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Miscarriage/pregnancy loss

Find support and share your experiences on our Miscarriage forum. See also legal rights and support after baby loss.

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Recurrent Miscarriage Support Thread 20 - tests, treatment, trying again.

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barkingtreefrog · 21/03/2015 15:30

Buckle up, the threads move like lightening! Tea, sympathy, information, support and combined wisdom to guide you through the maze of testing and treatment for recurrent miscarriage. Newbies always most welcome.

Please start with the traditional recap of your stats.

OP posts:

Minnie74 · 03/04/2015 08:45

sun so sorry to hear your news. Totally crappy to be going through it again. Hope the physical side is sorted quickly and that your holiday gives you some other things to take your mind off the emotional side. Xx

just sorry you're in again but you do sound like you're in good hands. Hope mini just stays put a bit longer xx

barking have fun and good idea not to take sticks! Monday will whizz round.

jass glad d and c sorted everything.

girlie damn sticks. Af is lurking here and I don't know whether to start poas again. Can't face the flaming things!

Have a lovely Easter (sorry to anyone I've missed!)

Brummiegirl15 · 03/04/2015 09:01

Sun I'm so sorry - am gutted for you. I really am.

All I can say now is enjoy China. It is like no place you will have ever been too and is incredible. You'll stand on the Great Wall and it is truly humbling. To be honest, I can't think of a better place to go xx

Just keeping everything crossed for you and mini-just

Daisy I'm a wuss too, and scared about mine on 20th

Big hugs to everyone xx

Daisybell1 · 03/04/2015 09:56

Brummie so sorry to worry you. I asked about G&A in advance and they were happy to provide. The nurses were lovely and really kind.

Brummiegirl15 · 03/04/2015 10:08

Don't worry Daisy if something is there, it needs treating! I've got mine under general anaesthetic so I'll find out what happened when I wake up!

Daisybell1 · 03/04/2015 10:29

Sorry Brummie I've got my wires crossed. You've got a hysteroscopy on the 20th? Mine was also under a general -if at St Marys keep an eye out for the lurvely anaesthetist

Frecklefire · 03/04/2015 11:12

Sun** i'm so sorry that it's happened again and am glad you have a wonderful holiday to distract you. We went to majorca the day after i started my 2nd mc and it turned out to be a real blessing, it was hard to feel trully miserable in a 4 star all inclusive set on a golden beach! Other circumstances, good or bad do have a bearing on how bad the experience can be, i think. Xxx

Minnie**, i am really sorry the process with leeds has been a mess. You've been so supportive of me and i really hope they will sort you out.

I had my consultation yesterday and found proff walker a million times better than gyno at little local hospital who basically just sat me down and told me it was because i was old (40) and more mc are what i could probably expect. Prof walker was patience itself. He let me ask my long list of questions and was very thorough in his answers. I felt listened to and not dismissed at all. I took great heart from what he said and felt very confident in him (he was just lovely actually, could have hugged him!) They took 10 vials of blood from me (i also did the tablet trial) and dh had blood taken too. He said there wasnt much point the other hospital taking bloods the day of mc as in his opinion they need to be taken when have not been pregnant for at leadt 6 weeks to have a baseline, but he's going to get results from them anyway. He said he didn't suspect clotting, as that's usually later in the first trimester than i usually mc, but will see from tests. He prescribed progesterone for me from day 21 (400g twice a day) as per coventry and was quite happy to do so, (though expressed that it wasn't his favoured choice and doesn't think it particularly effective). I'm to call next time i get a positive preg test and will start on hcg injections once a week from then and scans every two weeks. He said that given my age and the amount of tests that come back negative he would strongly urge me to get on with ttc. And af has arrived this morning (first since mc 3) and havnt felt the black mood for a couple of weeks (appart from work shit) so i do feel like i'm at the starting line again! E xxx

Purplefrogshoes · 03/04/2015 11:37

I'm so sorry sun

Sorry you are back in hospital just

CheesyMash · 03/04/2015 11:40

Sorry can't catch up properly at the moment but just wanted to say I am so sorry Sun. I hope physically it is over very quickly and painlessly and it's one thing you won't need to worry about for your holiday. Have a safe flight and I hope you get to take your mind of things a bit.

just sorry you're back in hospital again but glad baby is ok. Hope everything is ok and you're out soon. X

bythesea82 · 03/04/2015 11:56

Hi all and happy easter weekend. Thank you all for the congratulations.

barking hope you are having a nice weekend away, did you manage to go stickless?!

flower or should I say cheese!? glad that your GP is being supportive, when are you going to Coventry? Did you get anything sorted?

brummie sorry you are still feeling unsupported by friends, it's so hard.

sebs glad you are back in the saddle, so to speak!

sun I am so sorry to hear that this one hasn’t worked out, that’s really shit. I hope that the bleeding stops quickly and you can find a way to still enjoy your holiday.

march missed that you are also on the Coventry list, can’t believe how many people have ended up being there on the same day! jady glad you have been and will be trying something different for the next time.

daisy glad you have some answers and it’s given you some hope, it’s a nice feeling to get back. pop also glad that you have some answers but sorry it means a procedure.

jass sorry you had to have 2nd D&C, horrible for it all to have to be dragged out, but I hope that will help you get back to normal quickly now.

counting so pleased the procedure went ok and you are back home even though it sounded like a long day. I am so impressed that you are finding a part of you which can still find good news in something but I am really pleased that you are going to be seen at their RMC (even though I wish you didn’t have to be). I hope that they are really proactive and work out a new plan for you.

just sorry you’re back in hospital, hope they are looking after you well. How far are you now? Also sorry you had to miss the wedding but as you say, I am sure they will understand and just want you looked after.

flen glad you have a diagnosis now, have they given you something to treat it?

freckle glad you had a good appointment, I hope this will be the fresh start for you.

Sorry to anyone I missed, there has been a lot going to recently with testing and appointments. I hope this leads to a flood of success later this year Take care of yourself everyone and try and enjoy the time away from work and maybe even a little chocolate!

sebsmummy1 · 03/04/2015 12:06

just you poor love. Why the fuck do these things have to happen and cause us worry, especially when the finish line is in sight?! Have they discussed putting a stitch in your cervix or you going on bed rest? I don't know if either of those options would even help, I only know about the stitch from a neighbour and bed rest from Lily Allen writing about her two successful pregnancies and how she just had to test up! No educated comments from me I'm afraid lol!

Well my fertile EWCM continues. No blood at all. It's an intrigue but I think I had it last time and then I started bleeding again so I suspect OV is not round the corner at all. I'm not going to start thinking about opks until I'm gearing up for Coventry. Least I feel a little more normal though which is marvellous.

Happy Easter to all xxx

Minnie74 · 03/04/2015 12:06

freckle I'm so pleased that your appointment went so well. It sounds really positive! And he sounds great. Good that he's happy to prescribe the prog too- he sounds open to stuff and that leeds seem ok with the Cov protocol. And that he said to get going ttc. I'm wondering if my last mc was a clotting problem as it was later than my other mcs. I am desperate to get seen now! I figure we're over two weeks from the actual referral date so should hopefully get a date soon, even if my GP isn't able to do anything. I'm keeping on with that route too though! Good news on the afs arrival- how long after MC was it? I'm four weeks after now and hoping it won't be too long! Yay for the holidays too!

Frecklefire · 03/04/2015 13:00

Hi again minnie* he seemed to suggest that he thought up to 6 weeks was more likely implantation problem, 6-8 hormonal, 8-14 clotting. It was opinion/supposing however, and he does seem open to ideas, but backed by research. I got the impression that the top consultants in the country are quite familiar with each other and each others work (they probably end up bumping into each other i suppose in shared circumstances. He mentioned the coventry protocal was unproven and funding had been cut - But i'd still go there in a heartbeat! But he seemed happy to try their ideas. He mentioned thay proff Quenby used to be at Liverpool and seemed to kind of suggest there was still an influence on work at Liverpool - which made me thonk of pop* Anyway, it's been 7 weeks since 3rd mc, i can't believe it, and 11 days since ovulation, so i think i might see how things go this month. Hope you have a lovely easter break. I might apply for some jobs, just incase i don't get the part time. Happy Easter!

TinyTear · 03/04/2015 13:19

Just, hope minijust hangs on...

Sun, sorry to hear your news... Enjoy the holiday as much as possible but be aware that I flew as mc3 was diagnosed and the pressure kick started something and I did bleed a lot!

Justonemoretime · 03/04/2015 15:09

Update: been scanned again, not sure what's causing the bleeds but it doesn't seem to be labour or the placenta. So I'm stuck here being observed but not on red alert. Babyjust seems totally obvious and unphased by events.

Justonemoretime · 03/04/2015 15:10

oblivious (and obvious)

Minnie74 · 03/04/2015 15:14

freckle thanks hon. It sounds like such a positive experience. I'm really glad about that as fighting doctors is not really what I want to do! Good luck with the job hunting- definitely worth a shot. Might even kick your school into letting you have part time if they think they may lose you. I can't understand why schools are so behind in flexible working when it's supposed to be about the best for families. Business seems so much better on the whole. The only reason I got four days was because our chair of gov works four days in insurance and pushed my old head into letting me have it! Both our assistant heads work four days in class though and that's ok- but not for me. SLT double standards! Arses!

Minnie74 · 03/04/2015 15:15

Good news just glad to hear it and hope you're able to go home soon x

Sunandrainbow · 03/04/2015 15:51

Thanks for all the support ladies. Bleeding is really not too bad and cramping has eased up. At airport now so hoping it stays that way on the flight, although have some precautionary maternity pads with me just in case!! x

sebsmummy1 · 03/04/2015 15:52

Did anyone go armed to their RMC appnt with literature from the Coventry Clinic? I'm thinking I probably need to go armed with some info to talk about prescriptions but I'm not sure what to take with me?

Brummiegirl15 · 03/04/2015 17:03

Hey all. Hope we are all ok.

I have a question to see what everyone's thoughts are:

I've just seen an amazing job, for a company that currently is a client of mine, so I've always admired their values and have kind of kept my eye on them. Anyway they've posted an awesome job, one that really excites me and I mean really excites me!!

But is applying for a job when we are trying to have a baby really stupid and irresponsible?

I will get 3 months maternity pay from my current employer so that's a reason not to leave I guess - but I do stay in one job because I get 3 months pay? I'm not even bloody pregnant yet!!!!!

DP said apply to me, but did say you may not get maternity pay though

Am I being stupid? It would be a more senior role - which I may not even get!

girliesaints · 03/04/2015 17:03

Just, glad to hear Babyjust is unaffected. Hope you have lots to entertain you x

Flen · 03/04/2015 17:10

brummie do it! Applying doesn't mean getting, and getting doesn't mean taking. As you go through the process, you can find out more. Life keeps going, all of it. I think it's important to stay connected with that.

bythesea82 · 03/04/2015 17:16

brummie agree with flen apply and see what happens. You'll kick yourself if you don't.
just hope you're not too bored and don't have to stay too long but glad littlejust is ok.
sun hope the flight is ok

Brummiegirl15 · 03/04/2015 17:16

Thanks Flen ultimately what I don't want to do, is not apply, then have another couple of mc's and then be another year further down the line with absolutely nothing to show for for that year apart from thinking "what if I get pregnant"

What is it they say, life happens when you are making plans?

I'm scared though - but it's been a year now since we started trying and all I have to show for that year is the misery and heartache of 3 lost babies

Sunandrainbow · 03/04/2015 17:32

brummie - apply! I think flen summed it up perfectly. x

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