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Recurrent Miscarriage Support Thread - Thread 17 - Tests, treatment and trying again

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Flower29 · 05/02/2015 12:28

Information, support, hand holding, tea, sympathy and a hell of a lot of combined knowledge - all welcome as we try to make sense of the RMC roller coaster of tests, NHS admin, heart ache and (hopefully) happy endings!
Please start with a recap of your stats Smile

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Marchgirl · 18/02/2015 09:13

Oh no. twilight I'm so so sorry to hear that. What awful news. This is so cruel and unfair. Massive hugs to you. Look after yourself today. We're all here for you xx

Flen · 18/02/2015 09:13

Oh twilight I am so so sorry. So sad for you. Hugs hugs hugs xxxxx

twilightstruggle · 18/02/2015 09:14

I haven't spoken to the doctor yet but I guess we'll arrange an erpc and to test 'products'. Plus will take 2 month break and go to Coventry.

twilightstruggle · 18/02/2015 09:19

P.s re-reading that I sound colder than I am. I think I'm in shock

bythesea82 · 18/02/2015 09:20

twilight I am so sorry, life is so unfair. Sending you huge hugs Sad
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Justonemoretime · 18/02/2015 09:21

Twilight , shock is totally understand. Do and say what ever it takes to get through this difficult time. No-one is judging you, we're all here to offer whatever support we can. xxx

Justonemoretime · 18/02/2015 09:21

*understandable

Catlover2014 · 18/02/2015 09:22

Oh Twilight so very sorry and so sad to hear this. Heart goes out to you. I'm sure Coventry route will help you. Hugs to you lovely xxxxx

Marchgirl · 18/02/2015 09:23

You don't sound cold, please don't give yourself a hard time. I think you probably are in shock and I'm not surprised. Is your OH there to look after you?

Sunandrainbow · 18/02/2015 09:26

Oh twilight - am so so sorry. Life is so shit sometime. Massive hugs to you. Take care of yourself - hope dh is with you and looking after you. x

TinyTear · 18/02/2015 09:26

you don't sound cold... i did wonder the same after my 5th... you just go on survival mode

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Flower29 · 18/02/2015 09:27

Just reading the comments about the problems with DHs not getting on board and I think it just hoghlights how they struggle to connect to the pregnancy and baby as it's not their body, until the baby is actually here. We women must be the stronger sex having to deal with all this!

Good luck outday and twilight, we're all behind you! X

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ourdaywillcome1983 · 18/02/2015 09:28

twighlight i am so so sorry - big hugs xxxxxx

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Flower29 · 18/02/2015 09:30

twilight I'm so sorry Flowers xxx

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Flower29 · 18/02/2015 09:31

I started typing my last message an hour ago and only just got round to finishing it so didn't see the earlier posts.

Thinking of you twilight, I'm so gutted for you. Sad

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Me2Me2 · 18/02/2015 09:59

Oh twilight I'm so sorry. Flowers

Me2Me2 · 18/02/2015 10:00

Brummie arghhhh how frustrating I'd be going mad too

barking your journey has been mega. Men do get an easier ride on this one

Folks, I'm in a real quandary (same as loopy). Ovulation imminent. Do I grab it or stick with Coventry appt? argh

Justonemoretime · 18/02/2015 10:03

Me2Me2, I say stick with Coventry. I 100% attribute my success with this pg to their care and treatment. Wish I'd been after only 1 mc. Good luck! xx

Brummiegirl15 · 18/02/2015 10:09

Spoken to Mr Watts secretary. She's told me he has a clinic at Malvern too so to try there to get in earlier.

She also said my results are back and was hesitant to give them to me until I name dropped my sister and that she could help interpret them (I'm so bad but whatever it takes) and she said "all within normal ranges but there is a note on the results that she didn't understand so therefore she wouldn't tell me "

Guess that means I'm going to be told I just need to try again

You sound like you are in shock Twilight - almost like survival mode and what comes next. Big hugs, gutted for you xx

longestlurkerever · 18/02/2015 10:13

Twilight I am so sorry. Truly gutted for you. Actually quite angry on your behalf. Why does this keep happening to us? Wish we were all there with you to give you a huge hug. Plenty of virtual ones heading your way.

Brummie I am sorry you are being messed about too. I agree about seeing if you can at least get your results through - St Mary's emailed them to me when I asked.

Sorry about the rows with dps. I had one with mine yesterday too. Not really about anything pregnancy related but I think I was feeling a bit wobbly. Dd has got really quite excited about being a big sister - her little face lit up so brightly when I told her what a great one she would be and how the baby would think she was the best thing in the world, and I suddenly felt overwhelmed by panic - what if something happens to the baby and I let her down again?

Builder is here wanting to paint her new room and her current one, which will be the nursery and I have made him start on all the other jobs first. Partly because of practicality - don't want to have to move dd out too early and partly because my edd is still months away and I am frightened of the jinx.

Marchgirl · 18/02/2015 10:18

Can I just say that you haven't ever let anyone down longest

Catlover2014 · 18/02/2015 10:37

I agree with march! Lovely longest you have been and continue to be amazing. One day DD will know abt your hard journey and she will look up to your strength even more. Hugs x

Purplefrogshoes · 18/02/2015 10:51

twilight I'm so sorry

longestlurkerever · 18/02/2015 11:03

Aw, thanks guys. Feel a bit teary reading that (definitely hormonal!) x

Brummiegirl15 · 18/02/2015 11:33

Can't get into Malvern either!!!!!

Bollocks.

9th March it is and fuck all I can do about it.

Am worried my results say normal and I'm just going to get told "go away and try again "