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Miscarriage/pregnancy loss

Find support and share your experiences on our Miscarriage forum. See also legal rights and support after baby loss.

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Recurrent Miscarriage Support Thread 24 - tests, treatment, trying again.

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Brummiegirl15 · 23/05/2015 20:42

New thread for us if it's worked on phone! Will paste stats

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Marchgirl · 27/05/2015 09:40

Hugs tanny. A new baby in the house makes everything more stressful between partners, and you've got a whole load of other trauma (because that's what this is) to deal with. Please don't write it off yet. Things will get easier once bertie gets a bit bigger and you're both getting more sleep, but it sounds like you might still have some things to work through about the mcs. Are you having any counselling, either separately or together? I think this leaves us scarred and is not going to all go away and be forgotten when we get our babies. Try and keep talking to him,i know that is easier said than done. Does he realise how you feel and how much you are struggling?

Floweroct · 27/05/2015 09:41

Just a real quick one to say good luck for today littlebear I was thinking about you the other day and wondered how you were getting on x

Marchgirl · 27/05/2015 10:11

Oh. I forgot twilight! Welcome back. I was just thinking about you the other day. Lovely to hear from you again. Hope the 6 month break goes quickly for you and that you are building up your strength for trying again. When is your 6 months up and when are you planning to do Coventry?

Jady77 · 27/05/2015 10:16

More hugs Tanny. I agree with March, try not to write it off yet and don't underestimate the power of hormones either.

Catlover2014 · 27/05/2015 10:27

Oz I had follicle tracking, ovulation drugs, progesterone, aspirin and inofolic to get my pregnancy. It was very much trial and error as they never really got to the bottom of what my fertility issues were.

Good luck for scans bootles and bear keeping everything crossed for you both.

Hope booking goes ok MrsD I refused bounty back too!!!

Oh Tanny sorry to hear things are a tricky at home, hugs to you. I agree with others that hormones and sleepless nights certainly won't be helping. Give it some time and perhaps take a mini break when Bertie is old enough to stay with friends or family.

longestlurkerever · 27/05/2015 10:30

Hugs tanny. I still think the early days are just about survival, really. Fun and romance and all that stuff can wait until you're feeling a bit less shattered and all-consumed. Hang on in there but keep talking if you need to.

Pops I am so sorry. I can see exactly why you feel crushed. Wishing you every strength to find your next path, but don't rush if you're not ready to make a decision yet.

twilight - wave! You sound like you've been busy. I hope it's helped to think of other things for a while.

March I was thinking of belle just yesterday. Wonder how she is.

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Brummiegirl15 · 27/05/2015 10:58

Good luck Bootles and littlebear plus good luck MrsD

Should I ever get that (I will get that far!!!) I don't want a bounty pack or Emma's diary either.

Like a knob I signed up to Emma's Diary last time and then got hounded by marketing emails where the bastards had clearly sold my details. Kept getting emails after my mc, despite me clicking unsubscribe. Phillips Avent got a shitty vile email from as they kept hounding me with emails about my " exciting journey " - to which I replied with my journey had ended in losing 3 babies and if they didn't stop emailing me after I had clicked unsubscribe I would report them to the Information Commissioners office for contravening the Data protection act 1998 and the privacy and electronic communications regulation act 2003 "that requires data is not used to potentially cause distress" and that "data is only sent to people who have explicitly agreed"

I was a total bitch and let them have it both barrels. Got a grovelling email from their Head of Customer Service. Idiots

So Bounty and Emma's Diary will never darken my door!!!!

On another note i have been to Coventry this morning and got my prescription. Was nice to meet Kerri in person.

I'm worried about lack of symptoms - I've got sensitive boobs and feel a bit sick but it's only every now and again. I'm worrying about lack of symptoms.

I'm mental I know

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SashaKerr · 27/05/2015 11:26

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Jady77 · 27/05/2015 11:30

Not mental at all Brummie. Everyone and every pregnancy is different. Still plenty of time for you to feel rough as arses. I don't really get sensitive boobs which everyone in the world seems to get. Closest i got was incredibly itchy nipples pregnancy 2. Glad you got prog sorted.

Marchgirl · 27/05/2015 11:48

Not mental at all brummie. Glad you got your prog sorted

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Brummiegirl15 · 27/05/2015 11:58

Tanny I feel for you. I know I don't know about early days but I believe everyone when they say it does get better.

You and DH have been through so so much and now you've got there - it's almost like you've crashed and burned if that makes sense.

Don't be too hard on yourself. Xx

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bythesea82 · 27/05/2015 12:12

Wow, away for a long weekend and I am 14 pages out! Sorry to miss people (my memory is not very good)...

[waves] to the new faces, I am sorry you are here but I hope it is helpful.

monton congratulations, hope your wedding was lovely.

bootles, bear and mrs D good luck today.

brummie congratulations on the BFP , I hope it's the one for you xx

pop sorry you didn't get any answers, rant away.

cloud hugs, I am sorry you still have spotting, I hope you can get a scan and some answers.

just hope feeding is ok today.

tanny sorry things are hard with you and DH. As others have said, it's a long, hard journey and will take time to come out the other side. I hope things get better.

It seems too far into the thread to put stats so suffice to say, TTC since Dec 12, 3 MC, between 8 and 11 weeks. Currently 20+6 pregnant on no treatment, I think someone asked, it was me who was given weekly scans from 6-11 weeks. Something they do at Brighton to target anxiety in RMC.

Speaking of anxiety, I have it pretty bad. I thought I was ok but back at work today and absolutely terrified about my 20 week scan on Monday. No reason for it, just a bad feeling about the whole thing. I guess i thought perhaps it would be easier by now but obviously not! Anyway, sorry for the complaining, I just need to get over my scan fear!

cloudjumper · 27/05/2015 12:50

Wow, I can't keep up with you lot!

Got a meeting in 10min, so just a quick wave from me, I will try and catch up properly later.

A little miracle has just happened here - the EPU has just rung me, and guess why?! To offer me a reassurance scan! I am stunned.
I've been fretting about calling them and begging for a scan, and now it has just fallen into my lap. Saturday at 10.30am, the timing couldn't be better.
I bet they did not see that I've already had a reassurance scan, but I am not going to point that out to them, nonono. One needs to make most of those rare opportunities

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Brummiegirl15 · 27/05/2015 12:57

Brilliant Cloud extra scan? What extra scan

Take everything!!!!! xx

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bootles · 27/05/2015 13:19

Quick update - sac seen in right place with the glimmer of a yolk sac, which fits with my O date making me about 5+1. So that's something.

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Brummiegirl15 · 27/05/2015 13:26

Hurrah Bootles that is great!!

Are you having heparin this time?

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bakingtins · 27/05/2015 13:32

That's great bootles

cloud you win a prize - that's the first time I've ever heard of an EPU being so proactive and helpful. good luck for Saturday!

Marchgirl · 27/05/2015 13:35

Good news bootles

So glad they are seeing you cloud, and that they have come to you! Hoping it'll put your mind at rest on Saturday x

Jady77 · 27/05/2015 13:40

Wow Cloud, that's amazing!! So pleased for you.

And Bootles yay for good scan.

Got my travel sickness bands, fx they help.

bythesea82 · 27/05/2015 13:42

Good news bootles

cloud happy they're being proactive!

tannyLoo · 27/05/2015 14:04

Bootles brilliant start!

Cloud that's an epu to give a gold star to!

Brummie, glad you're all sorted.

Thanks for all your comments. It really does feel like RM is the gift that keeps giving. Brummie you hit the nail on the head lovely.

Neither of us are very good at dealing with negative emotions and tend to run away from confrontation. Sadly I know that what would start out as a discussion would turn into a row. And I hate that.

mrsdiddlydoo · 27/05/2015 15:15

Great news bootles

Jady I never get sore boobs either. Always makes me feel like I'm missing out.

bythesea 20+ weeks that makes me happy

So, my midwife was super. No bounty crap offered and she's going to keep a close eye on me. Student midwife has destroyed my arm doing a blood test. I'm a sucker for letting them practice stuff on me. Must remember that for future reference. Now wishing I hadn't let them try to find the heartbeat which they couldn't. I know it's too early really but I figured the reassurance to be gained would outweigh any disappointment. Who was I kidding.

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Brummiegirl15 · 27/05/2015 15:38

MrsD that's ace!!! Really pleased.

Remind me how many weeks you are?

I suppose I had better think about booking a GP appointment so they can refer me to the midwife. Kind of feel like I'm doing it backwards as seeing Mr Watts on 15th when I will be 6+3

I feel like it's too early to phone GP yet though because they've been bugger all help. Think I might ring them next Friday when I'm 5 weeks.

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bythesea82 · 27/05/2015 15:39

Thanks mrsD
Glad midwife was good. I did the same when the midwife offered to listen at 12 weeks before my scan, promised it wouldn't make me worried, then I worried for 10 days until the scan.

I wouldn't feel too sad missing out on sore boobs, I though mine were going to crack apart when I swam in the cold sea last week! But I get the wish the reassurance, the things we wish for!!

bythesea82 · 27/05/2015 15:40

brummie do you have to go through GP? I called midwife direct to make booking appointment?

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