Recurrent Miscarriage Support Thread - Thread 17 - Tests, treatment and trying again

[Flower29]

Information, support, hand holding, tea, sympathy and a hell of a lot of combined knowledge - all welcome as we try to make sense of the RMC roller coaster of tests, NHS admin, heart ache and (hopefully) happy endings!
Please start with a recap of your stats

Sorry to hear that brummie, how annoying.

My results always came back 'normal' both for infertility and mc but they still found the meds that worked for me so might be worth waiting until your appointment if you can stand to.

From my experience secretaries rarely know the full picture anyway so consultant may yet have information to share / discuss.

Hey brummie - my experience of the nhs is that they will say 'just try again' if results are normal. At my last appointment I specifically asked about progesterone and heparin and was told they would support me trying those next time...... Until I subsequently received the results of the testing of the fetus which showed mc3 was chromosomal. They are now saying no to those on the basis of mc3, even though there is no evidence that 1 and 2 were also chromosomal . Am going to go private if I get pg again to get prog / heparin, as I have kind of lost the will to fight with the nhs rmc any more and can't take another mc without feeling I have thrown everything at it. x

Must be the week for rearranging appointments. Had a call to say my scan tomorrow morning had been moved to 26th March, although my consulant remains unchanged. Fuming doesn't cover it. Rang and ranted about the scan has to be tomorrow to tie up with consultant but it's a flat no. Looks like consultant appointment will move back another month as well. Days like this I wish I still had PMI.

So sorry twilight, just read back and seen your news. Puts my rant into context. Big hugs coming your way x

Twilight I am so sorry. Totally understand the going into survival mode, I've been there myself. Tons of virtual hugs, and yes, use us to rant away at. Thinking of you. x

26th March girlie?!? With 1 day's notice? that's fecking ridiculous. Not surprised you are raging.

twilight I'm so so sorry , how utterly devastating. Please look after yourself

twilight I am so gutted for you, this is not fair . I hope you've got DH there with you for the rest of the day?
Take time and look after yourself xx. .

Sorry about the appointment delays for you as well girlie, with one day of notice that's absolutely ridiculous.

Managed to get hold of consultant's PA who's managed to get both the scan & consultant appointment brought forward to the 12th March, so a bit better but not brilliant. Just the 6 months then I've been waiting since the last MC to get the proper tests/ appointments after epu failed to refer me. ggrh!

I did learn that I'm having a 3D scan which was part of the issue as only one lady does it and she only works 3 days a week. Anyone had a 3d scan and if so what's it checking for?

Ourday - thinking of you and very very much hoping you have better news than me. X

At home. DH and I have bought provisions and are now camped on sofa.

twilight so sorry to hear your news it really does seem so unfair xx

Glad dh is looking after you twilight.

Keeping fingers crossed ourday. Hope all is well

Oh twilight, oh no...I am so so sorry. What a dreadful blow. Its so bloody unfair. Don't ever worry about how you come across on here. We understand you must be utterly devastated. So sorry xxx

Thank you all for thinking of me - twighlight I'm sending you lots of love. Everything is fine this end - feel totally selfish even writing it x

Don't! I'm happy things are good with you. It's honestly made me feel a bit better. Xxx

Ourday don't feel bad for having a good scan! We're all really sorry about Twilight, it is horrible, but it mustn't stop your relief about having good news. Really pleased to hear it went well.

Pleased to hear you're ok ourday, I think good news gives those in hard times hope for their future so don't feel bad.

Glad you're with your DH Twilight, cuddle up and eat nice food. We're all here for you. Hugs to you xxx

Ourday, please don't feel guilty and it's positive scan news that keeps the rest of us going. Enjoy today's relief x

Thank you all

ourday - really pleased that it was good news for you today. X

Twilight, I found cake very therapeutic at times like this x

Ourday, pleased to hear you've had a good scan today. x

Good news ourday. I know it's hard to be happy at these times but we are all glad it's all ok for you x

ourday good news, must be a relief.

twilight thinking of you, hope cake and sofa are propping you up a little along with DH. Big virtual hugs.

twilight hope the provisions provide a little comfort and glad dh is there with you on the sofa. You didn't come across cold earlier at all, I imagine the shock and survival mode took over. Thinking of you and sending you big big virtual hugs. Look after yourself. x