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Recurrent Miscarriage Support Thread 19 - tests, treatment, trying again.

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bythesea82 · 06/03/2015 12:07

Buckle up, the threads move like lightening! Tea, sympathy, information, support and combined wisdom to guide you through the maze of testing and treatment for recurrent miscarriage. Newbies always most welcome.

Please start with the traditional recap of your stats.

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sebsmummy1 · 11/03/2015 19:34

*lining

Catlover2014 · 11/03/2015 19:52

Thanks monten any signatures we can get will help!

counting I'm still hoping, some women ovulate twice in one cycle without realising! Shame about your GP's attitude, it's such a lottery who you see with a GP.

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Floweroct · 11/03/2015 20:05

I've signed it cat

Flen · 11/03/2015 20:11

andcounting I'm so sorry you're going through that, and that your GP wasn't as understanding as he could have been. Chilli and cheese sounds like an excellent plan. One lovely thing at a time to get through until you need to.

Floweroct · 11/03/2015 20:12

Will keep hoping for you counting

Whoever asked, my consultant was quite happy to support what coventry say she just said to make sure she got a copy of the letter so knew what prescribe so I hope it's that easy!

I have an ivf appt tomorrow so hoping I might get an idea of when ill start :)

TinyTear · 11/03/2015 20:19

Counting, it may be you need thyroxine anyway... I was diagnosed with under active thyroid about 2 years ago and am now on thyroxine for life...

MimiDoddrioni · 11/03/2015 20:20

Hi Maverick and MrsDiddlyDoo, I had my MC follow up appointment and am being referred to the RMC without having to make a big to do about it Smile.

Also discovered I have a tilted uterus, which can be a contributor factor for MC Sad. So sick of feeling like I'm at war with my own body, argh!

Marchgirl · 11/03/2015 20:20

Good luck with the appointment floweroct Smile

Fingers crossed for your follicles barking!

Congrats on your last day tiny Grin

Still keeping everything crossed for you counting, glad the trial are not so precious that they would let you mc and that they are advising on what to do now, but sorry to hear your gp is not supportive of this. Hopefully he will just shut up and prescribe. Hugs x

AndCounting · 11/03/2015 20:36

Thanks again.

seb it may be a parental thing, my mum and dad desperately want me not to be suffering (it causes them pain) and so I feel a subtle pressure to sanitise the heinous nightmare that is, because beyond a point, they really don't want to hear it. I'm completely with you though, it's exhausting hiding the pain, and heaven knows this stuff is hard enough already. Outside the workplace, I have no resources to conceal this.

While I'm ranting about the parents, they were both managing big teams when they retired and I think they are both cringing at the amount of time I'm taking off.

AndCounting · 11/03/2015 20:37

Sorry you have to take it for the long haul, tiny
cat I just did your petition.

Catlover2014 · 11/03/2015 20:49

Thanks to everyone who's signed petition! X

barkingtreefrog · 11/03/2015 20:50

counting it's awful when you get an unhelpful gp, I hope it's a more supportive response next time you have contact. I remember going to the gp after my first mc as AF hadn't returned 3 months later and I wanted some provera to bring on a bleed so we could start ttc again. She suggested that it might instead be a good idea to have a break Angry.

mrsdiddlydoo · 11/03/2015 20:56

That's good news Mimi. Hope you hear from them soon.

tiny hellooo maternity leave! Smile

Good luck with your appt tomorow floweroct

I had an OK day at work for a change. I think the month off ttc has really helped me. AF is due soon and I'm not fretting or obsessing. Somehow came out about my mcs to a colleague when in private she asked the dreaded when are you having more question. She shared that she had 2mc between dc1 and 2 and another before dc3. Her kids are all at uni now.

AndCounting · 11/03/2015 21:04

Grrr barking
mrs I like all stories that end with lots of children!

girliesaints · 11/03/2015 21:05

Tiny- wow can't believe you've finished today. When I joined you had just found out your were pregnant. Enjoy your "break" until mini tiny arrives

mini- interested by your comment on the tilted uterus. I have the same badge of honour and told it can't cause an MC.

Fingers crossed I finally have my consultant appointment to find out the results of the bloods & scans. As its taken 6 months to get to this stage don't think it will actually happen. I feel like I'm going in to battle, so I've done my homework and have my list of questions to ask. I might actually be in a position to start ttc again soon....

maverick79 · 11/03/2015 21:32

mimi am so pleased to read that - feel triumphant on your behalf. What is a tilted uterus and did they say how it relates to m/c?

Minnie74 · 11/03/2015 21:34

mimi good news about the rmc. Is that true about tilted uterus? I know mine has tilted since having ds. Smears are trickier and internals to sort the placenta at this mc was difficult because of it apparently. I'd not heard it linked to mc before.

counting why do GPs have to be so obstructive?! It's a lottery at mine who you get and how good they'll be. Hopefully yours will now just prescribe what you need. Everything crossed for you xx

girlie good news on getting your appointment sorted. Why does everything seem to happen in slow motion?

sebs parents are strange. My mum is desperate to help (but obviously can't) and therefore likes me to be crying on her shoulder as it means I'm opening up to her. If I try to put in a brave face to get away quickly (as she can be very fussy!) she gets all moody as if I'm ignoring her! Love her to bits but at the moment it's just all too intense.

I've decided to go back to my gp tomorrow for another week off. I just can't face people yet. I'm hoping it won't be a battle to get it. Although I cry fairly easily at the moment!

IFinishedTheBiscuits · 11/03/2015 21:54

AndCounting, there is a link between undiagnosed underactive thyroid and miscarriage. And also thyroid antibodies and miscarriage. If you are prescribed thyroxine, as someone else said, it is usually for life but upside is you get free prescriptions.

Marchgirl · 11/03/2015 21:54

Glad you've decided to take more time minnie, That sounds like the right thing at the moment.

Good news that you have your appt coming up girlie, how incredibly difficult to have to wait so long. Don't think i would have had your patience. I was going to say fingers crossed for... But then I'm really not sure what we all hope for results wise. An understanding consultant and a good treatment plan would be a good start, so I'll keep my fingers crossed for that!

Signed the petition cat, i Wholeheartedly agree

girliesaints · 11/03/2015 21:54

Minnie, salute to you for making the decision to see your GP about further time off. It's all too easy to think you must carry on & a brave person that admits they need more time x

Brummiegirl15 · 11/03/2015 22:10

I'm still bleeding. It's not particularly heavy but it's consistent so I've got a feeling Coventry will be off for Monday - sigh -

I'll email Kerri but I'm guessing she'll tell me to wait until I ovulate again.

Why is nothing easy??

IFinishedTheBiscuits · 11/03/2015 22:11

Re family comments... Their hearts are usually in the right place, they just lack tact sometimes. After my last m/c my sister asked me if we would keep trying. I said I didn't know - I didn't want to talk to her about it. She said everything happens for a reason. I said I don't believe that and what did she mean?? She said "you might keep trying and trying and then have a baby and it's got Downs syndrome." I didn't talk to her for days until my mum (in tears herself) told her how awful it was and my sister apologised and said she'd been tactless. Which she was - but she's also the sister who's been at there for both my labours, stepped up to the plate and delivered DS2 when he arrived quicker than expected, then took a week off work to help me out after the birth and is a wonderful auntie. It's difficult for family I think, especially when they can't fix things for you, but feel they should.

MimiDoddrioni · 11/03/2015 22:14

It was the sonographer who mentioned my tilted uterus and the consultant had to root around to find my cervix last week Confused.

Girlie, think I put 2+2 together and googled it and came up with 5 regarding a tilted uterus and MC. It seems to be mostly American pregnancy websites that mention a link so I'm pleased to hear you've been told it's nowt to worry about.

girliesaints · 11/03/2015 22:19

Mimi, I was specifically told last time I asked that it wasn't an issue, however as I'm (hopefully) at the consultant tomorrow, I'll ask again x

sebsmummy1 · 11/03/2015 22:32

I guess I'm lucky as my Mum knows I go quiet when I'm upset and respects that. She will drop me the odd text or voicemail but generally she let's me be. I dropped off the Mother's Day cards and gift today for Sunday. I've chosen to be at home on my own cleaning as DP is taking DS to visit his Mum and I'm in no mood to pretend I'm happy, it's too exhausting. Cleaning bogs on Mother's Day, what fun!