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Recurrent Miscarriage Support Thread - Thread 17 - Tests, treatment and trying again

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Flower29 · 05/02/2015 12:28

Information, support, hand holding, tea, sympathy and a hell of a lot of combined knowledge - all welcome as we try to make sense of the RMC roller coaster of tests, NHS admin, heart ache and (hopefully) happy endings!
Please start with a recap of your stats Smile

OP posts:
tannyLoo · 07/02/2015 09:09

Baking sending you love x

cloudjumper · 07/02/2015 09:12

Baking - thinking of you, sending lots of hugs xxxx

Jady77 · 07/02/2015 09:13

Thinking of you Baking

Marchgirl · 07/02/2015 09:37

Thinking of you baking and hoping you get the care faith needs

TinyTear · 07/02/2015 09:57

Thinking of you and Faith, baking

Justonemoretime · 07/02/2015 10:00

Baking, so sorry to hear this. Thinking of you and little Faith and your DH. xx

Catlover2014 · 07/02/2015 10:01

Thinking of little Faith baking, hope the hospital gets her the right help soon.

barking so sorry to hear about your dad being unwell. You're being very brave. We're all here for chats.

Xxx

twilightstruggle · 07/02/2015 10:04

Oh Baking I'm so sorry to hear your news. So frustrating that getting help was difficult yesterday given the circumstances. My thoughts are with you all. X

girliesaints · 07/02/2015 10:22

Big hugs Baking, hope Faith (& you) are now being looked after, following yesterday's frustrations x

Me2Me2 · 07/02/2015 11:04

Oh baking, thinking of you and faith

Hi daisy

Brummiegirl15 · 07/02/2015 13:44

Oh Baking I'm so sorry about Faith. Big hugs.

Hi Daisy glad you managed to find us. So sorry you are here

Brummiegirl15 · 07/02/2015 15:18

I'm officially a marketing persons dream now. Taking so much "stuff" I'm going to rattle

Raspberry leaf tea
Pomegranate juice
L-Arginine
All to help blood flow to pelvic area and help my crappy lining and get more substantial periods

Royal jelly for the egg quality

Folic Acid

Evening primrose up to ovulation plus pre-seed

What am I like??!!

BettyButterchops · 07/02/2015 15:32

Baking I have everything I can cross crossed for you and Faith. X x x

Flen · 07/02/2015 17:27

Brummie I am now taking...
Maca root
Royal jelly
DHA fish oils
Pomegranate juice
Folic acid
Cinnamon
Plus no wheat, no dairy and low GI

About to embark on 10 day pre ovulation fertility smoothies!!

Ha!

baking Hope you are all doing ok, thinking of you.

Justonemoretime · 07/02/2015 17:43

Hi everyone,
Still got a couple of books to pass on:
taking charge of your fertility, is your body baby friendly? and coming to term. It will be next week before I can get to the post office again. PM me if you want one/all of them. :)

northdownmummy · 07/02/2015 19:26

Thanks sun it's the fertility clinic she's referring me to. I'd been already to have to fight for some investigations but she offered to get the process of a referral started right away given my age.
I conceived the first month of trying in previous pregnancies so have had a tortuous 6 months of trying. But then I can imagine it being any easier no matter what my previous experience was. I'm someone who plans obsessively and struggles to give up control of anything so feeling so helpless and emotional all the time is exhausting

Catlover2014 · 07/02/2015 19:39

Feel ya pain north and the longer it takes the more we stress. Took me 4 years to get my 1st bfp due to fertility issues. Horrible times. Hope you get the right help at the clinic, waiting sucks! X

AndCounting · 07/02/2015 19:43

Welcome daisy and I'm sorry it's been so awful. The feelings you receive are totally normal but they are not rational. You are a wonderful person who has been dealt a crappy hand. And as for strangers telling you you are selfish, that is just beyond the pale, although I can well believe it. Actually I had a similar thing when an older more senior male colleague started going on to me about how it is pointless stopping at 1 child, over lunch in front of the whole team. I took the opposite approach to you and when he started up again that afternoon with no one else there I told him I'd had 4 miscarriages. It didn't shut him up for a second unfortunately.

We had a big conversation about whether we are 'in' or 'out' about our MCs on a previous thread (maybe the last one). There's no right or wrong. Not telling anyone can be very isolating though. Is there anyone supportive that you could open up to? In general I have found close friends and family want to be supportive, even if it's out of their experience. And one things for sure, you are not inadequate, my dear.

Don't worry about making long term decisions, you have just been through some really traumatic events. Now's a time to nurture and regroup. Stay with us and hoping things pick up for you soon.

Welcome, north,sorry you find yourself here.

baking really sorry to hear your news. Hoping Faith takes some steps forward again soon. Xx

cloudjumper · 07/02/2015 20:32

Welcome to the newbies - sorry you find yourselves here! It's the club that no one wants to belong to, but you will find nothing but kindness, understanding and support here. May your stay be short and sweet!

Well, AF has turned up, in spite of all the positive signs I've been convincing myself I had...Sad. To say I'm gutted is an understatement, and poor DS got quite a few short-tempered outbursts from me today, poor boy. We've thrown everything at it this cycle, and in the past, this would have been enough... I've managed to fall of with one well-timed shag in the past, ffs! I'm sooo fed up with it all, but still can't all it a day.Confused

Catlover2014 · 07/02/2015 21:40

Sorry AF is here cloud, can tell you're gutted. Hope you can enjoy a glass of wine tonight. Fingers crossed next month is the lucky one!!! X

Floweroct · 07/02/2015 21:59

Sorry about af cloud it's really rubbish, fingers crossed for next month x

Marchgirl · 07/02/2015 22:04

Sorry to hear af arrived cloud. Sad It's just such a shitty time when it does. Hopefully next month will be lucky for you. in the meantime, be kind to yourself x

Brummiegirl15 · 07/02/2015 22:38

Oh Cloud gutted for you xx

Went out for dinner tonight and DP drove home and we had radio on. A song came on that was everywhere when I was at Uni in Manchester. Armand Van Helden "u don't know me" and my god the memories it brought back...

Of a time when all that mattered was how much was our cab fare back from town and shall we go and doing a bit of cheeky pre boozing shopping on a Saturday. New top anyone?

It only seems like yesterday but how times have changed. Seems like another lifetime ago and I had no idea what "this world" felt like

bootles · 07/02/2015 22:43

Gah been so very busy...I will catch up properly and post my stats when I can, but in very very short:

Hugs to baking, barking, Tanny and cloud

Good news twilight and march

I really haven't had a chance to read back properly so apologies to anyone left out and very brief entry, waves to all xx

girliesaints · 07/02/2015 23:12

Brummiegirl- I love that song & remember that time well. Pit stop on way home for cheeky kebab or a curry depending how much money I had left!