Recurrent Miscarriage Support Thread 20 - tests, treatment, trying again.

[barkingtreefrog]

Buckle up, the threads move like lightening! Tea, sympathy, information, support and combined wisdom to guide you through the maze of testing and treatment for recurrent miscarriage. Newbies always most welcome.

Please start with the traditional recap of your stats.

just - glad placenta is behaving and hoping you get to go home today.

barking - that sounds great that four are going strong with two premium ones. Have everything crossed for you that things are good to go for Saturday.

march - well done u on surviving the baby bomb! So pleased you are starting to feel a little better.

x

brummie some more local waves from me while you are in the Brighton area. I hope you are feeling ok after all the emotions of yesterday . Good luck for your appointment tomorrow.

flen also good luck for tomorrow

just sorry to hear you have been in hospital but really pleased to hear your placenta has done so well at getting out of the way. Make sure you continue to take it easy when they let you home!

cat nice to hear from you, hope your fair fertility thing went well. Pop back and let us know…

barking sorry you have been in pain but it’s still sounding positive on the eggs. Wishing strength too all 4 of the little ‘un’s. Hope they have some great ones to put in on Saturday and possibly even some to save.

sun thinking of you, glad the line is getting darker, perhaps going to China will be a good thing and help distract you for a few hard weeks. I understand the anxiety though, I hope you are ok.

sebs understand that it’s not a nice feeling to visit a place in the hospital with bad memories but I hope that the follow up appointment is helpful. Maybe worth taking a list with any questions you might have for the future – sounds like they would have time to discuss them with you?

counting hope time is still passing for you

tiny only a teeny tiny amount of time until you meet teenier Tiny – very exciting. Hope you are feeling better?

march good work on coping with the baby bomb, sounds like you are doing really well.

All ok here although not really sleeping so feel dazed and confused by life! 12 weeks today, a matter on which I feel terror, disbelief and very slightly excited. Official 12 week scan booked for next Thursday, so should be 13 weeks. Just praying that it’s all ok. Think it could be a slow week….

Would you believe a second letter from the hospital arrived today cancelling the first appointment and remaking it on the 16th April with someone totally different! Now it's too early for me to get childcare so I'm going to have to go on my own. Fucking ridiculous and no doubt it will get cancelled again.

Sebs, unbelievable,behaviour from hosp!
And barking, will they transfer the strongest ones or freeze those and transfer the other two? I hope the two other ones catch up and tou will have a choice from 6 Saturday!

bythesea 12 weeks already? I'm sure it doesn't seem that quick to you though!

just any news on your release date?! it sounds like they're being nice and thorough .

jass they will just transfer the strongest one, unless it looks unlikely that we've got a good contender, in which case they'll put two not so good ones back in the hope that one of them manages to survive.

longest, yes blastocyst is the stage we need them at by 5 days old.

I'm now getting worried that I have implantation issues so even if we get a good one it won't stick . I knew I should have gone to Coventry, but didn't want to delay the ivf... They'll test for implantation at my clinic but only after two failed ivfs. In my case, due to the history of mc, the consultant said he would test after one, but that's only any use to us if we get a frozen one to try again with.

Agh!! The physical pain is bad enough without the mind games of waiting from one phone call to another!
Sorry to be very mememe, this ivf stuff is all consuming

Ah barking its just a minefield isn't it! Thinking about all the what ifs. I guess you just need to get through one thing at a time but much easier said than done I know and I'm sure ill be the same when I start my cycle! We've got our treatment planning session later in April so will find out what protocol we'll be on. I have a feeling it might be antagonist like you but we'll see.

brummie flen good luck at coventry tomorrow (hope I've got that right!) Ill be interested to see if you get a prescription for progesterone as I didn't get one but wonder if that's cos I'm in wales and we get free prescriptions. I have some left over from iui so I don't need any for now anyway.

Am on way home from Brighton - waving bye to Flen and Bythesea - 12 weeks already, crikey where has the time gone.

Fingers crossed Barking for Saturday - really hope they are ok.

I survived yesterday, I agree longest something about the sea feels very cathartic

I'm excited by Coventry I must admit. I'm disappointed I can't go for it next cycle due to hystereoscopy but next cycle and TTC is getting closer.

Floweroct will defo report back. Will be asking how I get the progesterone and heparin. Mr W has already said I need to be on it so hopefully not an issue

Waves to all

barking - don't apologise hun, ttc is a complete mind fuck and I can only imagine the waiting must be so much worse when there is so much resting on this ivf cycle. Rooting for you for Saturday.

Good luck for coventry tomorrow brummie and flen - hope you come away sorted out with some next steps.

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barking totally understand that each step forward brings anxiety about the next stage but your womb lining looks good and the embryo will already have been screened to be the healthiest available so it's a different scenario from before. Everything crossed for Saturday and beyond. How is the pain today?

Good luck for coventry tomorrow brummie and flen. Will you bump into each other?

12 weeks by the sea congratulations!

Ps tiny how are you doing? All ready?

barking you just described the 'damned of you do, damned if you don't' state that is the world of unexplained RMC. Your little embryos sound fab. Go eggs. Go eggs.

just don't worry about derailing. This thread goes beyond 12 weeks! Good work getting those injections done.

Good luck brummie and flen

Thank you for your thoughts bootles, bythesea and others. So far I have been coping fine with this wait. The only real reassurance comes from a 12 week scan. In the meantime I'll settle for not miscarrying today. DH can't come next Tuesday so my Mum will meet me at the hospital. I'm sleeping a lot though, I feel pretty exhausted by everything so I go to bed at 8 these days.

I think we will have frozen pizza for tea tonight.

Just re-read your post bythesea. It's great to hear. You've got this far. Ace.

counting - being knackered sounds very positive!

bythesea - 12 weeks already (sorry - probably feels like a lifetime to you). That's great news. Sending you every best wish for the scan next week.

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Did anyone attend the RMC and actually have some issues flagged? I'm shitting myself that the foetus will be found to have some genetic issue that could be affecting my son also without any signs so far. I feel totally sick with worry

Ah barking, sorry you're going through such a worrying time. Totally understandable that you are anxious about the whole process and we're all here for you. I would try not to worry about not doing Coventry. You are on progesterone and heparin anyway right? So that's the treatment that everyone gets. Plus if you have a clotting diagnosis (hope I'm remembering that right), then it's most likely that is what caused your previous losses and hopefully with your current protocol that should sort that out. I know there are still a lot of stressful steps ahead but you're doing really well so far and it all looks very positive. Good eggs, good lining and good treatment plan means it all looks very hopeful

Glad you're having some tiredness counting. That's a good sign. Keeping fingers crossed for Tuesday

Thanks gals. Zzzzzz

sebs sorry it's so stressful with the appt and the room and all. I can see why you're worrying but I really don't think that it's at all likely. It's awful to wait.
march you handled your colleagues really well, you are right, it does show progress.

Sebs I had a Turner syndrome diagnosis for baby #3, but most of those kinds of diagnoses are single, one off genetic events, and don't affect you, dh or any other children. Try not to worry.
Bythesea, well done on getting to 12 weeks!
Counting, tiredness a very good sign. Enjoy your carbs and early nights.
Barking, I agree that if you're getting the progesterone and heparin anyway, you're on to a good thing even without Coventry. Good luck to you and your lovely embies!
Thanks for your well wishes. I'm resting at home now, with a consultant appointment on Tuesday.

Way to go counting! Check out the strength of attitude.

sebs they are testing the foetus for chromosomal abnormalities. I would say it's really, really unlikely that your ds could have something like that and you not know. Absolute worst case is that he is a carrier oc something and could face similar issues to you but as just says most are one off random events. Most of the ladies on this thread who have had a finding of chromosomal abnormality have taken some comfort from it as it really was bad luck and unlikely to recur. If there are no issues then it looks more likely to be an immune or clotting type of issue.

Ok so this is very me me me! Will go back and read thread in a bit but had to get this off my chest!

So third day back at work today- my boss tells me I have a lesson observation linked to my performance management on Monday; that she wants all my levels for my class in by tonight (even though I haven't taught them for three weeks); and that the lady I job share with is not doing a good job and it's my fault and 'it will be on your head at the end of the day'

I wish I'd never gone back! Sorry that this means nothing to anyone but me but I would have just liked her to give a little sympathy and maybe wait till after Easter to pile the stress back on! Fecking stress screwed up my cycles last year- I'll never get pg again at this rate. Spent a lot of time thinking of the baby and crying in my stock cupboard today!

Sorry for that rant! Feel a bit better now- off to have dinner, chocolate and catch up with the thread!

Minnie, that's outrageous! I'd get signed off, and get the GP to cite work as the reason. And seek Union support. Good luck. xx

Yes I agree! Not on at all minnie. It's on her head, she is the head.

Aargh just lost all my comments! Stupid phone!

just glad you're on the home run. Urgh to the injections.

march glad the chat helped you feel stronger. Definite progress!

barking such a stressful time. It must feel like Saturday is miles away. You've done so fantastically well, not long to go till those healthy little embies are snuggling in that juicy lining!

bythesea yay for 12 weeks!

sebs try not to worry, I'm sure your little boy is just fine even if there was a chromosome issue this time. When did you say your appointment was? Will you have someone with you?

counting tiredness is really good sign! Sweet dreams!

brummie and flen good luck tomorrow. Looking forward to hearing more positive stories from Coventry.

sun thinking of you. Hope you're feeling ok.

Oh minnie how horrible! I think seeking union advice is good advice and getting your GP in on knowing how hard things are. Education is so horribly demanding sometimes.

Thanks just and longest for the support. Apparently it's because its a job share and not two part time posts which means I'm responsible for her failure. She hates me job sharing though so is probably trying to force me either out or back to full time!

That sounds totally ridiculous minnie! How can she blame you for someone else being shit? completely nonsensicle. Sounds like a total bitch riding you like that when you're only just back. I hope you are able to get some support. What is your job share saying to it? Has she been disciplined?