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Recurrent Miscarriage Support Thread 23 - tests, treatment, trying again.

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bythesea82 · 11/05/2015 16:28

Buckle up, the threads move like lightening! Tea, sympathy, information, support and combined wisdom to guide you through the maze of testing and treatment for recurrent miscarriage. Newbies always most welcome.

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Lovemylittlebear · 15/05/2015 06:11

Lovely name just :) xx

We got to the heartbeat stage yesterday...which felt surreal and emotional given the last 3 pregnancy scans we have had. I'm struggling with the clexane a bit though sometimes I'm struggling to get the needle to go in FFS - anyone got any tips? Xxx we also just moved into our first home which is a sodding new build and stinks of concrete etc...I'm paranoid about that effecting the baby now and have all the windows permanently open lol.

Hope everyone is ok xxx

Marchgirl · 15/05/2015 06:25

Great scan news little Grin. Sorry i can't help with the clexane. I still have that joy to come!

Boozle80 · 15/05/2015 06:47

Are you pinching the skin? Then put it in at a slight angle. I found sticking it in old stretch marks hurt less. Other than that can you get someone else to do it just while you get used to being a pin cushion?
Cat if you don't have transport and you go into labour, you're allowed to call an ambulance so if taxis won't take you I'd do that. Where in the country are you? If you're anywhere near any of us maybe one of us could help?

Boozle80 · 15/05/2015 06:48

Awesome news about the hb Littlebear I cried like a toddler when I saw the hb for the first time - to be fair, I still do!

barkingtreefrog · 15/05/2015 06:56

little amazing news Grin

wadsy congrats Smile

just so happy to hear you've had cuddles Grin.

cat I think I'd be rallying friends /family at this point, get a few people on standby who you know you can call on for a lift to the hospital.

Minnie74 · 15/05/2015 07:28

little Grin fab scan news.

just lovely name, yay for cuddles

cat I think I'd try and sort friends or family too, just in case.

bootles · 15/05/2015 07:36

just so glad you got a cuddle. Sorry you had to leave him in there, but as you say he is getting the care that he needs, and you need some decent rest yourself. And a name! Lovely. Hope Scott is very soon home with you.

march that sounds like a great acupuncture deal. Any poas this morning yet? I'm out at 11 dpo. However, am slapping self in face with wet fish - for this next cycle I will really push for more sleep, (an ongoing and I believe detrimental issue), and reduced sugar/wheat - just in case it makes inflammation of lining worse (?) and more water.

wadsy great news on the bfp.

bootles · 15/05/2015 07:41

cat others have given all the options I can think of. Maybe discuss it with the midwife?

freckle of course you aren"'t thick! You"re not the first person to get me and boozle80 mixed up. I get lots of people mixed up too. Love the picture of you chatting away to us in the car!

longest hope you get some leisure time in today

bootles · 15/05/2015 07:45

Great news littlebear! For the clexane I did have one or two apparently blunt needles, I ditched them and tried another and it was fine. But for the most part, a sharp push to get the needle through the skin then gentle push to fully insert it, was ok.

Justonemoretime · 15/05/2015 08:08

Little, Grin great news, so encouraging.

re heparin injections (which I am back on for a week), I got dh to do it. The one time I did it myself, I lined it all up, and looked away whilst I actually did it, I think there was a psychological element to doing it easily on myself. Good luck.

CheesyMash · 15/05/2015 08:14

Lovely news littlebear, how many weeks are you now?

wadsy Smile

Welcome little Scott. Sorry you had to leave him Just but like you say, he's in the best place at the moment and the extra sleep you get at home will be so handy once you get him home, nothing like building up your sleep reserves to help with a newborn. Wink

Bubbly how are you this morning?

Cat I'd love to help you out and be on standby but I don't think you're nearby. I imagine the midwives would be able to send an ambulance or other hospital
Transport to pick you up if needs be.

I have a bit of a gross question (sorry), when progesterone is used 'via the back door', how long would I have to wait before I can 'drop the kids off at the pool'?? We're flying early Monday morning so probably going to need to insert on the plane/airport and not possible to lie down for front door insertion.

mrsdiddlydoo · 15/05/2015 08:16

Great name just!

littlebear I get dh to do them because I'm not good at looking at needles. Could dp help? Lovely scan news.

flen hugs for today

Happy Friday ladies!

Jady77 · 15/05/2015 08:26

Girlie really sorry you're still in limbo. Quietly hopeful for the 2 sacs though.

Congrats Wadsy!

Minnie I didn't get to pharmacy until just before 6pm Monday and it was still open (and busy).

Yay for seeing hb Littlebear and congrats on new home. No tips for clean I'm afraid. Have done 4 now, it seems to go in ok, I don't angle it at all and do it slowly, seems to have worked so far.

Glad you got some cuddles at last Just. I like the name Scott

Fingers crossed for positive signs Brummie. Really sorry for the bfn's though. Hope that it's is a sign of prog working to improve selectivity, but still such a disappointment.

Cat sorry I don't have anything to add. I'm sure a friend of mine got a taxi because her DP doesn't drive.

I'm struggling a bit here and I'm not sure if it's pregnancy hormones and/or side effects of pred. Had huge row with DP last night and was scared at intensity of rage I felt. Who else has taken the pred and did you find your mental health affected? Dr Google tells me it's fairly common although normally at higher doses. Hoping it was a one off, but still feel cranky this morning. Just want to run away.

longestlurkerever · 15/05/2015 08:39

cat have you investigated the taxis? Here everyone has to go by taxi as there's no parking and the driver didn't bat an eye last time though I had rung in advance to check. Dh can't drive anyway!

Otherwise you'll have to lean on someone for a lift. I have most of North London on standby to look after dd for me and everyone's been falling over themselves to offer, even if it's in the middle of the night.

longestlurkerever · 15/05/2015 08:43

Ps lovely name Just! jady I am sorry you feel rotten. If it's any consolation, intense rage is often one of my first pregnancy symptoms. I was livid for most of the first trimester!

barkingtreefrog · 15/05/2015 09:26

Just quickly - cheesy - back door is definitely the easy option. It absorbs really quickly and I've never had a problem dropping the kids off at the pool within half an hour of insertion, if that helps Wink. No lying down required! The nurse reassured me that the body will absorb what it needs.

Marchgirl · 15/05/2015 09:26

Big hugs for today flen. Hope you're doing something lovely xxx

Marchgirl · 15/05/2015 09:29

Bfn again here bootles. Whiter than white. If it was just the test I could probably convince myself it was still a bit too early, but I have no symptoms at all and I just know I'm not. Feeling totally gutted as I put so much pressure on myself to be pg this month before the due date and so we can go on holiday and now I've fucked it up. Just feel like a failure today.

Jady77 · 15/05/2015 09:30

That is consolation Longest thanks. It was over something so small and quickly escalated into something huge, the ridiculousness of it only enraged me more! Any tips on how to handle these feelings would be great (other than throwing heavy objects!).

TinyTear · 15/05/2015 09:31

Ladies that know more than me, somsone from my Feb 12 birthgroup had 2 mcs and just had an ectopic... does the ectopic count as loss 3 for mc testing?

apparently her consultant is saying no, as an ectopic isn't a mc... ahhrgh!

but she will be fighting for tests...

TinyTear · 15/05/2015 09:34

cheesymash I think it's enough to wait half an hour...
I used to do my 'ahem' back door insertion before commuting to work as I knew I'd have 45 minutes safe time...

Jady77 · 15/05/2015 09:44

So sorry March, you're not a failure though and you didn't fuck it up. Big hugs.

Flen Hope you're doing OK today. X

Tiny it's her 3rd loss so whilst technically it's not a mc the emotional impact is the same. Seems harsh to refuse testing on that basis though. Hope she can get some tests done.

Bubblybubbles80 · 15/05/2015 10:02

little amazing news

i just want to get this over and done with still feel its so unfair. I just want to get on that plane and recover, I'm hoping the tests will come back with something. i do want to start trying again but i would like some answers if no answers then i want to try something different for next time.

Sunandrainbow · 15/05/2015 10:07

Ladies - can I ask those of you who have been prescribed steroids - I was prescribed 25mg prednisolone once daily after food. Went to my GP this morning for a repeat as an running out and she said I should be on bone protector, as such a 'massive' dose of steroids could induce osteoporosis, plus calcium, vit d, and something to protect my gut. Am now shitting myself. Thought this was a low dose steroid. Is 25mg normal dose? Has anyone else been told they have to be on these other things??? Thank u! Panicking about whether to stop taking it...

Sunandrainbow · 15/05/2015 10:09

Ps. flen - big hugs today. And march - you absolutely haven't fucked up. Maybe the progesterone is doing its job and making the lining more selective so next month when you will hopefully have a lovely bfp, it will be a good un. x