Recurrent Miscarriage Support Thread 19 - tests, treatment, trying again.

[bythesea82]

Buckle up, the threads move like lightening! Tea, sympathy, information, support and combined wisdom to guide you through the maze of testing and treatment for recurrent miscarriage. Newbies always most welcome.

Please start with the traditional recap of your stats.

Thanks girlie, Ive been looking at the response trial thread. I think it's something I want to do...but will probably have to wait for all my blood tests to come back after my most recent loss. Not sure how long that will be. Everything takes ages and I'm impatient!

Quick rant: my mum has gone down to see my pregnant sister because she has a chest infection and needs help with her 18 month old. A few weeks' ago when I asked for a bit of help because of feeling anxious and not managing, my mum told me that she wasn't able to come and see me this weekend because she had too much on.

Happy mother's day.

Grr.

Struggling to keep up but just wanted to say I'm thinking off all you lovely ladies on Mother's Day. Despite our losses we are and always will be mums to the Angels we have lost. Hugs xxxx

Sorry flen, big hug for you. That's sounds a bit shitty. Rant away as much as you need! X

hi queen, I'm on the Response Trial and there's a thread on the TRC board you're welcome to join us on. (I did start one on this board, with a typo in the title - oops) but the TTC one is the active one.
Two of us are pregnant one is ttc. And ask anything you like.
Hoping everyone is peering through this shitty day ok.
I'm throwing a bit of a pity party as I don't have a mum, this should've been my first as a mum, it's also the due date of my second loss and although I'm currently knocked up I had that chromosomal abnormality bombshell on Friday. So Mother's Day can all kinds of fuck off.
Roll on tomorrow!

sizethree
Flowers for you, your babies and your mum who's not here. X

Hi girls. Having a pretty good day here although if I describe it you wouldn't think so.

My two year old appeared downstairs this morning, prompted by DP, holding a present and card and toddled up to me clutching it. Was extremely cute. I had a lovely photo card, present and frothy coffee. Then they've pissed off out for the day to my MIL and I am at home alone #drumroll# cleaning lol. I love it. I did have a cry sending them off as I have massive anxiety post MC that they are going to die in a car crash enroute and leave me on my own. But thankfully they have arrived safely and I am cleaning the house within an inch of it's life. Decorator coming in the morning to do the Master bedroom and DS's room and I finished my DIY project and it is in the downstairs bog looking fabulous

It will be three weeks on Tues post MC and I have to admit I do feel better. Not light of mind but definitely more accepting of mind so things don't have quite the same piercing pain as they did.

Focused on getting to Coventry as I suspect my NHS appointment and tests will take months and months to materialise. No more blood or spotting now, no pads. I assume I'm waiting for AF now? Who knows.

Ha! Sebs, my ds and dp have fecked off to mil too, leaving me to (attempt to) dig myself out of a mountain of marking. Sounds crap - but i suppose less anxiety/racing cortisol in the long run. Happy cleaning! xxx

size more from me xx

Tale care of yourself today size, sounds like a shitty day but tomorrow will be better x

Thanks for the good wishes for coventry - its a week tomorrow.

longest hope your appointment tomorrow is helpful and you are able to get some reassurance.

Hugs to those finding the day hard x

Am at work. CD 21 and forgot to start progesterone this morning - coventry given no instructions so far but I'm just doing what I did last pg. Doubt missing one dose will make a difference, but still..

So, Coventry protocol is progesterone from day 21 (after ovulation?) until period/or week 12, whichever comes first, and then heparin for clotting if need be, and steroid to surpress nk cells if they are found,taken from bfp?
Am hoping leeds will follow coventry protocal (pop and minnie, any idea if they are open to this?) Though waiting for appointment, hope it wont be months away. How long did you wait, pop/minnie? If is months away i would, as you say, beg to be moved up because of age! Otherwise i would be tempted to just ttc and probably get the dame results...
I am also trying to reduce the cortisol/stress and really do think this is a factor. Accupuncture on friday was strange, but not unpleasant and i did feel very relaxed after and handed in an official request to go part at eork this week (from september). It will probably be refused, but i am trying!

Good luck tomorrow floweroct and longest

flen and size hope the day has got better.

sebs sounds like you've had a very productive day! I'm terrible with anxiety now too. Worry constantly something will happen to ds when he's at nursery. Then worry Dh will have a car accident on his way to work. His family have had terrible times -his sister died in an accident at 16 and his dad pased away from cancer 5 years ago. I'm just waiting for more bad luck constantly (though maybe the mcs are it!)

freckle I'm hoping Leeds follow coventry too. Or are open to it. Not got our appointment yet. We were told about 6 weeks so still a while to wait yet. Hope you get part time. I work 4 days but it took two years of fighting for it. And my new boss is desperate to find a way to get me to go back full time as she hates it. I figure she'll use the no kids at home during the day once ds is at school. I hate bosses!

??Hugs and to everyone today. It's not the best!

Evening ladies. Well, today wasn't too bad - AF was due this morning but didnt arrive so started to get my hopes up which saw me through Mother's Day lunch at my SIL's. But just did a test now I'm home and BFN . Had really stupidly suddenly got my hopes up.

Don;t know where AF is. I sometimes have a longer luteal phase so guess that's what's happening this month.

So so gutted. Next month will be two years we have been TTC-ing. Now cycle 8 since the last mc. I just feel like I'm only now appreciating how bad this nightmare actually is.

Hugs to everyone on this shitty day. Even the weather is shit.

Hey monten, so horribly disappointing to get BFN. It is such a slog. Hugs to you.

I have horrible toothache which is doing my head in. Had it for three weeks now since visiting the dentist! Tried everything and my teeth are just horribly sensitive all the time. sigh Any dental experts on the thread?!

Oh Monten . I had 8 months infertility then caught at Xmas but it wasn't meant to be as we know, so you have my sympathies xx

Sorry about the bfn monten . It's just not fair that you (or any of us) have to go through this. It's such a shit situation. Are you considering a fertility referral? (Sorry, i can't remember where you are with that side of things)

Sorry for the toothache flen. I have sensitive teeth and it's so annoying/sore. I use that proenamel toothpaste long term for it, but if it's something they did that's caused it, then maybe it's worth going back to the dentist?

Crap day all round then. Not usual for me to be looking forward to Monday, but Sunday being finished is a good thing this week!

Diet starts tomorrow for at least 6 weeks so hopefully that'll give me something to focus on.

Thank you march, have started using that toothpaste but think I will call the dentist tomorrow. What diet are you doing? I've been doing low GI and wheat and dairy free and have lost 4 kg since the start of January...

monten so sorry about the bfn. It really is the shittest. You totally have my sympathy. We've taken 18 months before BFPs every time, even got as far as the fertility clinic this last time. It's so depressing every month. When we found out about this last mc, amongst all the devastation I also thought 'oh god no, back to ttc again' I hate the pressure of it so much.

march I'm starting a diet tomorrow too. And possibly an exercise prog (though both at once is a bit unlikely!) Need to lose the chub I've put on due to the last two mcs (almost a stone)

I'm going to try the 5:2. I bought the book ages ago but hadn't got round to reading it until this last week. Have to say, the health benefits even aside from weight loss sound truly amazing. I saw the program about it a couple of years ago and was totally sold on it but never got round to do it as I've pretty much always been either pregnant or ttc since then. Fast day tomorrow so fingers crossed it's not too hard!

monten hugs and thinking of you xx

Thanks ladies. It's so good to come somewhere you know you'll be understood! It is a slog isn't it? Iat just feels like we have been ttc-ing forever. I know others have had a longer journey than us and my heart really goes out to you. It's so hard.

march I have a gynae appt on Tuesday actually, requested by me due to light periods. I'm hoping they will agree to do a hysterocopy. Apparently they will then refer to assisted conception unit from there if they agree. We are over 35 so are over the requisite six months trying before they'll look into things.

Good luck with diets ladies. DP watched the same 5:2 programme I think and was also totally sold - he's not done it though!

I need to stay off FB. Why did I look?????

"First Mothers Day" is so special

brummie

I'm sorry if mother's day has been really difficult. I really resent all of those commercial, Facebook-fest 'special occasions' where anyone who doesn't look the happy families on the TV adverts is made to feel shitty. Valentines Day, Mother's Day, Father's Day and Christmas being the main culprits.