Recurrent Miscarriage Support Thread 19 - tests, treatment, trying again.

[bythesea82]

Buckle up, the threads move like lightening! Tea, sympathy, information, support and combined wisdom to guide you through the maze of testing and treatment for recurrent miscarriage. Newbies always most welcome.

Please start with the traditional recap of your stats.

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Andcounting - i am praying for you, st gerard for fertility and motherhood, i believe!
My hod was so lovely to me today. She gave me a hug and told me she was very surprised that i eent back after half term and that mental health is just as important as physicsl health. She made a coffee for me yesterday too and i am soooo unendingly appreciative if her kindness and sensitivity. Funny, because she is a bit of a career spinster, but actually her kindness and empathy has surpassed anyones! Got to find a way to show thanks...

ok I have really lost the thread, due to still being crazy busy, but here goes:

twilight sorry about your rabbit
sebs sorry the bleeding is ongoing
barking hoping your follicles do what they are meant to
brummie I know it's your second cycle post mc (we are about the same distance from last mc) but hope the WTF-ness of it stops. Great about your appointment progress
tanny sorry Bertie is in hospital, Jaundice is so so common but worry is natural and hard to avoid. Why the heparin? (bad tears during birth? sorry if too personal a question...)
me2 I had spotting for 2 weeks post scratch, but got pg that cycle anyway
monten yes I get pinching, sometimes been pg, others not
minnie am gobsmacked by your friend - totally unaccepable
freckle sorry your fried let you down so badly
andcountinggosh your head must be everywhere with the scan and the trial...sorry you are in limbo, I am thinking of you.
tiny last day woo whoo!
longest glad the GD is causing you a bit less stress and you mainly have it under control. Had holding for scan on Monday..
floweroct good luch for IVF appointment

phew

I think I had best sleep...

Morning all

Tiny first day of maternity leave!!! How exciting.

Hope everyone else is ok, nearly the weekend..

Quick question for the Coventry peeps - how thick does the lining need to be? AF is clearly here - 37 day cycle rather than. 24 but it's a bit pathetic bleeding wise.

I just don't know whether to cancel Coventry or not. As in I've no doubt I won't be bleeding on Monday but it there going to be sufficient lining to do the biopsy / scratch

I'm guess I'm ummming and ahhing because Easter is coming up and that's 2 possible days of appointments knocked out in that Sod's law if the right day next cycle falls on those that puts me back by another month!!!!

I know I should really speak to Kerri but I'm loathed to have my appointment cancelled. Any thoughts?

Can't remember the details. I know prof Brosens said mine was a bit thin but he hoped it would be OK, but can't remember numbers.

First day off and have a growth scan at 9am and then consultant at 11 for the usual thyroid check and stuff...

Good luck Tiny

Brummie ultimately it's your decision but I think I would want to wait until after your next OV simply because is want to maximise my chances of everything going as it should and them getting the beat results. I do totally understand your frustration though so big hand hold from me xx

*best results

I've decided I'm going to call Kerri today and chat with her. I waited so long for AF and now it's here, I don't want it!!!

brummie, i would call and explain the situation and ask advice. I'm not sure what they do if it's not thick enough, whether you would end up paying twice, but also i seem to remember they not only check for uNK but also for decidualisation, and I'm not sure whether the result of this might rely on knowing where you are in your cycle. Just something to consider. I know it's massively frustrating. Hugs.

Enjoy your first day of relaxing tiny! Are you doing anything nice? Won't be long til teeny tiny is here

Cross post brummie, i think it's the right decision x

Sorry, I've fallen behind... waves to everyone!
Brummie, good plan to call Kerri. Its not only thickness, its also cellular changes that they look for, so you need to get it at the right stage.
Tiny, good luck today! Enjoy your leave.
Anyone heard from Bythesea?
I'm really suffering with my back, got 25 week mw appointment on Tuesday next week so will ask about it, although I suspect I may just need to put up with it. Will be worth it (although some respite would be welcome!).

Ouch just. Have you had any physio? I was given free pregnancy physio with dd. Might be worth asking if you haven't already had it. They gave me a big tubigrip to wear on the bump and stretches to do plus advice on moving.

March, thanks. Not had anything physio wise yet, but I will as its getting in the way of being able to work (marking books is a real struggle). I suspect its a trapped nerve in my rib cage, apparently its a symptom, but its usually a 3rd tri thing. I've had it for several weeks

My SIL sent me some pics yesterday of her youngest, who Is 10 months, a month older than my first would have been. She's lovely but we never ever talk about my lost one, no one ever mentions it.

This time I replied and said how gorgeous he was. And that seeing him grow up brings a lump to my throat because it makes me think of my lost one. It feels a bit awkward to have done that but I'm glad I did. I remember him, if no one else does.

tiny first day of Mat leave and it's spring!!

baking how is Faith, you are still in my thoughts x

No advice brummie but massive hugs. It's never fucking simple.

sebs my mum is visiting this weekend and I am due to spend mothers day with her and my SIL. And her three kids, including the one above. And AF is due on Saturday. This might end in tears.

Brummie I'm planning on calling Kerri today too. I guesstimate appointment needing to be made around Easter too, but guessing their not around good Friday and I have my rmc appointment the Monday before with blood test results. Why does it have to be so complicated! Kinda exciting at the same time though as feels like forever before we can TTC.

My AF was pathetic too, started yesterday, pretty much stopped by end of day.

Tanny still thinking of you

Just that sounds painful, hope you get some respite from it soon

bythesea had a good scan yesterday, I hope she won't mind my saying! Sure she'll be along in a bit...

Monten hugs to you too

Brummie I think there's a window for Coventry so hopefully Easter wouldn't be long enough to make you miss it. I know how frustrating it must be to wait even longer but it would be even more frustrating to get misleading results and start down the wrong path.

Glad to hear bythesea's scan was good.

Grr, there was a thread in active convos yesterday asking how many people took only one cycle to get pregnant. Why oh why did I open it? Lots of people saying with varying levels of smugness saying how they have 5 kids that were all conceived in the blink of an eye so I posted in the hope it'd turn the tide and start a bit of a more balanced picture emerging but nope, my feed is now full of yet more smuggery piling in every few mins. Oh well, my babies will be worth waiting for!

Off to my midwife appointment now. After months of being more or less abandoned I seem to have appointments of one sort or another every few days. This one is the school where dd's nursery is so I need to be a bit secret squirrel so as not to cause drama.

Longest like an idiot I opened the "best shit place to be pregnancy after mc" thread and loads of ladies that were on the TTC after mc thread were all on there.

I'm ashamed to admit I felt quite resentful and jealous I wasn't on there. Most of them have only 1 had 1 mc and I felt myself thinking why did I have 3?

I need to ignore other threads!!!!

brummie I had quite a long chat in counselling yesterday regarding bitterness and envy. It really does just go with the territory unfortunately so forgive yourself your thoughts. Everywhere I go I see women with toddlers and babies in prams. That's really difficult for me at the moment, particularly since I am frequenting schools a bit more now DS goes to the preschool.

I have a head mantra that basically goes 'get over it' over and over and over again. Worse things happen to people everyday and I feel as though I must man up and get over and on with it. These things take time though so we just have to keep ploughing through and hope at the end we recover one way or the other.

As it happens I think you will get your longed for successful pregnancy. I have a feeling in my water

indeed Sebs hope you are doing ok though and counselling helped. I had mine last night too. I do find it really useful to say exactly what I want for an hour and not be judged

I do feel like my life is just wrapped up in resentment and bitterness at the moment though. My pregnant colleague could not be more sensitive and for that I'm so grateful. I can say with hand on heart she has been wonderful but I still look at her bump and feel bitter

Morning all,
Thanks just, yes scan was fine (thanks flen ), sorry, no time to get on last night. So scan was 9+5, feel I just have to hold my breath for a few more weeks as MC 2&3 both at 10+6.

Sorry to hear that you are having problems with your back, I hope the MW can suggest something to help.
brummie sorry that you are not sure about Coventry for next week, it all comes back to the frustration of not being able to plan anything!
longest those threads are sent to test us, I wouldn't wish ill luck on anyone but sometimes it does seems that the luck could be shared a little!
counting hope you're doing ok
floweroct and barking good luck on IVF appointments
monton hope your weekend is not too difficult

monten you did the right thing to talk about your little one, I'm absolutely sure. I put a scan picture of my baby on Facebook this time (we'd had a few before the last sad one)- my feed is filled with babies and announcements. I realise its not for everyone but I was so desperate to show people that they'd existed. The amount of support I got was so lovely and for that day made me feel that my baby was important to more than just me and Dh. Huge hugs to you xx

brummie hugs to you too. Why can't everything just be straifhtforward!

Yay for scan tiny good luck.

Scan was OK. AC still big but just under the 95th centile. Other measures on the 50th...

Now the long wait to see consultants...

Tiny, hope wait isn't too long.

I'm sat too waiting for my consultant appointment after having scan to check uterus. Apparently it's the perfect shape, they even gave me a photo of it. The irony, wish it was a 12 wk scan.

tiny glad scan was ok
Hope you and girlie don't have too long to wait.