Recurrent Miscarriage Support Thread 20 - tests, treatment, trying again.

[barkingtreefrog]

Buckle up, the threads move like lightening! Tea, sympathy, information, support and combined wisdom to guide you through the maze of testing and treatment for recurrent miscarriage. Newbies always most welcome.

Please start with the traditional recap of your stats.

March, would be great if you were to join the Response trial but sounds sensible plan re Coventry and I would do the same if in the same situation x

I'm so so sorry brummie

Thinking of you today counting x

Brummie, I have no idea about Coventry question... Others might know more?
And thank you Bootles, there are bits I can't remember from yesterday but you've helped fill in some of the gaps.

Meant to say for anyone else who us thinking of going, everyone at the clinic was really nice. Even the man in the car who did an emergency stop when I accidentally stumbled out of car park onto a pedestrian crossing was friendly.
Just to reassure anyone who's thinking of going.

counting - hope you managed to get some sleep. Everything crossed for you today. x

Big hugs Brummie. I know how devastating it is to lose your cat. I lost one last year and still miss her every day.

I think I read the scratch can be beneficial for up to 3 months after.

Thinking of you today Counting, so hope it's a positive scan.

Glad Coventry went well yesterday Bootle and Biscuits.

Still trying to identify ovulation here. OPKs all negative so far. No EWCM. Cervix medium position and texture. Day 14. Ovuview thinks it was day 19 last month which gives a very short luteal phase, but we'll see. Sorry if tmi.

Hope the blood tests help resolve your issues Flen.

march its so hard to make those decisions. Sorry I am getting behind..you have already been to Coventry and had the scratch haven't you? If so, you have tbat benefit on board. Your reasoning makes sense. When will you get NK cell results?

brummie sending you strength to get through tomorrow. I'm sorry you are feeling so low. I totally agree with baking that karma is bollocks. It's all horribly unfair.

flen yes take pen and paper and make notes..are you going soon?

Sorry brummie I meant to say - discuss with them at Coventry re scratch/hysteroscopy, I am sure they will have some advice.

Jady hope O shows up soon..I conceived DS on a cycle where I ovulated on CD 21, and last one on a cycle where I O'd CD 18/19, and my cycle is still usually 28 days.

Sorry flen- Friday I see, hope thrush clears up soon

brummie sorry to hear about your cat.

counting good luck today

bootles glad coventry went well yesterday your post really helped and helped to fill in the gaps I'd forgotten from last week!

biscuits glad coventry went well too.

So af is still really really heavy no idea if this because of biopsy at coventry or just a coincidence - there aren't any risks involved are there? I'm sure it's fine just a bit strange.

march hopefully coventry can help with your decisions

Sorry for not doing more name checks I'm on phone on a train and have the memory of a fish!

brummie so sorry about your lovely cat, losing a pet is truly heartbreaking .

counting you'll be surrounded by virtual reality support in the scan room at 2pm. Just imagine we're all squashed in there with you

I just got the phone call - 7 fertilised!! No idea on quality, I'll find out on Thursday morning. Just another 48 hours to wait for the next instalment... They'll either transfer on Thursday afternoon or Saturday depending on quality.

barking woohoo, they must have had a good party last night. Hope the next 48 hours pass quickly (well pass) so you can get onto the next step xx

Oh barking that's so exciting!! . Keeping everything crossed for you.

Brummie I'm so sorry about your cat . My acupuncturist lost her 20 year old cat last week and was so devastated she had to cancel all her appointments as she just couldn't do her job through her grief. It's a terrible business. So much love and then so much grief. Lots of love to you xx

So AF has gone. Not sure if I will be TTC this cycle. DP and I are at least speaking again though I'm still really pissed off with him. I just cannot be bothered to chart OV. Perhaps in time I will find some enthusiasm again but right now I feel as though that side of me has checked out. Pregnancy is for other people now, my time has gone. So I think a cheeky shag around cd12 might be in order and other wise I'm just going to concentrate on getting to cycle three and Coventry. I feel as though one more loss will be the end of me.

Great news barking fingers crossed for the next wait!

barking - 7! That's awesome news

Morning all! Thanks for the thoughts about my return to work yesterday. It was as ok as these things can be. Only one person REALLY pissed me off as every time I tried to discuss my future plans with another colleague she sat there and said ‘Yeah, me too. That’s how I felt last year,’ after her ectopic and mc. Except NOW SHE’S 20 WEEKS PREGNANT AND I’M NOT. Stupid cow. Why couldn't she just shut up and listen? Or just say 'That's a good idea' etc? It’s incredible how some people think it’s all about them and have absolutely no sense of tact or dignity. And I knew it would be her that annoyed me. And she did.

Rant over. Deep breath.

brummie so sorry. It’s another loss that you shouldn’t have to endure.

bootles and biscuits thanks for the Coventry update. I think the lining info is very interesting and also gives us a glimmer of hope. biscuits did they say how long the results might take?

counting thinking of you this afternoon

barking way to go!!!

flen am interested in what blood tests etc as I am suffering from the same 'lady problem' despite loads of treatment from docs. Do you think wildly fluctuating hormones are to blame?

That's brilliant Barking. Appreciate time must be dragging for you but remember little step further on your journey x

Interesting comments about MC after a DS and then body taking years to recover. Certainly would explain my paternal grandmother who had a succession of MCs after having my dad over 10 years and then she went onto have two further sons. She always reckoned she couldn't have a daughter. Unfortunately doesn't explain it in my case as have a dd x

Woop woop barking that is fab! Hope that gives you some great quality embies to put back. Do they give you the option to freeze the others?

pop I would be too, it's not about her!!! Glad the only bad apple was the one you were already expecting. Keep your distance where possible, surround yourself with the good people.

baking if we're lucky enough to get more than one embryo to survive to day 5 (we've got 7 now but it's very early days and they don't expect them all to make it) then they will freeze any that look like they'd survive the freeze and thaw. Everything crossed! This is like the 2ww wait from hell, it's all split into mini instalments all the way through, and then if I actually manage to get a bfp at the end of it I get to start stressing about the next stage as well! The pressure on that part would be slightly lessened by having something in the freezer though, as it wouldn't necessarily be a complete game over, we'd be able to try putting another back in a couple of months.

Hand holding counting

Good luck with little embies, barking!

I also returned to work yesterday. Today off to a day-long business trip, was too exhausted from mc to consider rearranging, it currently seems easier to just keep to calendar snd avoid the. black hole inside me. I have near to no bleeding, and am worried it might be accumulating within the uterus. Has anyone else practically not had a period-like bleeding after eprc?

brummie so, so sorry to hear about your cat (and what an absolutely gorgeous fella he was). Animals are such loyal little companions - I know i would crumple if anything happened to our doggie. Life is so f-ing cruel sometimes. Hang in there. lots of love xxx

barking yay on the party-eggs! Hoping for good-uns!!!

counting thinking of you...

Jass I didn't have much after ERPC. Was very light. Hope the trip goes well.

Forgot to say yay on egg collection Barking, hope they can freeze some good ones, but also hope you have no need for them. Fx for you.

jass yes - I had a little blood immediately post op, then increasing pain for 2 days, followed by a tiny bit of blood, then nothing till period 5-6 weeks later (which was normal)

Thanks so much for kind words. We knew it was coming as he was so old at 19! But this week we are already feeling raw.

Jas welcome to thread and so sorry you are here. Sorry I've managed to derail myself with my sad news. I had literally new bleeding on post mc AF last time. I barely bled for even 2 days.

Then waited 37 days (rather than my standard 24) for the next one.

Barking that is awesome!!! Some eggs and sperm been having themselves a little party. Fingers crossed for them all

Counting big hugs