Recurrent Miscarriage Support Thread 27 - Tests, Treatments and Trying Again

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Tea, hugs, a wealth of collective knowledge and lots of hand holding as we try again. This thread moves like lightning so hold on to your hats!
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Sorry to hear about the hospital messing up spam I missed that when I said the thread was positive. What an awful experience for you xx

Sorry but this needs to be very quick as need to make dinner, but after opinions please. I think I am 13 dpo today, did yet another frer this morning with FMU as am utterly paranoid about having either another chemical or another MC.

I was expecting the line to be a bit darker by now, but it's still rather pale compared to the control line. Anyone else got photos of theirs at 13 dpo?

Not got a pic of 13dpo I'm afraid loopy. Mine was probably a slight shade darker, but it really can be so variable at this stage. Fingers crossed for you that it darkens tomorrow. Is it darker than the last one? I think progression is probably more important than actual colour.

minnie that is great news, I'm so pleased for you! Thinking lots of sticky thoughts and keeping all limbs crossed.

mrsb that feeling of being hit is just the worst, I think of it as being when the protective shock wears off. Take it minute to minute, put in as many gentle nice things and treats as you can and if all else fails, distract. Ru Paul's Drag Race got me through mc2!!!

loopy tests are such a headfuck, the line is still there and visible to me - think of brummie who thought she was not pregnant til late on. It just depends on when implantation happens. Hang on in there.

Hi, I'm new to forums so I'm not entirely sure if I'm even doing this right. Today I had a second early scan of my third pregnancy (first two were miscarriages last year). Lil peanut has a flicker of a slow heartbeat, same as last week. It's also the same size as last week (6.5wks, should be about 8 by now). Gotta go back again next week, I hate the limbo of not knowing.

Have any of you been in this situation, where there's no change, positive or negative after a week? I'm under no illusions, but as I feel fine (except emotionally of course) it means a tiny spark of hope is still inside me. I hate the limbo stage, I wanna know what's going on.x

Welcome ruby but so sorry you find yourself here and that you're going through this again. The waiting is torture. I don't want to give you false hope and i don't want to dash your hopes. Mostly i have found what my heart told me was unfortunately correct but it's so hard when you're given these glimmers that it might be ok. I really hope it is, but we're here for you whatever the outcome. This board is full of amazing women with a wealth of knowledge, compassion and understanding.
This is probably the last thing you want to think of now, and i really hope it doesn't come to it, but if the worst does happen, it would be worth trying to get them to do some tests on the embryo to see if there was a chromosomal issue. This can sometimes help determine the cause (or rule things out).

Congrats to Minnie, Loopy, March and all the other bfps. Very excited for you all, though sorry March that you've had the headfuck of spotting and loopy that you're worrying about chemicals. Why does it have to be so hard?!

Fab news and what a lucky thread. I haven't been so lucky - bfn today at 14dpo so have stopped the progesterone and am anticipating AF arriving imminently. Not a shock - had anticipated it since 7dpo and been fairly convinced since bfn at 10dpo. However, three out of five isn't half bad ladies! Am I right? - are we sill waiting on Freckle? Can't keep up?

Yup, St Mary's helped give me my beautiful little girl. Which consultant are you under? Congratulations Minnie awesome news! :)

Ruby - really sorry to hear about your situation and the limbo you're having to endure. Hugs.

Oneday I found that once I was in the system I went to the round the day I got a bfp (it was a Sunday) and insisted that they gave me progesterone and a appointment at the rmc the next day for the rest of the drugs. They were amazing! Just be really proactive and don't worry about annoying anyone! I think my consultant may have left now - I found her nurses slightly like the gestapo and they wouldn't give me anything, told me I didn't need it etc and when I saw the consultant she was happy to give me the lot! I found the hospital in general fantastic though and would reccomend it to anyone :)

Blimey - Loopy and March too - awesome news! Congratulations guys!

Sorry about the bfn twilight. This ttc thing sucks

Just popping back as ds's having a nap. Massive congratulations to Minnie on your BFP. Fingers crossed for sticky beans all round...

Hooray Minnie!

Feeling well and truly left behind now...Do you think we need to DTD more than one a month?!

Biscuits maybe DTD a few times around ovulation or just before?

Minnie congrats wow that's amazing news!!

Spaminit* that's good you've got s response back from the hospital, I hope they give you an apology sounds dreadful what happened. Do you mind me asking how old was Jack and when was this?

Teach I've just got my NHS app through for 14 Sept, and was also referred in June. I'm going to keep ringing for cancellation.

MrsB well done on managing to do anything today at all, baby steps and it'll get easier.

Rubysorry you find yourself here but there's so many supportive women on here who can help. The limbo of waiting for another scan is just awful as you don't know what can happen. It's good you've seen a hb and a lot can happen in a week. I have had this wait twice before but unfortunately for me there was no hb. Just try and keep as busy and calm as possible to get you through to next week, wishing you all the best, and there's still hope.

Boozle*I'm going to St Mary's London soon, wonderful to hear they helped you, what sort of tests do they do there? Was it London you went too?

Started taking my supplements today, can you take too much folic acid? I take pregnacare conception anyway but now also added 400mg folic acid as I'd read was recommended

Also going to gym later, try and get fitter! Groan

Minnie!!!!!!

Emerald My understanding of most vitamins is that your body takes what it needs and flushes out what it doesn't. So worst case scenario you're just creating very expensive urine .

biscuits Oi! Don't go stealing my identity, I'm the one that gets left behind right here, jog on and get your bfp please or I'll have nothing to moan about . And in reference to dtd more than once a month - this cycle I'll be trying for a bfp without dtd even once during my fertile time!! DH is feeling totally redundant! He actually asked the nurse if they still had a sample from him they could use, she just looked at me and I told her not to bother explaining, it would dawn on him when he engaged his brain...
Not quite as good as when he told the fertility consultant he'd had a vasectomy (he meant circumcision). He is an intelligent man, honestly...

Right, got to get cooking dinner. Hello to anyone I've missed, apologies for lack of replies!

Haha barking. Sort of an immaculate conception for you then.

I don't think you can take too much folic acid emerald, although some people have trouble absorbing it in that form and need folate instead (mthrfr i think the condition is called). Folic acid is the synthetic version so not as good (perhaps why drug companies sell them to us by the hundreds then tell us we might need more! ). I bought solgar folate 800mcg tablets (as metfolin), they were 15 quid for 100 and i just take one a day. Before that i was taking about 12 folic acid tablets 'just in case'

Welcome ruby I am sorry you find yourself here.

I think I might do the same emerald I am just gutted because I teach children with autism and my appointment is the second day back at school. I think I might ring for cancellations too as I could do last minute with me being off for the summer hols. Hopefully the time will fly by for us both until Sept. Just out of interest have you been told to stop trying?

Loopy I am not the best person to comment but your line is pretty clear and I have heard of people not having clear lines until much later. It looks like the line I had during my most successful pregnancy (nearly 10 weeks), my two earlier miscarriages had much stronger lines and were less successful so I don't try not to read too much into it yet. I have my fingers crossed for you x

Oh barking**, thankgod for you - you really make me laugh!

So this morn i got up, 14 days post ov and weed in a very small pot (no easy feat when half asleep and desperate for the loo) stood up and promptly dropped the whole damn lot into my toiletry box so the first 15 mins of today was spent mopping my own urine up and cleaning all my toiletrys. So, squeezed out a second small pot and tested on cheepo tesco strip and got bfn. Have been feeling old, fat and generally forsaken all day...
Wankington.

I'm right there with you Barking and Freckle!

And Biscuits for that matter. I am left behind

Oh poo freckle, sorry about the bfn (and the wee disaster! )

Hello! I'm back after a prompt from march, slightly pregnant just now (4+3), not convinced on the colour of my line, too feint. Lots of back ache, and general tummy stretching, aching and odd feelings.

Congrats on all the BFPs and commiserations to those still waiting.