Recurrent Miscarriage Support Thread 23 - tests, treatment, trying again.

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Buckle up, the threads move like lightening! Tea, sympathy, information, support and combined wisdom to guide you through the maze of testing and treatment for recurrent miscarriage. Newbies always most welcome.

Please start with the traditional recap of your stats.

Btw Brummie, if you shine a iPhone torch light at FRER from behind it can make it easier to see faint lines....

And sometimes they continue to develop over the course of the evening (have fished many a bfn out of the bin) but then you have the agony of wondering if it counts past the time. Go on brummie post a pic. We might not see everything you can irl but then again we might. X

Well I feel a bit calmer now. Went to sit on top of the hill where I made the cairn for my lost babies last year. It was super windy and the cairn has long since blown away, but decided i quite like that, the idea of them being scattered by nature. I let the wind blow in my face and breathed out the past until my lungs were empty. Feeling like I am ready to move forward again now. Hoping I will be able to go and visit those babies soon. I've let this affect my friendships too much

Go on ladies squint away

March xxx

Have you tried the torch trick? I think I can see something but I'm on an iPad and resolution not great when try and zoom in

Did you pee in a pot to give it a good dunk? never tmi on this thread!

Jady and Mrs D and Erica [grin}

Brummie I thought I saw a squinter on an FRER before I got this BFP and my DH was denying he could see anything too! Hope it turns into a better line for you.

Sun Don't be disheartened. My DS growth was 5 days behind my guestimate of when I ovulated. Fingers crossed for you!

Girlie I'm sorry you are still in limbo - it's a horrible place to be. You sound like an incredibly strong person. I've still got my fingers crossed for you.

Confused my Epu won't scan until at least 6 and a half weeks because they say any earlier and you probably won't see a heartbeat. Hope that gives you some hope.

March I'm sorry about the baby bomb on such a significant date for you. That is so cruel of life. Glad you've been able to have some reflective time to yourself. Sending you a big hug.

Sasha I'm with you on the being confused by all the different protocols and advice us recurrent miscarriers get! I think ultimately you just have to put your trust in your consultant and hope for a stroke of luck.

Floweroct I'm sorry to hear you've been trying for 4 years. I tried for 2 years for my DS and I found that torturous. Can't imagine where you are getting your strength from. I really hope and pray you get your baby....and soon.

AFM no worrying symptoms yet and I've got a location scan tomorrow. I had an ectopic pregnancy in 2010 so just want to rule that out. Don't want to be taking drugs to support a pregnancy in the tube. I think I'm about 5 weeks 2 days but I've had no period since a chemical pregnancy so my dates could be off. I'm really nervous and my heart starts banging away whenever I give it more than a second thought. I've had so much bad news in those scan rooms, I just get scared at the thought of even being in one. And some of the sonographers have no bedside manner. I'm totally crapping my pants.

Hahaha Jady Mrs D and Erica that should be

Yep a pee in a pot, and shone iPhone torch behind it. I think I can see something but still not certain - certainly not certain enough to say I am pg but also not certain enough to say I'm not and stop the progesterone. DP still adamant can't see anything

Will probably test again tomorrow morning and maybe Saturday morning.

Brummie, can't see your pic on my phone, but fx for a clearer picture tomorrow.

Baking, thanks. Scott had a good go this morning but was lazy again at his 17:00 feed. Try again tomorrow. I know it will be worth persevering with.

March, hugs.

Wadsy, hand holding for your scan. I know the fear of the scan room only too well.

Waves to everyone. xx

Hard to see on my phone Brummie but I can see there's a shadow there possibly. Remember when testing early morning wee is the best so try again tomorrow and update us. I would say start the progesterone tomorrow whatever the outcome, you can easily stop it Saturday if it's bfn. X

Brummie, couldn't resist and looked on my laptop. I think I might be able to see something... Everything crossed for you in the morning.

march that was beautiful, I'm pleased you have a place to go and take that moment. You are being incredibly brave.

Good luck, wadsy

Fingers crossed, brummie

I went to see consultant today. We talked about various theories and options. In summary: the evidence on everything is mixed. However he was broadly supportive of the tings i want to try. I explained the impact of these last 3 miscarriages (anxiety post-miscarriage, distress when pregnant), as distinct from the first 3 (a breeze) and he has agreed to arrange scans from 6 weeks next time. I know scanning a baby doesn't save it but I keep finding out at week 10 that pregnancy has not developed since week 6. And by week 10 I'm a wreck. Coventry for me next month.

Phased return to work is going well. I'm arranging th card and gift for colleague who's due on the same day that my penultimate pregnancy would have been. I'm coping pretty well. I think I might be moving towards acceptance that there probably won't be a baby. When I see DS's pals' younger brothers and sisters I just think they get food all in their hair and on the floor.

In other news our chicken coop has arrived.

Good luck for the scan tomorrow wadsy. Keeping everything crossed.

Glad to hear Scott had a good go this morning just. I always found that the morning feed was the best and by the evening dd was lazy. You're doing really well. Hope you're holding up ok and your hormones are settling.

I had acupuncture this morning and my hormone points were agony! Hopefully it'll do is job to sort me out.

blessings. So glad to hear your return to work is going well and that you had a positive appointment with your consultant. Great to have your regular scans sorted too and your Coventry plan for next month. Keeping everything crossed that something comes up there to give you hope for a better outcome next time x

Blessings good to hear that Coventry is for you next month. But I also feel for when thinking "acceptance"

You've been through so much and I not sure if could've even made it to a 6th attempt xxx

Good luck tomorrow Wadsy

Yay jady so pleased for you!

march I'm so sorry you've felt so bad today. Two babies born on your due dates is just taking the piss! I'm glad you've had a bit of time to get away and think of your own little ones. And also that you feel stronger too. Big hugs lovely.

just the bfing sounds like it'll be fine once he's got going with it, especially if he's refusing the bottle. Hope you get to take him home very soon.

cat I found bfing really painful and being pathetic I gave up and expressed for 10 weeks until my milk ran out. I know lots of people who love it though. Totally personal experiences and everyone's different I think. (I'm just a wuss!)

brummie glad you're back home! I feel like I can see something on the test- sort of shadowing where the line should be. Fingers crossed for fmu giving a stronger line.

wadsy I will forever hate scan rooms (even didn't like the scan machine at Cov and I knew I wasn't pg then!) another hand to hold here too.

Afm been spotting since the scratch on Monday on and off. Today though a decent amount heavier and redder so am assuming af is going to be early this month- day 23 instead of 27- happy if that means ovulation is before Dh goes away but also slightly concerned my 27 day cycle, that took a year of acupuncture to get sorted, is now cocked up again!

blessings glad your consultant was happy to listen to you and you've got you're scans sorted for next time. One thing less to worry about. And also good luck for Cov! You have been so strong and I really hope the next one is the one that sticks.

Minnie I'm sure you're not a wuss, I hear bf can be very hard. I have to say I have a low pain threshold so expect it to not go that well for me haha. X

March**, am sending you love through the ethernet xxx

Jady** - very happy for you my love!

Brummie**, i can't call it, test agaon with first morning wee! Glad you got home safe x

Blessings** - missed you, glad consultation went well. When abouts do you think you'll be going to cov next month?

lots of others i wanted to name check - but too tired to think. Praying for the end of term. Have got a little bottle of menses waiting to be sent off to Athens this weekend and leeds consultation in three weeks. Waiting. We do a lot of that. We're all sitting here in purgatory...

Hey freckle with you on the countdown! And when do you go to Leeds? I'm there in three weeks too- 8th June.

March on such a difficult day, I'm glad you were able to find the space for you and your babies.

Blessings they change you, don't they? This was my last go after 5 MCs and I knew I'd had enough. Coventry was the last thing on my list. Hugs.

Brummie I really think I might possibly see something there! Can't wait to hear about it in the morning.

Bootles I've been meaning to whisper congratulations for days!

Just I love hearing how Scott is getting on, and about you being a mum!

Sorry not to name check more people. I'm getting very rubbish at this!

All is fine here. Bertie is becoming quite strapping. We are away at my sil's wedding at the weekend, our first night away from home. Really not looking forward to it. I live my own bed too much, especially with an 11 week old baby in it!

Just Hopefully Scott will get into the bf! If he's having a good feed in the morning that sounds like good going. I had a terrible time bf - I managed until 6 months but sometimes wonder why I did as it cost me mental health at the time, but my DS had a tongue tie so it was never going to go well!

Extrablessings Glad you have a 6 week scan organised for next time...am I allowed to hold hope for you that I think there will be a next time? The chicken coop sounds fab. Fresh eggs from your own hens - how lovely!

March I'm sure the acupuncture will help. I think if nothing else mine has helped reduce my stress levels and cortisol can have a negative affect on the balance of oestrogen and progesterone.

Minnie I hope your cycles won't be cocked up, I'm no expert but I expect it's just a one-off because of the scratch.

Freckle a bottle of menses. I love your turn of phrase, you crack me up! I'm intrigued to hear how you get on. I've never knowingly had chlamydia but they don't call it the silent epidemic for nothing. It's easy for someone to have had it and not be aware.

Tanny hope you enjoy the wedding.

Thanks to you all for your support and hand-holding. I'll let you know how I get on tomorrow. Eeekkk!