Thanks very much for your warm welcome and advice ladies – has definitely helped pick up my mood this morning!
@Matchgirl – That is crazily spooky with our dates! I'm so sorry you have been suffering too.
At the time of going through the first miscarriage you feel like you are the only woman in the world going through it, but as time goes on and the more you speak about it to other people and investigate and find out a little more information bit by bit (mostly through googling your little fingers off in the early hours of night unable to sleep!!!) you realise so many are going through exactly the same.
I've met two other ladies recently, also suffering 3 miscarriages, after speaking with them I walked away feeling more sorry for them than myself. One lady I happened to meet through another friend at a birthday afternoon tea, listened to me as i talked about my miscarriages, answering another lady who asked if I had any kids. She suddenly blurted out that she also had 3 miscarriages, I could tell should looked very up tight, closed and very shook. We spoke for a while, I felt I needed to talk with her and try and help her. I don't hold back anymore, with talking about miscarriage, I've chosen to talk for my therapy and it really does help. Sometime afterwards, through emailing each other a couple of times, she said she hadn't spoken to anyone except her close family about mc and now she was beginning to talk and was beginning to feel a bit better about them.
Miscarriage is such an exhausting and an extraordinary experience.
I have called the Miscarriage Association a couple of times to speak to a counsellor in shear desperation, but honestly after I've finished the call I've found myself even more frustrated and even angry, at the so little advice given to me. However I do realise they are just someone at the end of the telephone with a similar experience to myself just giving their time to listen, but I feel so strongly that we ladies desperately need better support and campaigning to highlight miscarriages and the struggle for better management and treatment.
I too came away from Coventry feeling at last, that the team there are completely on our side and will do their upmost to help you through. At last somebody was listening to my husband and I. I have been prescribed steroids to take from bfp, but I suffer with nosebleeds so have decided not to use heparin. My doctor is unable to prescribe heparin in my local authority as the healthcare trust has blocked it due to a patient death, it must be administered in a hospital environment and monitored there.
I haven't read all the posts on this thread, so apologies to you all if I'm repeating what has already been said. I will take the time later to read through everyones posts.
Thank so much for the support, its sad we are all suffering, but such a great thing that we can share and talk on here and best of good luck to you all.