Recurrent Miscarriage Support Thread 20 - tests, treatment, trying again.

[barkingtreefrog]

Buckle up, the threads move like lightening! Tea, sympathy, information, support and combined wisdom to guide you through the maze of testing and treatment for recurrent miscarriage. Newbies always most welcome.

Please start with the traditional recap of your stats.

Good luck today barking hope it all goes to plan

sun I would call your epu/consultant for advice. The progesterone and steroids could help and I assume hanging on a day probably won't make a lot of difference right now from your history. I imagine they would say to take them. Every pregnancy is different so it could be ok. It's so hard to think that way after what we've been through. Fingers crossed and thinking positively for you

Big Monday wave to everyone!

Hiya, haven't been on for a few days so apologies for not being up to date, need to read back later after the HV has gone.

Well AF post MC has been very heavy, id be amazed if I wasn't testing BFN now. Can't be arsed to test but I'm going to assume it's a normal cycle now. DP and I are not speaking, well if I'm going to be truly accurate I am not speaking to him. Why? Because he is a dick lol, it was over a bloody pair of curtains but of course really it was about absolutely everything else plus the curtains. So I doubt there will be any sex this month but you never know, I really don't care though. I'm very slowly talking myself out of TTC again.

Good luck barking

sun I would also phone for advice but if it's left up to you I would take the meds and keep testing over the next day or two. If it's a chemical you'll know pretty quickly, but I think best to be positive and give it your best shot.

Welcome jass and hope you find the support you need here. There is also a 'pred thread' on the conception board where there's a lot of expertise on immune issues.

Thank you so much ladies. Will pop into boots on the way to work with the prescription.

I hadn't really thought that I can still continue to test when am taking the progesterone. Assume hcg will still drop if am taking progesterone and its a cp, so hpt would turn negative at some point?

Yes, sun, progesterone won't affect that at all. Good luck .

I'm really annoyed. We were told to be here at 8am but egg collection isn't until 11 . If I had been told I had a three hour wait I'd have more with me than just one book! Could have got loads of knitting done! And I'm absolutely starving, been nil by out since last night but figured I'm be able to eat by about 9.30.

sun For now, you are pregnant! I would take the meds and phone your consultant or EPU for advice. Every pregnancy is different, and even though we are probably all now very clued up on what is 'right' and what is 'wrong', there is still a chance that it could go well. It's just too early to tell.

I've had a really nice weekend and have actually been able to really enjoy it, too. Slowly coming out of that dark place that I have been in for so long now. Really makes me wonder if I should just give up on ttc and concentrate on enjoying my life.
Along with that, my temps have taken a massive nosedive, so AF is likely to arrive in the next couple of days. And I'm not even that upset about it... We'll see.

BTW, I've updated the stats list for my entry:

andcounting, 33, ds, 5 mcs, pg
bakingtins, 40, 2 ds, 4 mcs, 1 dd
barkingtreefrog, 35, ttc #1 since Dec '11, 2 mcs
bettybutterchops, 40, ds, 3 mcs, pg
bootles, 41, ds, 5 mcs
brummiegirl15, 38, ttc #1 since April '14, 3 mcs
bythesea82, 32, ttc #1 since Dec '12, 3 mcs, pg
cloudjumper, 43, ds, 4 mcs
flen, 36, ttc #1, 3 mcs
floweroct 34, ttc #1 since summer '11, 3 mcs
flower29, 29, ds, 2 mcs
frecklefire, 40, ds, 3 mcs
girliesaints, 37, dd, 3 mcs
mimidoddrioni, 35, ttc #1, 2 mcs
Ifinishedthebiscuits, 37, 2 ds, 4 mcs
jady77, 37, ttc #1 since Sept '14, 2 mcs
justonemoretime, 38, ttc #1 since '11, 3 mcs, pg
longestlurkerever, 34, dd, 3 mcs, pg
loopyaboutmy2boys 38, 2 ds, 4 mcs
marchgirl, 37, dd, 4 mcs
maverick79, 35, ttc #1, 2 mcs
minnie74, 40, ds, 3 mcs
monten, 37, ttc #1 since April '13, 1 TFMR, 1 mc
mrsconfusion 35, dd, 3 mcs
mrsdiddlydoo, 34, ds, 2 mcs
sebsmummy, 40, ds, 3 mcs
sizethree, 35, ttc #1, 3 mcs, pg
sunandrainbow, 38, ttc #1, 4 mcs
tannyloo, 42, 2 ds, 5 mcs, 1 ds smile
thepopandcry, 38, ds, 4 mc
tinytear, 41, dd, 5 mcs, pg

catlover2014
boozle80
twilightstruggle
queenangst
enlightenedbunny
leahjane
lovemylittlebear
seekingmiracles

cloud I have had that thought more than once too... Except then we wouldn't have any children. It would be so nice, though, to not be aware of the process and just be in a relationship and seeing what happens and living in the meantime.

barking HOW ANNOYING! That is not great communication on their part. Grr.

Thanks barking and cloud - have popped in a cyclogest although more spotting today so not feeling hopeful.

barking - that's rubbish. Why did they bring you in so early! Best of luck for 11. x

Just a quick one to say good luck barking! I've been away all weekend so will catch up later.

But just had a quick question for those that have been to coventry was your next af any different? Mines really heavy today and more clots than normal - sorry tmi!! Just wondered whether this had anything to do with the biopsy.

8 eggs!!! Only two follicles were the right size but she went into the little ones anyway and found some more!!!!!

We'll find out tomorrow morning if any how many have fertilised.

Woop! Great news barking! Fingers crossed for you x

barking that's ace!

Wow barking sound great! Well done follicles!

floweroct my post Coventry AF was strangely a bit lighter than normal. I was a expecting it to be worse. Just waiting for results now... Impatiently so. Its only been 2 and 1/2 weeks.

Comes out of hiding to cheer Barking! Yay.

Thanks for the thoughts everyone x

That's so brilliant barking - completely made up for you. Everything crossed now for the next stage. X

Right, had time to read properly. Thanks barking for the new thread and the list, very helpful!

Very brief stats as a bit late!

Me 33, DH 32, MC1 8+5 Nov 13, MC2 10+6 Mar 14, MC3 10+6 Sep 14, found to be chromosomally abnormal. Currently 11+3 with no additional treatment.

Biscuits think you’re at Coventry today, hope it goes well.
baking nice to hear that Faith has continued to be seizure free and is regaining ground, I hope she continues to improve.
counting will be thinking of you tomorrow, when is your scan?
tanny nice to hear from you
twilight nice to hear from you as well, glad you’re plodding along ok, hope Coventry will bring you some hope and answers.
brummie Prosecco and sunshine sounds like an excellent combination – good work! Glad the meet up was good.
bunny so pleased your scan was good news, fingers crossed for you.
flen exciting news on the house.
sun sorry, crossed posts with you before, I agree with the others, get those prescriptions and remember, it’s a new pregnancy. Good luck!

barking woohoo for your excellent follicles, all that concentrating on growing paid off. Fingers crossed you have many fertilised little ones tomorrow.

Woo hoo Barking loving a bit of decent follicle action!!

Woo - great news barking. Everything crossed for fertilisation.

And for you sun. Hope it isn't a chemical and progresses smoothly. Understand how scary it is though.

Go Barking you egg machine, you Fingers crossed that they all do what they are supposed to do!

bythesea 11+3 already?! Wow, that's gone quickly (but probably don't think so...). When's your next scan?

flen Yes, it's a tricky one - weighing up your wish for DCs against the wish for stopping the ttc/mc rollercoaster/general happiness. When do you draw a line?! I wish I knew... I'm realising more and more how much I miss just enjoying my life and getting on with things. Sometimes it seems I have been stuck in this vicious ttc/mc circle forever. It's not good.
Can't remember if you had looked into adoption? I haven't read the previous discussion about this very carefully, as I was on holiday at the time, but I remember being very surprised about what some said about age limits. When I looked into this last year, I was amazed to find that there didn't seem to be an age limit, on the contrary, being 40+ was no obstacle at all for being considered as an adoptive parent. Neither were being single or gay. Maybe the age thing is regional? It's all so confusing. And it might all be different now - I didn't pursue it because DH was very clear that he wasn't keen.

cloud Yes, exactly. We have had a month off and even though I've been poas etc, it has been nice to not be limited in the ways ttc limits you. I'm 36, so I think that mentally I feel there is time for me to keep going, but the lure of a life free of ttc...! We have not talked about adoption, partially because one of my jobs is working with adopted and fostered children, so I've got no doubts about what it really involves, and I know it is extraordinary work. Re: age, my ex step mother in law and father in law adopted when he was 53 and she was 42, so I think it's not their main priority.

Well, not sure about my next scan I am in trouble with the midwife as I only booked in last week - too scared before. She has put through an urgent request for a 12 week scan so should hopefully hear tomorrow/weds. Will be nice to have a date... As for time going quickly, not so much at this end but I am feeling less anxious since getting to 11 weeks.

I don't know how anyone knows when to stop trying, I guess you get to a point where it feels more right than wrong/you just can't take any more?! It's very hard. For me, I knew I had a few more tries in me, however much I hated the fear and lack of control. It's just a very personal and horrible choice.

Hi Cloud it was me who wrote about age for adoption. Under Worcestershire, it says there is no age limit but they ask that there is no more than 45 years between the youngest applicant and the age of the child.

So if you were looking for a particularly young child, it's something to be aware of I guess.

But of course if you are adopting a slightly older child it gives more scope.

Sun I'm thinking of you, your head must be all over place.

Flen I won't lie, I'm remembering a life of TTC and just enjoying being together. I admit , I really miss it.
I'm caught up in a cloud of sadness, pain, bitterness and resentment that I simply never knew was possible.

And Christ I miss normal life - but not quite enough to give up TTC yet. But it's hard

Flen for us, any further attempts at ttc will cost us thousands of pounds, so it's a huge decision. Just desperately hoping that this is finally our time and we won't have to weigh up the risks and benefits of gambling our savings on putting me through further treatment that might not work anyway. We both have adopted siblings and my parents fostered for years, so I have no rose tinted spectacles about adoption either.
I've had June this year as my cut off since the mc last June. I think after 3.5 years we can say we tried. I just need to get my life back. DH isn't quite so keen to stop trying, but it's not him that has spent more than 3 years pretty much sober, including hen dos and weddings etc, not been able to train as I used to and sticking to a healthy diet. Not to mention the injections and the painful procedure today.... .

I meant life before TTC! Fat fingers

Oh barking I am so hoping it works out for you, that your multiple and glorious eggs make it all the way through. The decision must be an almost impossible one.