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Recurrent Miscarriage Support Thread 19 - tests, treatment, trying again.

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bythesea82 · 06/03/2015 12:07

Buckle up, the threads move like lightening! Tea, sympathy, information, support and combined wisdom to guide you through the maze of testing and treatment for recurrent miscarriage. Newbies always most welcome.

Please start with the traditional recap of your stats.

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Flower29 · 15/03/2015 20:42

Step away from fb brummie! It's only full of c**ts trying to shove in everyone's face how amazing their lives are (when in reality it's just boring and they have issues with acceptance and needing to impress people they don't know-imo!!).

(Btw I'm in a bad mood! Hubby just told sil yet again I'm 'fine' do had to tell him off, yet again! Angry)

Someone recently referred to a prof who was onto the theory of immune issues post birth of a son but I've been scrolling back and can't find the name. Can anyone help please? Would like to google and find out a bit more. Ta x

IFinishedTheBiscuits · 15/03/2015 20:48

Flower29 - Dr Braverman? (Thanks Bootles.)

bakingtins · 15/03/2015 20:50

Or march posted a link to a PDF about it on page 20...

IFinishedTheBiscuits · 15/03/2015 20:54

Brummie, FB is a load of bollocks. I know people who appeared to be the happiest couple ever on FB who were on the verge of divorce behind closed doors.
Announcements are one thing. "Luckiest girl in the world", "most amazing husband" etc.... I'm always suspicious.

Monten · 15/03/2015 23:03

FB is the devil's work.

Just spent half an hour googling 'clearblue digi 14dpo bfn but pregnant'..... I really need to get a grip.

IFinishedTheBiscuits · 15/03/2015 23:21

Monten, I've done the same. And obsessively researched likelihood of miscarriage after spotting. And likelihood of having miscarried a single twin and still being pregnant.
And as for the number of times I've absolutely convinced myself that I'm pregnant due to obvious signs and been wrong... And I still do it all over again the next month.

ThePopAndCry · 16/03/2015 00:03

freckle minnie I don't know if Leeds will be open to Coventry advice as when I went to Leeds last summer I wasn't looking to do it. I can only hope they will be as I really feel Coventry is going to provide some much needed answers and want Leeds to be supportive of my decision to go there. And if there's 3 of us asking then surely they'll have to be! Regarding the appt. waiting time, I can't remember exactly but I asked the rcm nurse directly when I was in the hospital last June and my appt came through for the middle of August. So maybe about 7/8 weeks in all? I would say it's well worth chasing up, though if you feel time is ticking by.

Have had a tricky Mother's Day to say the least, at once so grateful for ds and so sad I lost dd. And (get this for bad timing) we have her funeral tomorrow. And (just to put the knife in) my first AF since losing her has arrived this evening. I really hope the wheel of fate is turning now as I don't think I can cope with any more heavily symbolic things happening all at once. Life is incredibly shitty sometimes.

We have chosen three songs for her, and I've written her a letter which was a truly heartbreaking thing to have to do. I hope I do her justice. How can something become some cruelly the opposite of what it was supposed to be?

Minnie74 · 16/03/2015 07:03

Oh pop that is unimaginably painful. I'm sure you will absolutely do your little angel justice. I will be thinking of you and your family today. Lots of love and strength Flowers x

Marchgirl · 16/03/2015 07:06

Massive hugs and handholding for today pop, i can only imagine how hard this must be. Hopefully you will feel some closure after today and that your littley is at peace x

Marchgirl · 16/03/2015 07:11

Good luck for the growth scan today longest, and good luck for Coventry floweroct, let us know how you get on

Frecklefire · 16/03/2015 07:16

Pop - am offering up a prayer for yoy today. Sending you a blanket of love and a breastplate of strength xxxx

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bythesea82 · 16/03/2015 07:21

pop thoughts are with you and your family today Flowers

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Brummiegirl15 · 16/03/2015 07:21

Longest and Floweroct good luck today.

Pop Flowers thinking of you today xx

So cd 7 and the Merry go round of opk's starts again. Really hoping I ovulate this week so I can do Coventry next Friday otherwise I'm then on hols and it's Easter and I would miss that window

Monten · 16/03/2015 07:24

Thimking of you today pop - and another blanket of love and breastplate of strength. Flowers

Flower29 · 16/03/2015 07:36

My thoughts are with you today Pop. I'm sure your letter will do your daughter justice. I hope everything goes to plan and you find the strength to get through today. FlowersFlowersFlowers

Flower29 · 16/03/2015 07:41

monten sorry af may be on the way, you must be so frustrated. Don't blame you for googling, it's too hard to resist!

Good luck today longest and floweroct!

brummie hope ovulation happens this week for you so you can get booked into Coventry!

longestlurkerever · 16/03/2015 07:51

Thinking of you today pop Flowers

Justonemoretime · 16/03/2015 07:52

Pop, thinking of you today.
Longest, good luck today with the scan.

Justonemoretime · 16/03/2015 07:53

Hope Coventry goes well, Floweroct.

Floweroct · 16/03/2015 08:09

Thanks everyone

pop big hugs for today, can't imagine what you're going through xx

monten sorry it looks like af is here

Leahjane · 16/03/2015 09:06

Morning all, we made it past that day..! Well done! Big pats on backs!
Pop thinking of you today. Love and light x
Longest and floweroct* Good luck for today.
And regarding FB I came off a long time ago when SIL's were both pregnant with the same due dates as MC 1 and MC 2 I couldn't handle it being all splashed over FB and with MIL cooing about how precious her grandchildren are! Angry
Just a quick question as well. I have had 3 cycles since the late loss of Violet-Jane and gone back to a normal for me 34ish day cycle. Yesterday, however on cd 24 I started spotting.. I was starting to hope that with all of your wisdom and these trials I might eventually get there but now I'm worrying. Do you think it's just my body saying you're still not fully recovered?

sebsmummy1 · 16/03/2015 10:34

Massive hugs for today Pop

leah I have always read that pre AF spotting is hormonal. Spotting can also be implantation.

Funny day for me today and I think it's linked with being non productive. When I'm busy i am fine, when I have plans and goals I am fine. When I am milling around the house waiting for my sons pre school session to start and instructing the decorator as though I am some bloody Princess I am not good. I feel shit and I've just fallen off my gluten free diet by stuffing my face with cake. So I feel pointless, worthless, broken, old AND disgusting. Not bad going for 10.30 in the morning Confused

Leahjane · 16/03/2015 10:58

Thanks sebsmummy definitely not implantation unless there is a second baby Jesus on its way! My shopping at boots atm consists of the most contradictory shopping basket ever, pre pregnancy vitamins for me, conception vitamins for DH and then condoms for good measure! I too am having a bad day, currently fighting back the tears sat on reception is so not a good look! Don't beat yourself up, today is a bad day but tomorrow can only be better. I always find a walk in the fresh air helps me which will burn off the calories from the cake, right ;) x

Flower29 · 16/03/2015 11:02

Leahjane sorry I don't know much about spotting before af. The only thing I can think of is implantation as sebs already mentioned. Is there a chance you could be pg?

Sebs sorry you're feeling shit again. There's nothing wrong with eating lots of cake, we all need to do it at some point, don't feel guilty, eating a bit of cake isn't going to make a difference to you in the grand scheme of your whole life.
Regarding the decorator, well someone needs to direct them otherwise they wouldn't do it properly. You're not being a princess, you're taking control and organising.
Sorry reading this back I think it sounds harsh but I don't mean it to be, just trying to put it into perspective.
Is there another piece of furniture you can refurb or something to start a new project?
This feeling will pass. X

Brummiegirl15 · 16/03/2015 11:26

Sebs I got upset in Oasis yesterday trying on clothes because I felt old and broken.

I also have DP a really hard time on Saturday night about us not being married. He was out on a boys piss up and I joined them after my boozy lunch. He was getting teased about us not being married and I took it really personally about us not being married and behaved really childishly. I know I did and feel quite ashamed of myself Sad

It does really bother me we aren't married bit I think it's the emotional toll of the situation that's upsetting me, and the mc's are something I can't control as we are at the mercy of the NHS / my hormones so I want something in our life to not be about heartache.

I feel us getting married is happiness that I can control and despite the mc's we will still have each other and I don't want our life to be defined by it.

So I acted like a spoilt brat on Saturday night but i know why , because I feel so heartbroken and angry about our babies that it's easier to blame something else

Not sure what I can do to make it up to DP apart from telling him that I love him very much