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Recurrent Miscarriage Support Thread - Thread 17 - Tests, treatment and trying again

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Flower29 · 05/02/2015 12:28

Information, support, hand holding, tea, sympathy and a hell of a lot of combined knowledge - all welcome as we try to make sense of the RMC roller coaster of tests, NHS admin, heart ache and (hopefully) happy endings!
Please start with a recap of your stats Smile

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barkingtreefrog · 13/02/2015 17:41

Hugs March Thanks.

Justonemoretime · 13/02/2015 18:08

So sorry to hear this March. Hope you're being looked after in RL.

Justonemoretime · 13/02/2015 18:13

Quick question: I keep getting twinges quite low down. Not painful or long lasting, but noticeable. I think its probably stretching but I asked my mw and she said if I was worried to call the hospital. I wasn't really worried before as I assumed it was stretching. Now I'm a bit worried... I've decided to keep an eye and call the hospital if it gets worse. I'm in on Tues anyway for a scan and consultant appointment. Do you think I should be more concerned? Nothing else seems untoward...

tannyLoo · 13/02/2015 18:36

I've had loads of random pains all the way through, mostly like period pains, some overy pain and middle back ache. Some go when I have a wee, others just come and go. I was also a bit panicked by them, but everything has been fine. I'd say anything worse than a period pain and lasting more than a few minutes is worth exploring rather than worrying about x

tannyLoo · 13/02/2015 18:40

Welcome seeking sorry you're here. I remember you from another thread.

I don't have anything to add at the moment, but we are generally a knowledgeable bunch...

Justonemoretime · 13/02/2015 18:42

Thanks. It's nothing like period pain, more like if you twinge something, like if you almost turn on your ankle, but don't twist it, if that makes sense? I only mentioned it to mw because it had happened a few times and was something new. I think I'll stick to me plan of asking about it on Tuesday unless it becomes anything more sinister over the weekend. So many new things to worry about!!! I bet you'll take your next set of twinges a bit more seriously, eh, Tanny?!

longestlurkerever · 13/02/2015 18:44

Same as tanny. Lots of weird pains. Stretching and weight of uterus are normally the culprits, and round ligament pain.

Justonemoretime · 13/02/2015 18:47

Seeking, welcome. I also remember you from the other thread. Sorry you're still having problems. Lots of us have been to Coventry. IMHO I think its better to take a uterine biopsy than a blood test, and I think it would also be considerably cheaper than the London clinic. Good luck with whatever you decide.

tannyLoo · 13/02/2015 18:52

I'm willing the pains, just!

Catlover2014 · 13/02/2015 18:57

just I have that feeling a lot too. Just tell myself it's all the growing and stretching! X

TinyTear · 13/02/2015 19:10

So sorry March x

cloudjumper · 13/02/2015 19:13

March Sad Please look after yourself xx

Seekingmiracles · 13/02/2015 19:28

Thanks Just.. I will see what he says. I know people who've seen him and had great results. I know prof Quenby is supposed to be brilliant though. I will ask about a uterine sample though. But to be honest if my normal blood results come back high I'm happy to have what ever he suggests!

twilightstruggle · 13/02/2015 19:30

I'm having one of those days. Was meant to be flying to Belfast tomorrow but discovered yesterday that my passport was awol. Not going was not an option so have spent today driving to Scotland and am now on the ferry. Plus I accidentally ordered two meals because I couldn't understand the waiter man. My parents are both Irish but I still find the accent completely indecipherable until I've been in Ireland a couple of days and adjusted. So now am sitting eating pie and chips with an additional burger and chips surreptitiously tucked away for later.

March - I'm so sorry you're having such a day of it. I have to say that you're a stronger person that me. No way I'd make it to a zoo in those circumstances. Massive hugs and loads of love.

Tbc...

twilightstruggle · 13/02/2015 19:42

Warm welcoming hugs seeking. Sorry for your losses and that you find yourself here.

Flower - sorry your sil has been a tad insensitive.

Brummie and Barking - sorry for the DH rows. That colleague sounds ace.

Running out of signal so not going to write anymore out of fear of losing it. Hugs to all.

Brummiegirl15 · 13/02/2015 20:02

March I'm so so sorry. Please just rest and let Mr March take care of you xx

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Flower29 · 13/02/2015 20:41

Just popping in quickly to let flen know I've shared your beautiful blog on fb. I hope people will read it and either a) find comfort from it having been through it themselves or b) have a better understanding of how seriously shit it is and how it effects us for months and years afterwards (and hopefully be a tad more sensitive as a result)

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kirinm · 13/02/2015 21:00

Hi all, I joined this thread about a year ago when is just had an ERPC. And I think I'm finally ready to try again!

Me: 36
Partner: 30
1 x DS (17 years - totally normal pregnancy).
1 ectopic sept 09
2 x early miscarriages at 6 weeks 2011
MMC at 11 weeks in Jan 2014.

We were seen at St George's hospital, Tooting RMC where I was told I'm apparently normal. Weirder he told me I didn't have PCOS which I was diagnosed with at 20. I'm just about being brave enough to start trying. Just got to move house in April and then I think we'll try.

Jady77 · 13/02/2015 21:55

March big hugs to you.

kirin welcome back. All going well I'll be TTC in April too.

Sorry think I missed it but where can I read Flen's blog?

I'm in a fairly calm place right now other than people at work being horrid. But AF decided to visit yesterday, yay! Now I have some idea of what my body is doing.

My Bro is getting married tomorrow so should be a good weekend too. Feels like a long time since I've said something so positive and prob won't last long so enjoying it while it lasts.

Twilight hope you're enjoying all that food! DP and I started low gi Monday and I would kill for a chip right now!

Big hugs to everyone else.

bakingtins · 13/02/2015 21:58

Flen's blog

Jady77 · 13/02/2015 22:23

Ahh brilliant, thanks Baking. Just read the first couple, I literally live on my fertility app, it's not just me! Most of my arguments with DP are when he comes in for a cuddle first thing in the morning before the alarm goes off, doesn't he know he's raising my temp!! Now I'll never find out when I ovulate...grrr. Can't wait to read the rest!

twilightstruggle · 13/02/2015 23:27

Well I've just been reduced to tears by randoms. I get to my hotel and it's by a venue which is hosting X factor live tour tonight so all car parks and roads near it jammed. So I sit in the car park for over an hour waiting for someone who has gone to the concert to move their car. And someone arrives so I meander over to wait by the space. Then, as the person is sorting themselves out and getting in their car, a group of women come over and stand by the space so I can't get in and 'reserve' it like that until their friend arrives in the car and parks there. I was clearly waiting for it and tried to say that I'd been waiting ages and they just laughed and said "bad luck". About 1/2 hour later I got in somewhere miles away and pricey but I'm just exhausted and needed to take progesterone. And they're all sitting in the bar. Sorry this is me me and very 'first world problem' but it's just not what I needed. Bit embarrassed that March has coped so admirably today and I've been reduced to floods by a parking dispute.

bootles · 13/02/2015 23:41

march how utterly grim, you have done amazingly well to get through the day and even get to the zoo at all. Please take care of yourself. Did you tell your dsis in the end? Xx

twilight your whole day sounds like a nightmare. That kind of pressure to get somewhere, plus having to drive/ferry/find hotel/encounter group of out of order bulshy women, are all high on my things to make me cry list. Plus with the stress you are experiencing already, I'm not surprised you feel a bit beaten down by it all - I think you should give yourself a break, try to sleep, and get the trip over with!

ourday sorry you are feeling so anxious. You are doing so well, you really are. Continue staying away from google, and one day at a time.

just sound like normal pg pains to me, from what I remember with DS.

longestlurkerever · 13/02/2015 23:41

twilight I think driving to Belfast at short notice and sticking up for yourself against some nasty cahs counts as coping admirably in my book! Well deserving of a burger and a pie! You have reminded me that I have lost dd's passport too. I copied it for school application a month ago and have turned the house upside down twice since. Luckily we have ditched the going abroad plan in favour of Norfolk (ahaaa) but I am annoyed with myself as am always so disorganised.

jady have a fab weekend. Glad your body is getting back on track too.

Big hugs to brave March.

Welcome back Kirin and miracles. Wishing you every success. In the meantime we are good at listening and tea.

mrsdiddlydoo · 13/02/2015 23:53

Sorry haven't read all posts today but flen my friend who has recurrent thrush problems swears by apple cider vinegar. Might be worth a try.