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Recurrent Miscarriage Support Thread 24 - tests, treatment, trying again.

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Brummiegirl15 · 23/05/2015 20:42

New thread for us if it's worked on phone! Will paste stats

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mrsdiddlydoo · 30/05/2015 15:30

cloud I'm made up for you! What a bloody relief Smile and hooray for noses.

loopy big congratulations! You really are in tune with your body

Welcome Lauren hope you find us useful Smile don't be put off by how fast this thread my moves. We've all just a lot to say Grin

Been a moody cow for the 36 hours with poor dh receiving most of it. Definitely feeling anxious about what's going on inside. Wishing I was a sonographer and could just have a peep...

Loopyaboutmy2boys · 30/05/2015 15:30

Just a quickie to say so pleased your scan went well Cloud. Re your 12 week scan, if you plan to have the nuchal part of the scan then you need to have it done before you go away as you will be too far gone by the time you get back. There is only a narrow window they can do it in, I think from memory the maximum is something like 13+5?

Lauren83 · 30/05/2015 16:17

Thanks so much for the welcome ladies, I actually volunteer on FF So know plenty about ivf/fertility but nothing about loss, the hospital said they would contact me in 2 weeks if they found anything obvious up with the fetus, has anyone ever heard back in this situ? Anyone had any advice given on causes for a mmc past 8 weeks? Hope everyone's having a good weekend

bakingtins · 30/05/2015 17:10

cloud so pleased for you! Grin Grin

longestlurkerever · 30/05/2015 17:14

Yeay cloud! Fab news. And just that Scott is home and your journey is over, with a new one beginning. May it bring you every joy.

And loopy, excellent news. Hope it's your sticky one.

Due date today! Feeling pretty uncomfortable and sick but that's been the case for ages now. Just took dd to the cinema. Was nice to have a cuddle in the dark. Suddenly nervous about her having to share me after so long just us.

Marchgirl · 30/05/2015 18:20

Happy due date longest!

Sunandrainbow · 30/05/2015 19:53

Yay cloud - excellent news!!! x

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Brummiegirl15 · 30/05/2015 19:57

Happy due date Longest!! Shortest is tapping his watch already

#notlongtogo

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girliesaints · 30/05/2015 20:38

Not long now Longest x

barkingtreefrog · 30/05/2015 22:26

Just back home from holidays! Had no Wifi all week! Shock
Got a lot to catch up on and will read properly tomorrow (2 hours sleep after leaving the apartment at 1am this morning for a 4am flight then having to go to the hospital instead of straight home and to bed as my Dad had a bad fall yesterday and broke his hip so had an operation this morning).

Brilliant news cloud that made me smile after a pretty shit day Grin Will catch up with everyone else tomorrow!! Sleep is calling loudly!!!

bythesea82 · 30/05/2015 22:37

cloud brilliant news Grin, so relieved for you Smile

loopy congratulations, hope this is your turn for success x

barking sorry to hear about your dad, hope he's ok and the operation went well. Hope you enjoyed the time away Flowers

MrsConfusion · 30/05/2015 23:11

cloud so pleased for you!

barking sorry about your dad, hope op goes well and he's on road to recovery soon.

sea fx for Monday.
girlie great work for booking holiday, now keep up the TLC.

MrsD and everyone feeling anxious - hugs, hand holding and thoughts coming your way. Day by day the time will pass. Hugs too to those needing to step away - even if you're not reading! This thread is a refuge for me but I do also know it indulges my obsessive streak and features perhaps too prominently in my day... flen hope you're ok?

AF arrived here, so that's me out. Same day as best friend got bfp. I'm really pleased as she's been trying for a while, genuinely pleased. But. Ouch. And it's the month of falling pg with MC1 so I definitely won't have a baby before the first anniversary of her due date. Nothing to show for this year except 6 months being pregnant, 3 babies lost, and one lost Fallopian tube. Right, I've clearly still got a load of issues to deal with about the ectopic (the idea of reduced fertility utterly terrifies me) so I need to shut up and go to bed to count my blessings and stop wallowing like a selfish moo.

Love to all

Flen · 31/05/2015 06:42

BFN this morning at 12dpo, one of those very conclusive blankest of blank ones. Now going into 5th month of trying and starting to feel worried that something is wrong (I know five months isn't long at all for some people, but it is for us). My anxieties are most definitely flying high, wondering if anything could have happened to make me infertile. Is it idiotic to go to the GPs do you think? Was at a friend's birthday party yesterday with so many babies and kids and I just so very, very much want that to be me.

Flen · 31/05/2015 06:57

(PS. Also wondering about the progesterone and taking from BFP rather than 7DPO. Only one more month until the three months post-Cov is up. What do they do then, does anyone know? Just was it you who took longer than you expected to get pregnant post Coventry?)

Marchgirl · 31/05/2015 07:19

Really sorry about the bfn flen, that's a total shitter. Although after brummie's late bfn I still hold out a little hope. I completely understand what you mean about it being worrying because this isa long time for you . I think any change in our normal pattern makes us extra worried that something is wrong. I don't think it's idiotic to consider going to your gp, although they might not agree to a referral until 6 months from what I've heard, but it's worth a shot as it can take a while. Perhaps it's worth only taking the prog from bfp if that's worrying you. You don't need the extra stress of thinking about that being a possible cause (I think it's unlikely but he did say it affects some people more than others). Hugs for you xoxo

Marchgirl · 31/05/2015 07:20

That should have said brummie's late bfp of course

Justonemoretime · 31/05/2015 08:30

Flen, sorry for the bfn. Yes it was me who took ages to get pg after Coventry. I emailed the team after the third month of trying and prof b recommended that I stop the progesterone from day 21, only to take it from bfp. Then after 7 months (should have been 6 but I had holidays etc.) of not getting a bfp I emailed again and was given a telephone consultation with prof b who recommended I ask my GP for an hsg (the one where they flush your tubes with dye and then xray you), which I booked and then got pg before I could have the appointment. This was all after a total of 10 months TTC post having my septum removed + recovery from that op. Hope that story gives you hope? xx

Justonemoretime · 31/05/2015 08:33

So, my advice is email every 3 months if nothing is happening, they should review your treatment plan.

Lovemylittlebear · 31/05/2015 09:14

Bloody hell I might have shingles and off to out of hours soon :( can't help but feel like this poor baby doesn't stand a chance with my poor luck. Has anyone else had shingles in pregnancy and everything been ok? Xx

Sunandrainbow · 31/05/2015 10:31

Oh littlebear - hope out of hours can give you some good advice. big hugs x

flen - sorry it's a bfn. Maybe a good idea to check with prof b about the progesterone and whether to just take it from bfp. Hugs to you too lovely x

Boozle80 · 31/05/2015 10:33

I found you! I've been in the Outer Hebredes for a week with no wifi and no signal so got lots of reading to catch up on. I can recommend Harris to anyone - although the drive is a killer! Will read back soon but hope everyone is hunky dory :)

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Brummiegirl15 · 31/05/2015 10:51

Barking really sorry about your Dad, hope he's ok.

Flen that's crap. Sorry about the bfn. When I had my consultation with prof B I asked about the "3 months" and he said after 3 months only take from BFP so it might be worth holding off the progesterone until you get a BFP.

I think my late BFP was user error and I think I started my progesterone fractionally too late.

I got a smiley on a Saturday night when I suppose actually it means I ovulated Sunday. 7 days post ovulation is actually the Monday start. Well I counted the Saturday as 1 dpo and therefore finished my progesterone on the Friday. So of course testing on the Thursday gave me a bfn.

If I'd done it properly then seeing a BFP Monday morning was actually the correct day. Either way for the moment I am pregnant.

However, worrying myself this morning. I need to ask about sex. Sorry tmi but after mc 1, when I saw midwife for pg 2 I was told to hold off sex until past week 14 - which we did and still didn't work.

Anyway after mad bonkers dream I woke up feeling frisky Blush tmi! So me and DP had some non penetrative fun.

Afterwards I felt really quite uncomfy and it was quite intense. It's eased off now but it's made me worried Sad

That's it, I'm off orgasms - can't cope with the stress!

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patienceisvirtuous · 31/05/2015 11:31

Hi ladies. Checking in again, as another bfp'er. Got it this morning cd 30.

Trying to feel calm and optimistic but sinking feeling of dread descending. Such a shame we can't feel joyous!
I took a test on cd 28 and got bfn so spent day in garden yesterday drinking cocktails Blush and had a strong coffee this morning Confused
Am trying to think okay, tick box for first part of the journey, let's take it one day at a time.

bootles · 31/05/2015 11:50

brummie sure it wont have done you or pg any harm. If anxiety inducing, avoid though I reckon.

bear I think the meds you may need are ok in pg, and it should be fine, but horrid for you to have.

barking sorry about your dad

flen sorry for bfn. It has taken me anywhere between 1 and 8 months to conceive in the past, perhaps discuss with Coventry. It will happen.

lauren will come back later, just quickly dropping in now.

march not fishing at all! - I know how you meant it.

longest you are officially overdue!

I feel like an idiot. All weekend at work pg/ivf/mc has been discussed, just one of those things. I just 'came out' to 2 colleagues. They were very kind and appropriate, so why do I now feel like such a prat? I didn't like never saying anything about it. now I don't feel comfortable that I have.....grrrr

bootles · 31/05/2015 11:51

Cross post patience, whispered congratulations