Recurrent Miscarriage Support Thread 26 - tests, treatment and trying again

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Tea, hugs, a wealth of collective knowledge and lots of hand holding as we try again. This thread moves like lightning so hold on to your hats!
Previous thread here

I would ring them once more before then onestep just to make sure you're not forgotten. if they are reasonable people they will understand and if not fuck em.

one step I was going to say not to worry too much if they don't call with your results today, as it is unlikely, whatever they are, that they'd result in any action just yet. But actually then i realised you're still having pain, and that you have some dark discharge. I think this needs flagging to them when you speak, if you haven't already, especially if the discharge could be described as like prune juice.

Hope the rest of you are ok. Minnie I am so glad your scan went smoothly. I am shattered after dealing with nine year olds this afternoon (some of whom seem to mistake rudeness for wit) and spending my weekend making cake (I am not much of a baker). Pimms to the rescue!

Mmm...pimms...mmm. Ladies on here have good taste in booze!

Pop**...irony alert - i think ds has stepped into the terrible 2's today. We were awake 12-2 in the morning with him making demands for 'cake' and 'choclit' (think maybe dh didn't feed him properly yesterday...) and today it's been zero - meldown in 1 second flat all day, i am exhausted!!!

Just rung them and was told the Dr's are aware of the situation, there have been a lot of emergencies and somebody will call me in a few hours!!! ARRRGGGHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

Spartacus thanks, we were told by a gynae nurse yesterday that they will only do 3x blood tests and then come to some kind a decision, or at least that's what she seemed to be suggesting.

I think depending on what the results are from yesterday, I will march back in to urgent gynae first thing tomorrow morning for a repeat blood test, fingers crossed I don't collapse in agony tonight. I actually dread the nights now.

Any news Onestep?

Nada!! Guess my results show nothing urgent then. What a frustrating day, up and downer, meltdowns galore, my poor long suffering dh!!!!!

minnie soooooo glad it was good news this morning. X

chrys sorry you find yourself here but welcome.

onestep I'm so sorry you are still waiting.

freckle D'oh! That sounds awful. I do sympathise!

mrsc Wow! Congrats!

Yesterday's meet up was lovely - I talked about you all for the rest of the day!

Hope the rest of you beauties are well.

Sasha thanks lovely really appreciate the support.

In fact every single one of you don't realise how just blinking amazing you are, feel like shouting it from the roof tops!!!

Progesterone made me have a complete and utter meltdown, I was at such a low I was shocked with myself that I could get that low. I was crying so so hard I could hardly see and shouting that I hated myself so bad!!! so for me, it had quite a shocking effect!!!

Good on you Sasha for sticking toe fingers up at it all and dancing on those Soho tables!! I used to work for a company on Oxford St for years, right opposite Soho sq, spent many of after work hours down there!!!

*two not 'toe'

Thorn thanks it's great to know you are just around the corner. Xx

Thanks bootles! And mrsc exactly that, at the moment I am planning to wee in a pot on sun morn then test it Sun eve...

Sorry you've not got an answer yet onestep. How utterly frustrating and worrying. I'm hoping the fact they haven't called back yet means it's not urgent. Keeping everything crossed it is passing x

Arrrrgh flen, how annoying!!! Good luck with whatever you decide. Hopefully it'll take your mind off the stress of testing early.

sasha, for me, the horrendous low comes when i stop taking the prog. Watch out for it. For me it's a seriously bad come down (hence the pity party the last few days). Expect it to last several days, up to a week. I stopped prog last Sunday and just starting to feel better today. Lots of uncontrollable crying. Hopefully it won't be too bad for you

Ok very apologetic Dr just called, sounds like they've had the most horrific day in the labour ward today.

So I'm actually miscarrying right now, hcg has dropped significantly yesterday from 617 to 263!! The pain in the bum is most probably from my poor uterus trying to contract and expell it all. I can't imagine there was much left as I had what I thought was a long period for 6 days over a week ago!!!!

A huuuuge thank you to every single one of you carrying me through the hell for the past week. Big massive hugs!!!! Think I'll have that class of Sauvignon Blanc now!!!

What a relief onestep, I'm so glad for you. I think a few glasses of vino are definitely in order!

Hope you're ok onestep. It must be very sad to have that final confirmation it's definately over but also relief the waiting is over. Will they monitor your hcg down to nil (or close) now? It is quite a big drop so hoping it will be over soon for you and no treatment will be necessary. x

onestep so pleased you got an answer and some confidence, despite the delays. They do understaff awfully on Sundays but that doesn't undo the stress, frustration and pain you've been in this weekend and week before. Definitely time for a -glass- bottle wine and some serious TLC now. It's ok to meltdown - it's healthy and right and an appropriate response - so surround yourself with support and let the pain out. I worry most when I can't cry and don't feel the pain. I'm just so sorry it is another loss. x

Absolutely Thorn can we get a date in diary for all us Bucks ladies to share some vino blanco together.

Crazy, bonkers that I never ever thought I would be relieved to miscarry.

Dh and I just doing calculations...
Prof Quenby directs you to finish Progesterone on Day 28. But, I ovulated late on Day 16 last cycle and my af ALWAYS without fail arrives 16 days later. So we now can't help feeling that I've stopped the Progesterone a bit too early...
Calculating my hcg from the first number of 583 ( it's should double every 48 to 72hrs, a minimum of 67% increase every 48 hrs and min of doubling every 72 hrs).

Sooo counting back from my first hcg of 583 and halving it etc., Day 28 of last cycle when I tested negative it was too early I would only have had an hcg of between 4 & 8, test obviously won't pick up under 10. (Sorry if I'm going on here!!) So I guess what I think May have happened is I stopped the Progesterone when I got the negative on Day 28, when I should have perhaps continued on for another couple of days to get to 16 days past my ovulation, then maybe I would have got an indication and a positive test, then I could have continued the Progesterone and maybe supported this pregnancy, as my numbers were doubling correctly up to my first blood test. I guess I'll never know now though...

What I should add, clarify is, I would normally ovulate on Day 12 of my cycle, since my 2nd mmc my ovulation days have fluctuated.

I know this is a bit freaky and I'm not a fan of cats, my husband has a car called Peggy before we got married. Peggy and I don't normally see eye to eye, but beginning of last week she was sitting by my feet purring her little head off, which she NEVER does, since yesterday morning she has been screeching at me every time I walk around the house. I seem to remember similar behaviour from her from my previous miscarriages. Animals definitely seem to have a sixth sense!!

Yes back in to have bloods done next Weds at 11am. X

So sorry onestep. x

So sorry Onestep you've had the confirmation, of what you had guessed for the last few days. Enjoy the wine, you certainly deserve it x

onestep - on one hand gutted for you that it's a mc but in the other so glad it's not an ectopic and you finally have some clarity. Hugs and take care of yourself lovely.

mrsc - wow! Whispered congrats!!

And minnie - so glad that the scan was good news today. Must have been so so worrying for you.

x

Definitely onestep. I'm pretty flexible apart from middle two Saturdays in July. And of course the summer hols start mid July so very free after that! Meant to add earlier, do look after yourself this week once it all sinks in. Hugs and to you.