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Recurrent Miscarriage Support Thread 23 - tests, treatment, trying again.

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bythesea82 · 11/05/2015 16:28

Buckle up, the threads move like lightening! Tea, sympathy, information, support and combined wisdom to guide you through the maze of testing and treatment for recurrent miscarriage. Newbies always most welcome.

Please start with the traditional recap of your stats.

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IFinishedTheBiscuits · 12/05/2015 22:41

I am going to write a 10 year plan in next few days. Places I want to go, things I want to do, jobs I hope to have. And I'm going to assume that there won't be any more children.

If I do have another child it's a wonderful bonus and I'll rewrite the plan. But think having other goals might help with the anxiety I'm feeling about DH approaching 50, and thinking it's time to stop unless I move the goalposts again.

My sister would tell me that by thinking this way I'm sending a message to the universe and I'll make it happen... But I want to stop the anxiety and take back some kind of control.

IFinishedTheBiscuits · 12/05/2015 22:51

Tanny, how are you doing, have things settled down at home (think it was you who said things were a bit difficult at home)?

I actually HATED DH in the first months after our sons were born. The tiredness, the arguments because we were tired, the arguments over who was most tired. And he bloody slept downstairs most of the time too!! He never heard the baby cry but moaned about being tired because the bed downstairs was uncomfortable!!
Flowers

Jady77 · 12/05/2015 22:54

Bubbly and Girlie good luck tomorrow. I'll be wishing for positive outcomes for you both, glad they're both in the morning too. Hope you both get some decent sleep tonight.

My consultation was with Prof Quenby too, plus was earlier than I said yesterday so didn't affect me either March. She explained that the pred will help reduce uNK back down to normal levels and increase chances by 20%. She also reassured me timings for starting meds were all good so feel more confident. Will feel even better after next scan I think.

Just Hope everything's ok and you've had lots of cuddles.

Brummie well done on booking holiday! You deserve one and a bit of R&R can only be a good thing right.

Will be thinking of you tomorrow Girlie & Bubbly xx. If it's any consolation, my symptoms this time round haven't been anything like the previous two ( less dizziness mainly), I'm hoping that's indicative of how different the outcome will be.

Boozle80 · 12/05/2015 23:00

Such exciting baby news, makes me believe it's going to happen.
Really good luck to everyone with scans tomorrow, I'll be thinking of you

Catlover2014 · 12/05/2015 23:04

Lovely baking I also meant to say good news on baby Faith, so glad you're getting the right help.

Jady good to hear you're getting treatment, Cov protocol has had great results for ladies on here and hopefully will for you too.

Biscuits it's good to make a plan, you getting the baby will just be the unexpected icing on the cake Smile

Massive day on this thread. Still smiling at the new arrivals! Fingers firmly crossed for more good news tomorrow. XxX

Sunandrainbow · 12/05/2015 23:04

biscuits - 10 year plan is a great idea to start to get some control back and to stop the years just feeling as though they are slipping away in a cycle of mcs. As you say, a baby on top of that would then be wonderful. I did something similar at the start of this year but more just simple goals for 2015 to help me through my then 3rd mc. You have inspired me to extend the time horizon a bit though!

Brummiegirl15 · 12/05/2015 23:11

Thanks all - I'm so excited about going away. We are away with whole family for sis's birthday. Not very often you get to travel with your own registrar and anaesthetist (BIL) Grin

I'm a little bit nervous that I might not get pregnant at all for the next few cycles, then fall pregnant and then something goes wrong just before.

Well fuck it, that is what travel insurance is for if it's too bad. I can't live my life with "what ifs" - all I can do is put measures in place to minimise the problems should they occur.

Life happens when you are making plans. I have to remember that.

Big hugs to you all - especially Purple and Just and baby's MiniJust and John. Hope you ladies are finally enjoying your snuggles - Christ you've bloody waited long enough for them

Girlie and Bubbly we'll be here for you tomorrow xxx

Justonemoretime · 13/05/2015 04:00

Awake here and going to try to catch up on all your news. Thanks for all your well wishes yesterday. miniJust will hopefully get a real name tomorrow and be able to come off the ventilator. So looking forward to those cuddles!

Purple, huge congratulations on the safe arrival of John. Imagine you're on your back on morphine somewhere tonight, too?

Brummie, a holiday (to cancel for all the night reasons Wink ) sounds perfect.

Glad so many had positive phone consultations. It's a good step forward. Best of luck to you all.

Waves to anyone I've inevitably missed. xx

Justonemoretime · 13/05/2015 04:04

Girlie and Bubbly, hand holding tomorrow. Whatever the outcome (I'm praying good ones), you are one step closer to success or answers. Xx

Justonemoretime · 13/05/2015 05:34

I also meant to say, my placenta was a bit odd, a few weird lobes etc on it. Not sure that's significant? Tiny, I think you had something similar, although yours didn't cause bleeds?

girliesaints · 13/05/2015 06:10

Just, hope you managed to get some sleep. Have the doctors decided why you were getting the bleeding/ reason for mini just early arrival, or will it be put down to one of this things?

Thanks for everyone's wishes. Unsurprising had a rubbish sleep.will check in later today with out come of results. Think it's going to be very crowded in the scan room! X

Justonemoretime · 13/05/2015 06:18

Girlie, thanks, I slept OK, on and off. They think that the placenta was in part starting to come away, and in part too firmly attached. They got it out fine. I think it clearly links to implantation issues.
Thinking of you today. Everything crossed. xx

CheesyMash · 13/05/2015 07:14

Good luck today girlie and bubbly, hand holding and will be there in spirit. X

Hope you get cuddles soon just Smile Looking forward to hearing your little boy's name!

Brummiegirl15 · 13/05/2015 07:29

Will be anxiously waiting to hear how you got on Bubbly and Girlie

Well I'm symptom spotting like crazy which is bonkers considering I'm only 4dpo.

The only two are exhaustion - I am so tired and also I'm quite bloated and, er, a bit gassy. But other than that, nothing else.

Hate the 2ww with a passion - but at least I'm away with work next week overseas and can't torture myself with early testing.

I'm going to test next Saturday morning when I've done 7 days of progesterone and not a moment before Hmm

Purplefrogshoes · 13/05/2015 07:33

Thanks for all the well wishes, we are both doing well.

That's really strange just as my placenta was odd too, seemed to have an extra bit and just looked odd. It has been sent to the lab just because of previous molar. Hope you get snuggles with mini just soon

Good luck girlie and bubbly

Waves to everyone

Justonemoretime · 13/05/2015 07:37

That is odd, Purple. What was your treatment plan this pg? Do pleased you and John are doing well. x

mrsdiddlydoo · 13/05/2015 08:01

Good luck today girlie and bubbly. We'll all be in there with you hoping for positive news x

Catlover2014 · 13/05/2015 08:11

Hope you're well just and purple, that's most odd about the placentas. I wonder if there is anything in that?! They are horrible things, won't be able to look at mine without being sick when the time comes haha.

Sooooo I'm due on 2 July. Is anyone else due before then or am I 'next'? Eeeek!

Keeping fingers crossed for good scan news today. We're here for you ladies xxxx

Sunandrainbow · 13/05/2015 08:18

girly and bubbly - wishing you all the best wishes possible for your scans today. Remember - we are all there with you. X

Minnie74 · 13/05/2015 08:43

Good luck girlie and bubbly that scan room will be crowded with women with fingers crossed x

Brummiegirl15 · 13/05/2015 08:54

Blimey Cat not long for you either!!!! Longest when are you due??

Floweroct · 13/05/2015 09:03

Good luck girlie and bubbly

That's come around quickly cat although probably not for you!

brummie I'm one day ahead of you at 5dpo and also trying not to symptom spot, will keep fingers crossed for both of us!

Marchgirl · 13/05/2015 09:04

biscuits, 10 year plan sounds like a great idea. I can't quite bring myself to do it yet. Life is too chaotic at the moment (not just because of mc, but work as well), but maybe I'll think about it soon

jady, glad consult went well and that you've got the meds started now. 20% increase in chances seems huge.

girlie and bubbly, we'll all be in there with you today. Hope it goes ok x

cat, i think longest is first now, but you must be a pretty close second. Haven't heard from belle in a while. Wasn't she more or less the same time as you? So exciting!!!

Bfn again this morning and I'm back to feeling like it's going to stay that way this month, although it's still very early. Also ended up doing an ov test this am (nuts!) as i had fertile cm and ov pain yesterday evening, which was weird. Also negative.

Floweroct · 13/05/2015 09:16

march how many dpo are you again? I'm glad I'm not the only one that occasionally does a pg and ov test at the same time!

Brummiegirl15 · 13/05/2015 09:17

Flower when are you going to test?????!!!!