Recurrent Miscarriage Support Thread 20 - tests, treatment, trying again.

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Buckle up, the threads move like lightening! Tea, sympathy, information, support and combined wisdom to guide you through the maze of testing and treatment for recurrent miscarriage. Newbies always most welcome.

Please start with the traditional recap of your stats.

cloud my dd used to tell people she was a lonely child (She meant only) when asked if she had brothers or sisters, made me feel awful

loopy sorry to hear your so sore

Yay cat not long now, I'm due early May, starting my maternity leave this week as I'm so tired

Loopy have a good rest. Hope you are feeling better soon. (Agree with Mrs, it would have been better if you had been forewarned)

purple that's lovely news that you are starting mat leave. Rest up!

sebs really upset for you about your sister and those clothes. Exactly what you do not need.

My scan is at 3 tomorrow. Having coped well for 6.5 days between since the last one (slept through it all). I am now slightly losing the plot. I left work early today. I feel like I'm looking over a precipice at my own destruction. For the first time I feel really conscious that I set off this chain of events.

Fortunately my parents will arrive from Yorkshire any minute and my mum will look after me tomorrow.

counting - everything crossed for you tomorrow hun. Also so pleased your mum is coming to look after you.

Actually just brought tears to my eyes thinking how much I would like someone to come and look after me just at the moment. x

Keeping everything crossed for you counting. Hopefully your little one has caught up now and you'll have good news to share with your mum. Glad you have some support IRL x

that's really soon purple! Exciting to be starting your mat leave. Hopefully you will have a few weeks of calm before the storm of a brand new person to look after

Glad it went OK, Loopy. Onwards and upwards next cycle.

Counting hope it goes well tomorrow. Glad your mum is there to look after you. Sending good vibes your way.

Purple, how exciting! Not long to go now, rest up while you can!

I find out tomorrow afternoon whether I will be allowed to carry on with light-duties life, or crack open the boxsets and start maternity leave from after the Easter holidays. As much as I would totally do anything for miniJust, it would be nice if I could be 'normal' and do a few more weeks at work, even if only to do a hand over and tidy my desk!

I wish someone had told me that coming off progesterone would make me feel very depressed, it puts the 5 weeks after my last mc totally into perspective. I was so so so down, and of course i had reason to be, but like i said to my boss, it wasn't just what was in my head, i felt awful in an emotional way that was disconnected from my thoughts. I think women should be warned that coming off progesterone can exasabate the already very black thoughts of post mc. I am feeling a lot brighter now. Had my second lot of bloods done this morning, am on count-down to af and have my consultant appointment at leeds on thursday afternoon. I finally feel like things are moving forward.
Although pregnant workmate - who thought she was mc last week (false alarm) keeps complaining of how tired she is...she should be glad to have symptoms as far as i can see.
Very very happy to read of the successful pregnancies on here - such bright silver linings! Xxxxx

Thanks just, tiny, march and barking for the advice. Hadn't thought about the come down from the progesterone. Still not decided which entry point i'm going to try out first...

tiny hope you've settled in ok for your overnight stay. Do you know what time you're scheduled for tomo? Try to get a good night sleep (if that is possible)

loopy glad you're home in one piece. I always prefer suffering/recovering in the comforts of my own home. Nothing beats your own bed

counting your folks should have arrived by now I'm guessing. Hope they keep you distracted and give you tonnes of the TLC you need right now. Nothing beats a mummy or daddy cuddle no matter how old you are. You have been through enough now. Will be thinking of you tomorrow x

I feels like an age since I drove up to Coventry. Willing results to come in early but with the bh this weekend i doubt its going to happen. We've tried so hard to get a bfp this month its going to be hard if our efforts have failed.

Going away this weekend for a much needed break. Hope I can hold it together.

Quick check in as busy first day back after hols. I'm knackered!

Tiny- good luck for tomorrow. Will be checking for updates x

Big hugs to those having a rough time & waves to everyone else.

I'm off to bed ??

loopy glad you got through today ok. Try and take it easy tomorrow.

counting huge hugs for tomorrow, I really have everything crossed for good news.

tiny you've done it! Time to meet Teeny Hope it is very smooth tomorrow and you enjoy brilliant first cuddles with little 'un. Goes without saying, we'll all be waiting for news. Willbe thinking of you all xx

Quick question Bristol based ladies. I'm supposed to be going to a wedding in Bristol this weekend (assuming I'm allowed out), but I need to have the local labour ward phone number details just in case. Which hospital would you suggest (or steer clear of)? Hopeful this information won't be needed, but its a possible condition of my going so far away from home. Thanks

There are two, just, St Michaels is in the centre of town and Southmead is further out. I was always under St Michaels and happy there, but I think Southmead has a good reputation. Both have neonatal units. Baking will know more about Southmead. Wave on your way through! xx

loopy ouch that sounds really painful. Hope the next few days go ok xx

counting all my fingers crossed for a caught up little bean tomorrow.

diddly I'm dreading that ttc effort. We really struggled towards the end last time- if I told Dh I was ovulating it was a disaster (didn't quite reach the point of no return iykwim!) and so we ended up only doing every other day which luckily worked! I was really losing my mojo though!

cloud really feel for you as its just what I fear- that ds will be lonely. We had his nursery parents Eve last week and in his book was a bit about him talking about his family and it said M said only his mummy and daddy live with him without any brothers or sisters. It's just them. That made me feel bad enough. Big hugs.

flen great blog post.

tiny good luck for tomorrow.

purple yay for mat leave! Exciting times.

freckle how long after your referral to Leeds did your appointment come through? We were supposedly referred four weeks ago but still not heard anything. And I'm starting to worry! They said they'd see us in clinic in six weeks so would have expected a time by now. Just want to get on with stuff!

Waves (and sorry)to anyone I've missed.

Thanks Tanny. St Michael's looks like the nearest to where we're going. Obviously hope we won't need to actually go there!

just no complaints about Southmead for labour or neonatal care, Faith was on SCBU there for a few days. Postnatal wards pretty rubbish but that seems to be true everywhere. If you will be in central Bristol St Michael's is easier to access. parking equally difficult at both!

counting FX for tomorrow.

tiny

congrats purple on getting as far as mat leave!

loopy hope you are resting and being cared for at home.

Just been baby bombed by a friend in meeting for a meal on wed (along with another friend who's 7 months pg). I really like the baby bomber, she had a mc before dd and was great during my mc3. But I just feel so shit. Totally jealous and fed up. I don't want to sit around a table with two pg women and another who's ttc and who'll be pg any day now. I don't want to be this horrible person who's stomach drops every time I hear this kind of news but I want to be pg with my baby. Not worrying about rmc appointments and whether I'll ever get pg again. MC is shit but recurrent mc is shitter. I hate it and I hate me for feeling like it. I just thought I was starting to feel better too. So f#^d off I could scream!

Sorry for the rant. I'm going to bed! Night all x

Great news Purple your baby will soon be here. Sounds like you need to get plenty of rest between now and your new arrival so make sure you make the most of this time.

Remind me when you are you due Just? It sounds like you'll be breaking up very soon!

I'm a tad envious that I'm not due next. Don't finish work until early June and it is becoming a struggle to motivate myself. While I'm over the moon to be pregnant my hormones are all over the shop.

Good luck for tomorrow counting, nice your mum will be there. We're all with you in spirit too.

Freckle hugs to you and glad you're feeling a bit better. The doctors don't warn us how strong progesterone can be but I'm sure it's really knocked me about over the years of treatment I've had it with it. The worst was when I had crinone gel, awful horrible stuff!

Hugs to you all and good luck wishes for Tiny. Thinking of her big day tomorrow! xxx

Good luck to tiny and counting tomorrow. Will be thinking of you both.

purple yey to starting maternity leave this week! Hope you get chance to relax before the little one arrives.

bythesea did you say you had a scan this week too?

Waves to everyone else x

Hugs minnie that's rough. There are days when it feels like the world is just out to hurt us. It's just not fair you lost your babies and have to go through this. We all understand. Maybe you could mysteriously get a 'cold' at the last minute on Wednesday and say you can't make it. Don't go if it's only going to upset you. XxX

Sorry minnie x posts. Could you avoid the meal on wed? Don't be hard on yourself, it's natural to want to avoid pg women and talk of new pregnancies and babies and I think we've all been there. If it's too hard and upsetting for you I'd say avoid the situation to protect yourself. if they're good friends I'm sure they will understand and be supportive. xxx

Thanks Baking.
Cat I'm not due until 24th June, but I need to have the details after last week's scare and now with the short cervix etc. I really hope miniJust stays put for at least 9-10 more weeks, but need to be prepared just in case. Consultant will tell us just how high risk we are tomorrow.
Minnie sorry for the baby bomb.

Big hugs Minnie it's shit xxxx

Waves to everyone. Sorry for being so rubbish at posting.

I read every night. There is such a whirlwind of adventures, joys, sorrows, hopes and fears on this thread, I need an hour and a good notebook (or even spreadsheet - geek!) to respond properly. Then feel guilty for not actually typing all the good wishes in my head. I'll get more active once I emerge from this dark phase.

Fx for all the scans, new arrivals (eek tiny!), appointments, procedures (ouch!) and 2ww. You are all so brave, funny and loyal - I'm in awe and think you're fab

On a more mundane note, my stitches from ectopic finally fell off today, 3 weeks after. Bit worried I'll fall apart as I'd got rather used to them! I'm in a bit of a tizz about when to start ttc - doctor said just wait for one AF after surgery, but all the info online seems to say 2 AF or 3 months. We've got our RMC appointment on the 22nd April where I can ask but just don't know what to do if AF comes first. I don't want to risk another ectopic but also don't want to miss a chance if it's going to take longer now I'm a one-tube-wonder... Silly of me to worry but it seems to be the thing stuck in my head this week. I've been getting pains, especially at night, for a few days so wonder if I'm ovulating.

Right, back to Terry Pratchett. Hiding myself away in his discworld (no mcs there) is a good way to avoid real life...

Ooo, so many babies on the way, it really gives me hope .

tiny hope everything goes well today.

counting I hope you managed some sleep and your mum is helping. We'll all be there with you at 3pm .

Minnie look after yourself first, if on balance it's likely to upset you more than provide a good evening, just don't go to the meal. I'm strongly in the avoid, avoid, avoid camp with only select exceptions though!

just good luck with the consultant, hope you're able to avoid too many restrictions!

cat all the best people are born in June .

mrsc RIP Terry my DH is rereading all the Discworld novels and chortling to himself. Hope they prove a good distraction. Given that your appointment is only 3 weeks I'd suggest waiting until then even if you ovulate in the meantime. It's worth having had the tests and having a plan in place before embarking on another pregnancy.

Argh, posted too soon!

mrsc terry pratchett is an excellent distraction!

I am still full of a stinking cold. Had very little sleep due to sore throat/headache/not being able to breathe! Nose is running like a tap and is red raw from being blown constantly. I want to use sudafed but it says not for pg women so I don't want to risk it just in case....
I'm hoping this is a good sign - my immune system has quit in order to allow implantation - I'm going to be annoyed if I'm suffering again for nothing!!