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Recurrent Miscarriage Support Thread 23 - tests, treatment, trying again.

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bythesea82 · 11/05/2015 16:28

Buckle up, the threads move like lightening! Tea, sympathy, information, support and combined wisdom to guide you through the maze of testing and treatment for recurrent miscarriage. Newbies always most welcome.

Please start with the traditional recap of your stats.

OP posts:
Jady77 · 16/05/2015 11:06

Bro's not bra's. Although both can be weights on my shoulders!

Bubblybubbles80 · 16/05/2015 11:07

jady77 i hope you work it out with your family.

CheesyMash · 16/05/2015 11:13

Whoops hadn't refreshed brummie x

longestlurkerever · 16/05/2015 11:27

You all have lovely taste in names. I have been dreaming of my dd2 being called Beth (not Elizabeth but maybe Bethan with Beth for short) since I named dd1 (who is Anna Sophia). I was really worried the princess might be Elizabeth nn Beth which would have spoiled it for me as I am definitely not a royalist so I know a bit how sebs felt. freckle all of your lovely girls' names are on my shortlist for a middle name.

Loving marvellous, great and wonderful Scott!

flen hugs. Glad you and your sister have taken the first steps towards reconciliation. Really hope another buyer turns up soon.

brummie glad your colleague has gone. Really hoping you are the next bump in the office!

bubbly your theory makes a lot of sense. It seems to me that hormonal causes aren't well understood though so you might have to do a fair amount of pushing for answers.

Brummiegirl15 · 16/05/2015 11:29

It was definitely easier than I thought Cheesy I did it sat on the loo (tmi alert!!!!) so I wasn't twisting myself around and actually it was far far easier than I thought

But if I get any dodgy side effects then I will do a bit of front and back and alternate morning and night

My 7th day is due to be Friday so if I have a bfn then I have weekend to recover.

I think though testing on Friday is going to be emotional. It's the anniversary of mc1

So if a bfn it will be a reminder of a year ago and that I still don't have my baby and if it's BFP then it will be bittersweet because of it being anniversary and a reminder that a BFP doesn't mean much these days

cloudjumper · 16/05/2015 11:35

bubbly If your fibroids grow during pregnancy, then yes, it means they respond to hormones, which is something they should check out. Mine don't change during pregnancy, which my consultant also took as a sign that they have nothing to do with my mcs.
Do you by any chance have private health insurance? I managed to get mine to cover the fibroid investigations - in fact, it was no problem, and I could have done loads more! I thought it's unlikely, as they usually don't touch anything pregnancy-related, but apparently, miscarriage investigations are included. It is worth looking at this. A friend of mine had a lot of problems with her fibroid, but that was after her DD was born.

flen So sorry about your house and that your relationship with your sister is strained! Family, eh...

brummie Hope you feel better today! Sometimes all you can do is get through one day at a time.

I used to dream about names the minute I fell pg in the past, but not this time. Can't bring myself to think about it, it would feel like getting ahead of myself.
Having said that, we still have the list that we drew up when I was expecting DS, and I think a lot of names on there would still be possibles (well, not Isabella anymore, as BIL and SIL called their DD2 that, but all the others). DH and I notoriously disagree about names, so it's not an easy process... However, we saw the new Avengers film on Thursday, and I have suddenly fallen in love with the name Stellan, so that will go on the list, once we resurrect it. It probably won't go anywhere, since DH vetoed Stella last time, but who knows, he might have mellowed secretly hoping he might re-consider Josephine and Clementine, or Tristan and Oscar Wink

bootles · 16/05/2015 11:38

march I had awful symptoms of deep despair after stopping progesterone one month, but other months were better. Hoping this one is better for you x

Bubblybubbles80 · 16/05/2015 11:42

cheesyMash Its tuesday need to take mistropol at 5:30am on tuesday and then get to the hospital for 7:15am

depression is such a pain its really hard to stop yourself. i always find finding things to take your mind of things swimming always helps and now it summer shopping and sunshine is a must.

cloudjumper i don't have private healthcare unfortunately, however i do work in the NHS so hopefully i can get a few answers. mine definitely grew in-between my scans which were 5w 7w and 8 weeks, with 8 weeks measurement nearly double of what was taken at 5 w.

Wadsy · 16/05/2015 12:46

Before I forget again Cheesy March and Jady and anyone else who is on pred, I have a lovely RL success story to share. A friend of mine had been trying for no1 for a while and had a stillbirth and several losses between 6-8 weeks. They never found anything wrong with her except elevated natural killer cells when she went to see Mr Shehata. She went on pred and now she has two lovely girls and in her own words "has completed her family". Hope that gives you some encouragement.

March sorry about the BFNs, it's such a disappointment. Hope your af shows soon so you can get cracking on the next cycle.

Just Hope you and baby Scott are having some lovely bonding time today.

Bootles it sounds like you're in headf@*k territory at the moment. Will it hurt to stay on the progesterone a few more days just to see what happens?

Brummie and Cheesy glad the progesterone is going ok. So far, I've only used the front but ready to move to the back if it gets sore! Cheesy I am an anal virgin too so I feel your apprehension! Brummie sorry about the awful timing of poas soon. You've had a lot to deal with in a very short space of time.

Monten I'm sorry it's taking so long to get a BFP this time. It does add to the stress watching the months slip by with not a flicker. Have you had any tests done? When I was tested they found I have low AMH and that I'm not ovulating regularly. The main thing I've done differently this time is lost half a stone. Now I'm back in the healthy BMI category for the first time in ages. The two things might not be linked but you never know.

Freckle I'm sorry about your shitty pregnancy last time. It's such a strain both physically and emotionally even without severe symptoms.

Bubbly I'm thinking of you for Tuesday. I'm so sorry you are having to go through another loss.

Flen So sorry to hear about the house situation. It's enough you're having to go through rm without life throwing further shit grenades at you. I find when other things go wrong too, it contributes to that feeling of stuckness and living life in limbo that rm causes.

Minnie wishing you well for your appointment this week. I hope you get some answers.

Cloud Stellan is a very cool name! When is your scan I've lost track?

AFM, got another BFP when I tested again and the line is darker. Monten in answer to your question I haven't booked a scan yet as my last 2 losses were chemical pregnancies, so just want to get through the danger zone before I book it in. Can't shake the anxiety that it's all going to go wrong but I know that's normal. I've got acupuncture in a few days so hopefully she'll help me calm down!

Monten · 16/05/2015 14:52

Thanks wadsy - they did some tests when I went to rmc to ask for a hysterocopy (which they wouldn't give me), including Amh. Not had results yet. Am also waiting for referral to Acu.

Really hoping those lines get nice and strong for you over the next few days.

Minnie74 · 16/05/2015 17:47

Sorry you're having a hard time with family flen and jady it's so much more difficult than with regular friends as there are (usually) so many other people involved too. Hope you find a way forward that is kind to you. Xx

flen crap about your house too, another stressful thing to deal with. Big hugs xx

march sorry you're feeling down and worried about the prog come down. I've no experience but hope it's not as bad as you fear.

brummie and cheesy well done on the first bum bullets! I'll have that joy this time next month. brummie sorry you've got an anniversary looming. With due dates as well, I feel like the whole year is a minefield at the moment. Hoping you've got a lovely BFP to help take a little of the pain away.

wadsy yay for a darker line. Keeping everything crossed for you.

bubbly hoping the next two days pass quickly for you.

freckle it was the English C word with Sheridan Smith- still good though. And bleurgh on the pg sickness last time- I sympathise with you and march. I was sick till week 16 and then morning sickness turned into heartburn sickness. My Dh said why didn't he just chuck my food straight in the toilet and save me the trouble! Saying that, I'm desperate for the next pg to have some sickness as all mcs have been sickness free. I'm sure I'll regret that though!

Frecklefire · 16/05/2015 18:45

Minnie** interesting that my one successful preg had bad sickness. None with mc's - it's got to reflect the level of hcg and horemones.

Catlover2014 · 16/05/2015 20:29

Monten sorry it's reminded you about your nephew, it's so hard. Let's keep hope that by the next birthday you will have your baby and that will be some comfort.

Freckle and Minnie I certainly had a lot more sickness and symptoms this time than with the ones I lost but with all my pregnancies symptoms came and went. A friend of mine had no sickness at all with her 2nd pregnancy but still had a healthy baby despite being very ill with her first. Very random!

Can't recall who said about depression but i agree distractions are vital. I found seeing a counsellor was a great help too as I had some one who was guaranteed to listen to me when I needed them to.

XxX

tannyLoo · 16/05/2015 21:42

Sorry, I had to disappear for a couple of days. Had a crappy few days, and didn't want to bring it here, but feeling a lot better now... Will go back and catch up. I hope everyone is ok.

Frecklefire · 16/05/2015 22:04

Everything ok tanny? Sending you love and strength across the ethernet! Xx

longestlurkerever · 16/05/2015 22:21

Hugs tanny. Glad you're feeling better. Xx

Catlover2014 · 16/05/2015 22:26

Hope you're ok Tanny. We're all here for you! xxxx

tannyLoo · 16/05/2015 23:02

I'm fine, honest. Just one of those stressy times when things get on top of you. I didn't bring it here just because it all seemed ridiculous considering what is happening on the thread at the moment!

Oh, and my girls names that I've never been able to use are Betty (Elizabeth) and Peggy (Margaret). Peggy was my grandma's name and I'd have loved to use it.

Brummiegirl15 · 16/05/2015 23:23

Hey Tanny I hope you are ok. Big hugs xx interestingly i love Elizabeth and Margaret too but for the Lizzy and Maggie

Well day 1 of the bullets. Have found it ok, absolutely no mess with back door. I did feel a little bit of irritation - not much, not painful , not annoying - but like a feeling like I'd wiped too hard with " tracing paper toilet roll from the school days.

But it made me think " hmm not sure I'd want that feeling next to my cervix" so I'm happy with this way for the moment

Hope you are all ok. I'm desperately trying not to symptom spot and an actually glad I'm not in country next week otherwise I'd be eyeing up a frer from about dpo 10 9

Justonemoretime · 16/05/2015 23:35

Tanny, hope you're OK? Pm me if you want to offload. xx

cloudjumper · 17/05/2015 07:06

Hope things are improving, tanny.

I'm being eaten up by scanxiety, it's at 9am. Wish it was over already Confused

girliesaints · 17/05/2015 07:08

Good luck Cloud x

barkingtreefrog · 17/05/2015 07:14

We're all there with you cloud Thanks

CheesyMash · 17/05/2015 07:27

Good luck Cloud xxx

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