down the IVF route and had all the tests (dh had poor morphology which makes me wonder about mc3's abnormalities and worry about this time) then 4 months after mc2 I conceived mc3, and then this pg was 3 months since mc3. Sorry that's a bit rambled but for me I have no real pattern at all other than seeming to get pg quicker after a mc. I also wonder if the scratch helped this time and definitely credit acupuncture with getting me pg with mc2 and breaking the two year slog. It's so hard to pick yourself up and start again, especially when you know it's taken a while before. Those fucking blank sticks are just the pits every month! Hope you're feeling ok this morning and are not suffering too much with a red wine hangover! Xx

barking thinking of you so much. You don't deserve this shit. So so sorry it hasn't worked out this time. Really wish there was something useful I could do or say Xx

Completely understand you moving over to just the fb thread tanny. You've done your time here and made it through to the other side. Yay!
But i hope the rest of us can still keep the mn thread going. I'd hate to think of newbies not having anywhere to turn or those without fb/not ready to join the fb group having nowhere to chat because we all buggered off to a private group. It's lovely to see everyone's faces too but hopefully we can keep both sides going

I took 3 months to conceive #1 and then 3 months after that ERPC I conceived again. Hopefully this time will be the same, but with my shit luck lately who knows. I absolutely don't want to pressure dh but like a lot of you I feel as if I've lost so much time already.

Did some research on the consult who did my CVS and TORCH test. Turns out that's he pet research project. Which is ok, but I'm (unreasonably??) pissed that I feel a little like a guinea pig and that I haven't been given the whole story. I don't know what to think really.

Had a friend of a friend who is a GP give me some advice on what to ask for.

Sorry, I know my problems probably seem insignificant, but just trying to get my head around it all.

barking so sorry about the bfn as others have said I just wish there was something I could do xx

Hearing all these conception stories just seems to show how random these things are. After taking 15 months to conceive mc1 for me hearing that you're more fertile after a mc almost put more pressure on, it took almost 18 months ttc mc2 and that was iui but then less than 6 months for mc3 and now I'm 8 months down the track but all these stories seem to show that eventually it does happen. Keeping fingers crossed for you that it's not long monten. As others have said when I've got pg my overwhelming emotion is relief that I can stop poas, temping etc

I've had a couple of months off acupuncture whilst waiting for hysteroscopy and looks like this cycle has gone a bit weird as haven't ovd yet. Hopefully will soon!

Thanks Just for the Greeks info, think that's interesting and am beginning to think there's something in it, with butterflies and feathers and oddly just the wind?!

march I agree it would be best if we can keep both groups going specially for newbies and non fb people. Find myself checking both now and hard to keep up!!

Barking so very sorry again about the results today, it's so unfair and why do some people have to go through so much? No reason for it. You've been incredibly strong doing all this alone, I really hope you get a happy ending soon x
monten and patience hope you're both ok.

I'm waiting for af to arrive so I can book my saline scan. Should be day 28 tomorrow when it would normally arrive, but no signs yet. Also wanting to crack on with ov so can sort Coventry, but think I'll miss this time as we are away on 27th

Sod off magpie above me on a tree in garden...

You ladies have definitely helped me through the last few days with the lovely support.

DP went away to the match today, I wanted him to have a fun day with friends. And me, had a visit from my lovely bro and sis in law, and my nieces (13 yo and 16 yo ergo great fun) are staying with me tonight for films and pizza and chocolate!)

Barking and Monten, hope you're both holding up okay.

I must say Ioving the FB thread too!

Emerald, there is a field and a dene lined with trees behind me - I am now obsessed with the magpies living in them. I rarely see more than one!!

flen we did the injections at a slight angle. Not sure that helps but it's what dh did because its how we were shown

Thanks for all the injection hints - the nurse that taught me said 45 degrees, but the last few days I've had some very painful bruising and I thought some of you guys had said 90 degrees, so thought I'd check...

Flen I'm a 90 degrees person too. I rub the skin to warm it slightly, then plunge straight in and then push the plunger down slowly and then pull out when I feel it click.

I did bruise a fair bit when I first started. Now i barely bruise at all, u admit it's got a lot better

I'm happy to stay on both fb and here. I'm not out of the woods yet and this thread has helped me get this far.

As for me and my story.

I conceived first pregnancy on 2nd cycle, 2nd cycle post mc 1, 4th cycle post mc 2 and then I had a forced 4 month break post mc 3 for all tests/hysteroscopy and conceived this one first time trying.

Barking Monten Patience thinking of you all

Me too, happy to stay on both MN and fb.

barking I'm assuming the bloods weren't good. We are here for you if it helps to post on here. Its so goddamn unfair, I'm truly gutted for you. Huge hugs xxx

No, bootles, bloods confirmed no pregnancy .

I've kept myself very busy and in company all day. Wasn't coping at all this morning but my friends have been amazing, just being there.
Off to find a sleeping tablet as I haven't had a decent night's sleep in a long time, sorry for not replying to everyone today, just not feeling up to it and can feel the tears coming back.
Just feeling empty. Almost 4 years of ttc and still nothing to show for it. All NHS options now exhausted, nothing more they can/will do for us as we only get one round of IVF in our area. I've lost count of the number of friends who started at the same time as us and now have two children .

Anyway, off to bed before I start my pity party again. Tomorrow is another day. And next Sunday, only 7.5 days away, DH will be home....

barking I hope.you get some sleep if that is all.possible. I don't know what to say and I wish there was something that could take all that hurt away. Thinking of you x

Hope you managed some sleep barking. So glad you have good friends around you. Thinking of you lots x

Thinking of you too monten and patience xx

Glad your friends have been there barking. You are a strong and brave woman, and you will come through this, though I appreciate it may not feel like it at the moment. I'm so so sorry it hasn't worked this time, and that your area only gives you one try. Roll on your DH coming home. Look after yourself in the meantime xxxxxxxxxx

barking . Keep talking to us, if you feel like it. Don't if you don't. None of us have a crystal ball or know how our stories will unfold. But this is a dark time and what you can be absolutely sure of is there are better days ahead. On that you can count. Xxxxx

barking I echo what everyone else has said. Hope you got some sleep and this week is a week for getting through - as many nice, distracting things as possible until DH is back. Hugs xx

Barking, Monten and Patience, you're all in my thoughts today. Life can be pretty crappy at times x