Recurrent Miscarriage Support Thread 18 - tests, treatment, trying again.

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Buckle up, the threads move like lightening! Tea, sympathy, information, support and combined wisdom to guide you through the maze of testing and treatment for recurrent miscarriage. Newbies always most welcome.

Please start with the traditional recap of your stats.

Oh Tanny no baby Tan tonight :-(
You are getting there though but rest up, you are going to need it.

Baby Tan is in touching distance!!!

Sebs same as Monten I stopped and started too. Had my ERPC on Saturday, very little bleeding afterwards then randomly started on the Wednesday. Had it for 24 hours

Thanks girls. Yep it was exactly a week ago. I'm not too bothered really as I'm anticipating it taking months until I get a BFN and this start my cycles again. I was just surprised to see red blood for some reason!!

Seb I had stop start bleeding for a few weeks after erpc

tanny try and have a rest, I'm sure baby tanny will make a grand entrance soon

Still no AF. I'm trying the 3,000 mg a day of vitamin c route and see if that allegedly helps.

I'm feeling crampy too. I'm now 7 days late and cervix is back to feeling firm

Admittedly me having a rummage around to test cervix probably isn't helping cramps either

It's probably your hormones coming down. Have you fine any tests? You might find you get a neg a bit sooner - I think the erpc speeds things up in that regard too.

What you said yesterday about the hard but being when everything goes back to 'normal' is so true. Like any grief, the realisation that life will carry on regardless is hard to take. Look after yourself.

I can't cope with doing tests. I've been there and done that twice and it's too upsetting seeing BFPs when you know the pregnancy has gone. Id rather just wait it out I think and maybe test in 6 weeks or never

Brummie ive heard sex can start AF if it's overdue. No idea why but I've definitely read it.

I have a question that's bothering me. I feel so ridiculous as I've had three pointless booking in appointments in the last year and had to bin three bounty packs. Do you have to keep doing these sodding booking in appointments when the expectation is that you will miscarry or can I just go to EPAU in the future now I've had three? In my head I don't want to do another booking in appointment unless I'm past 12 weeks but that won't work as you have to book in to generate the scans. It's really bothering me for some reason and feel as though the midwives will be tolling their eyes if they see my name appear again on the system.

*rolling

sebs I didn't have my booking in till 11 weeks after 2 good scans. And I refused a bounty pack!

Hope Minitan resumes consent.

Which is the Response trial? I have forgotten.

Excellent blog on Twitter Flen could've wriiten it myself as feel exactly that.

As Monten just said, it's the realisation that life has returned to normal when you feel anything but

Very excited for you tanny and temembering my own labour, bet it all kicks off again in the early hours! A world of bliss and love the size of space coming your way!!!!
Re. Migranes - i get stonking headaches jusy before ovulation and just before period - its how i know when to have sex to concieve
Hadn't failed yet, but would love to know what causes them...have also had headache for 9 days now that only gin will ease!!! X

Good luck Tan, will be thinking of you!

Congrats on the job Twilight, I'd def go for it. For the extra time you get back, extra money and change can be as good as a holiday.

Need to change my job too, finding life too stressful with 2hrs commuting everyday with a complete twat for a new boss, plus stress at home and after yet enough horrid text from my mum I've told her I don't want her in my life and to not contact me.(I rang step dad a week or so ago, but he's wasn't forthcoming when I asked about dementia. He basically said he was stuck in the middle, but items had gone missing.

Also finding cycle frustrating Brummie, my first cycle after erpc was 31 days, usually 25, was less than 24 hours. Now I have no idea if I just ov'd or not, temp seems to just yoyo, no ewcm , neg opk's. On day 20 now. So frustrating.

Plus just got wound up by DP, came to bed early to try catch up with what's happening and he followed me up. Would normally find this sweet, but really need to read your posts to not feel so isolated.

Sebs i had light spotting on day of erpc, then nothing for a few days then brown spotting for about 7 days.

Sorry for long me post and yes terrible, shocking news about Beck Watts, I lived in St George for about 6 years.

I'm way behind and can't catch up, just popping my head in to see if Tanny has any exciting news yet?!

I went to hypnotherapy last night. Very glad I did, found it very comforting. She's working on keeping me calm throughout the stress of the ivf as well as working on any subconscious blocks I may have to getting pg - ie maybe deep down I'm so terrified it's all going to go wrong again that my body works to prevent a pregnancy. She's also sending me a recording of each session so I can listen again at home. I'm actually feeling like I might be able to get through the ivf without having a nervous breakdown!!! And possibly even that I might get a bfp and bump and even a real baby!!

barking that is BRILLIANT. I am really glad you had a positive experience.

jady I'm so sorry things are stressful for you at the moment, and that stuff with your mum is still really hard. Not what you need right now. Cycles post-ERPC are just mental I think this is the first month that mine has been relatively normal, and my ERPC was in October! It is exactly not what we need when everything else is already hard. Hugs to you.

Thanks brummie, glad the blog resonated with you.

freckle it's my understanding that the headaches/migraines around ovulation and period are due to the hormone shifts at those times - that's exactly when I get them.

AF due today. No sign yet and temp still high, but the tests on Monday were definitely negative. Wee'd in a pot this morning so can test later if I feel the need! Trying to avoid testing too much as I think it can exacerbate my anxiety rather than soothe it...

bythesea good luck for the scan today.... xx

Thanks Flen your blog I thought was apt for how I feel right now. That life's moved on and everyone's forgotten already. My boss certainly didn't take reduced duties into account at all which is due to end today, don't think duties could be piled any higher though. . I've been up since 5am worrying but think I'm going to resign today and call GP.

Glad hypnotherapy is working for you Barking. I sometimes find meditation helpful when I think to try it.

Sorry to those still waiting for af, or having bad cycles. Must be so frustrating.

jady sorry to hear you're still having problems with your mum, it must be very upsetting on top of everything else. And that you have a twat for a boss too.

barking that's great news about your hypnotherapy session. I'm glad it's helping you think positively about the next ivf.

Still waiting for the big announcement from tanny!

our day sorry you're having horrid migraines. I hope they ease off soon for you. X

tanny, hope you've managed to get some rest and that things are still moving

barking, fantastic, that sounds really positive! A great way to go into your ivf i think

bythesea, good luck for the scan today x

jady, so sorry to hear things are still not good with your mum. Also sorry work is so crap. Could you just go off sick to give yourself a bit more time to decide what to do next?

Waves to everyone

OhFliperty, welcome. I don't think anyone on here is on the response trial. I think its quite new? (and some of us have been on this treadmill a long time!) Good luck with it. I hope you feel supported with the follow up care?
Tanny, good luck!!!
Bythesea, hope your scan goes well.
Waves to everyone.
Got viability today! Along with a very vivid dream about having a c-section. It's all getting a bit real...

oh V-Day just that is such a landmark!! so you are 10 weeks behind me, I am 34+4 today...

Sorry I haven't been so active, but have only one more week at work and have been really busy trying to get everything finished... then because of early eviction won't have much time to relax... will try and get a haircut, go to the cinema and still need to wash baby clothes!

I have dark red bleeding again this morning. I'm assuming this is still considered normal? Everything since the OP has been watery and/or brown sludgy. This is like period blood. I wonder if my hormones started building up some lining or something and this is now being released? It's such a head fuck.

sebs I had brown or watery red to begin with, and then like a big proper bleed that lasted about 24-48 hours. It seemed to me like that was my body clearing everything else out. I also had some painful cramps in that time, you might not, but hoping to reassure if you do.

Any news on tanny?????!!!!!

News on becky watts soooo upsetting. Somebody's beloved child, how can that happen??? I lit a candle and said a prayer with my form for her and her family. I'm a reasonable person, but crimes against children...it's the only thing tha. make me think hang them - and i'm not prone to daily-mail style outbursts. I just can't stand it. All the missing girls - right back to susan maxwell in the early 80's, i never seem to forget them...