Recurrent Miscarriage Support Thread 21 - tests, treatment, trying again.

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Buckle up, the threads move like lightening! Tea, sympathy, information, support and combined wisdom to guide you through the maze of testing and treatment for recurrent miscarriage. Newbies always most welcome.

Please start with the traditional recap of your stats.

So just ploughed through the pages I'd missed.

So first off, recap of me.

Me 38, DH 37.

2010 and 2012 ds 1 and 2. Both conceived first time of trying.

Sept 2013 spontaneous MC
March 2014 mmc
Jan 2015 spontaneous MC.
Had rmc blood tests in Feb and tested positive for lupus anti coagulant.
Conceived again in Feb, was prescribed progesterone twice daily and a daily baby aspirin, but symptoms stopped and blood test showed negligible hcg, stopped progesterone and started bleeding within 24 hours.

All mc's have been conceived first attempt and all lost under 6 weeks 2 days.

Had hysteroscopy 30th March, few adhesions removed but otherwise clean bill of health, Mr Watts has done a d&c which I think has same benefits as the coventry scratch? Think I ovulated last week so expecting perhaps a tiny smidgen of an AF next week, so next ovulation will probably be early- mid May due to longer cycles. Hoping to be sat in a bed next to Brummie next February ??

Just - hope baby stays put and no more bleeds
Pop- just can't begin to imagine how you feel
March, jady and cheesy - hope coventry does the trick
Purple, longest, bythe sea - re anxiety, even with no previous mc's I worried all through my sons pregnancies, it's just normal, then I worried when they were born! Never ends!
Barking- sorry the IVF didn't work
Brummie- I reckon it's all fate. You get the new job, escape your insensitive colleagues, get a BFP, and can then enjoy your pregnancy without those colleagues being around you.
Enlightened - I hope the scan was good today
Maverick and diddlydoo- congrats on your BFP's
Flen - glad your kitten was found safe

Oh and next BFP will be on progesterone and clexane (heparin) from BFP.

Oh and Brummie good news re it being Mr watts on the 20th. Found it all rather random the way they do it there, loads of faffing around before hand as they called us in 3 or 4 times then back to waiting room and there is a nurse or possibley she is a matron who is absolutely bonkers working there, carries her handbag everywhere, but then once I got changed it all sped up a bit, I was second that day and was let out at 1pm.

Oh my this has made me laugh.

Should print off and laminate when a colleague / baby bomber / insensitive knob starts being a twat.

I will just say nothing and hold it up in response

Baking please keep talking about Faith. Glad she is doing well off the steroids. Hope you get some support with your development concerns.

brummie that made me chuckle a much needed chuckle.

Thanks for the thoughts again, ladies. Dh collected ashes while ds and I mooched round town, drinking hot chocolate and spending money I ain't got. But it took my mind off everything and meant I didn't have time to feel really sad again until this evening. Another milestone reached.

I haven't completely decided what to do with the ashes yet and I don't think I'm ready anyway. Want to do it whatever it is when I'm not in the midst of things and when I'm not so sad and am ready to let go. Which is not yet.

Pop this might not be something you would consider, but I saw someone link to something on facebook a few days back which I thought was a lovely idea, where someone had lost their husband and his ashes were turned into a diamond which was mounted into a ring. ( well that's what they referred to the stone as being) as she wanted him to never be forgotten and always be there with her to share in memories/ experiences that she and the children would have in the future, a physical reminder that he had been a part of their life and that even death couldn't take him away completely. Am conscious that everyone handles it in there own way, and ignore me if its not your sort of thing. X

Finally catching up - should go to bed but Jihadi Brides was too fascinating.

Read years ago that people with cancer hate others avoiding them, and that we should talk to people about depression, and also with me not wanting to feel like others are tiptoeing around me, i've tended to be open with others about issues - including miscarriage... Am now wondering if i've offended friends in the past. Suppose everyone reacts differently so it's hard to know what the right thing to say is.

Barking - absolutely gutted for you... however, this is part of the story, not the end of the story.

Jady - totally understand being petrified about TTC. I have always fallen pregnant quickly, which is apparently likely to be part of the problem, so does seem quite daunting.

Cloud - your post of two days ago. So sorry it's so hard at the moment. Only you can decide when to stop. I regularly ask myself if it's coming to the decision that's hardest, and finding peace after that is easier? Think i've given myself another year as DH will be nearly 50 then... but I don't know.

Brummie - re: how many miscarriages is too many, Prof Brosens said that as the lining and egg changes each cycle, sometimes just carrying on and trying again is the best thing you can do - entirely up to you and how you feel about it.

Maverick - another whispered congrats from me.

Pop - glad today went ok.

Sebs - felt so sad reading your post and how low you have felt. I will get better.

March and MrsDiddly? - thanks for reassurance re: mortgage. Was just worried that they'd go "360 paid to Centre for Reproductive Medicine??? - are you SURE your income won't be going down?" Although have noticed it only comes up as 'CRM' in online banking. And I know we can still afford repayments even if salary does go down.

Hello and goodnight to everyone else.

Sebs Meant IT will get better - IT!! Although I will also try to get better if it helps?!!

baking, so pleased to hear that faith is doing so much better. Hope she continues to improve

pop, glad yesterday went as well as can be expected. It's ok to be not ready to let go yet. It's still very soon and I'm sure you'll think of a lovely way to commemorate her when you're ready. That doesn't have to mean scattering the ashes if you want to keep them. Hugs x

Oh my god brummie**!!! dh and i are literally keeling over killing ourselves laughing at that placard!!!! Got to find a way to save it on my facebook page!!!

Hi all, I've been trying and failing to keep up with the thread...

My very brief stats are:

Me 42, DH 44
2 DS aged 15 and 3, no problem.
5 early MCs, all around 6 weeks, between Dec 12 and Feb 14.
Coventry visit in May 14, BFP in June, treated with progesterone, heparin and prednisolone.
Healthy DS, Bertie, born a month ago.

Pompom waver for Coventry, and carrying the hope that if it is possible for me, it will be for lots of others.

We're doing well. Still can't believe we have him here...

Barking so sorry it didn't work. I so hoped it would be ok.

Flen great blog!

God I need to catch up properly...

Quick post (knackered) - scan all good yesterday. Minibunny even looked to be waving
Thanks for the support ladies - was a blubbing wreck!

Great news Enlightened

Brilliant news enlightened!

How did the mri results appointment go cloud? Hope he didn't Cancel again

Glad all is well in the tanny house. So lovely to keep track of all these success stories, and lots more to come in the next few months. Think purple is next?

Good news enlightened!

Tabby, glad to hear you're finding it hard to keep up, reminds us you have a newborn in the house! ??

Tanny even!

baking That is great news that Faith is continuing to improve and managing without the steroids. Def keep posting about her (and you)!

tanny Sounds like you have your hands full, hope you are enjoying it!

enlightened What great news! Was this your 12-week scan? Hope you have many more happy scans!

Well, for once the consultant didn't cancel , it was a really good, positive and encouraging appointment. The fibroid is actually smaller than expected (6-7 cm, instead of 10) and looks slightly necrotic. The consultant thinks that it has been and will not be any problem for a pregnancy - very unlikely that it had anything to do with mc. No removal required, and no further check ups.
He was very positive about me getting pg again and in his opinion, I have a 50% chance of a successful pregnancy, due to my age and history. And I'm happy with that.
He suggested to get on with ttc now - which is great, and we are already doing so with everything we can throw at it - now there is just that small matter of getting pg...

I feel much better after this - after the meltdown last week, this was just the reassurance that I required. I think I will stick with the August deadline for now (simply because I work better with a plan and deadlines), but I'm really hoping that ttc will now have a 'fresh breath of life'. DH also seemed very happy and positive. So - onwards and upwards (I hope)!

Yeay! Great news cloud - get shagging!

And brilliant news bunny.

Any news mrsD?

Great news cloud, that sounds very positive . Fingers crossed this is your month

Great news Cloud. There's a few of us in the ttc club. Wonder who will get a bfp first? (Doubt me as not enough snagging this month)

girlie Very unlikely that it'll be me either! Lots of dtd, but got the timing very wrong and ended up having to stop the day before I got the +ve OPK. So the chances are quite slim, sigh.

Brilliant news enlightened

Great news for you too cloud I'm glad it's made you feel a bit more positive about it all too. It's so easy to get down about it all it's nice to get good news.

pop I'm glad yesterday was as ok as it could be. Probably passed you mooching round town!

tanny love hearing from you. It's good to hear positive stories, especially about Coventry which I'm pinning my hopes on even though I'm miles off going!

baking I'm glad your little girl is doing so much better.

brummie love that! If only I could have that up at work!

So looks like ovulation is coming up for me soon but do we start ttc? Feels wrong to waste the month but is it too much of a risk with no results to go on? Am I better to wait and see if there'd be a plan if i did get a BFP? I should wait it out shouldn't I? Aargh I'm crap at making decisions at the best of times!!!

girlie I'm also in the ttc club, but given it's not happened naturally in over 3 years of trying I don't fancy my chances of being the first bfp! Never say never though......

Nearly the weekend!!!! This week can just do exactly what brummie said in her lovely image earlier .

Sorry I don't have time to catch up properly, and I'm off to North Wales tonight trying not to cry while we stay with friends and their baby so won't be online until the end of the weekend - I'll be way behind!!

Oo, good news enlightened

Whereabouts in North Wales Barking? Dh and I are from Chester originally so wave if you pass through. I would LOVE for you to be first BFP!

Minnie where are you in terms of waiting for results? I think I would try to hold off if poss as would be awful to miss out on a treatment but I can't really talk as I started ttc before all my results came through - I had the main ones though.

Good to hear from you tanny! How are your other dses taking to big(ger) brotherhood?

Appointment yesterday was good. Diabetes still diet-controlled so unless anything changes I don't need to be induced before 41 weeks. 4 weeks till I finish work. Can't decide if that's ages away or really soon. Pregnancy has gone much quicker than excruciatingly slow 18 months ttc but still quite slowly.

xx