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Recurrent Miscarriage Support Thread 16 - tests, treatment and trying again

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Justonemoretime · 18/01/2015 07:46

Information, support, hand holding, tea, sympathy and a hell of a lot of combined knowledge - all welcome as we try to make sense of the RMC roller coaster of tests, NHS admin, heart ache and (hopefully) happy endings!
Please start with a recap of your stats :)

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ourdaywillcome1983 · 24/01/2015 17:58

Good luck barking!!!

Sorry to see we have new ladies but you're in the right place

Brummiegirl15 · 24/01/2015 18:20

girlie our two week wait will come soon!!!!!

February is all about preparation.

Barking good luck!!!!!

AndCounting · 24/01/2015 19:05

I went to see the GP yesterday. He, quite correctly, suggested I don't have any expectations about my mystery capsules. He's correct but it did make me cry (I had, of course, built my medicine?/tictacs? up into a miracle cure).

bootles what a relief, I'm pleased you won't have money worries piling on top of everything
baking thinking of you
Welcome, Eva
Good luck barking

longestlurkerever · 24/01/2015 19:40

Andcounting what a mean thing to say. You have a good chance of a healthy pregnancy even with just statistics on your side so with your capsules your chances are very good I reckon!

Bootles sorry, forgot to say great news re your pay. Phew, eh?

AndCounting · 24/01/2015 20:06

Thanks, longest. Thing is, a mc is such a miserable experience, no amount of managing expectations will take any of the edge off anyway. Thanks again.

Brummiegirl15 · 24/01/2015 20:09

Just been told by someone who "knows how I'm feeling because they waited 2 yrs to get pregnant" (WTF???- unless you've lost babies you've no idea how I feel) that I should be taking Zita West vitamins.

Sigh. Anyone else got any sensible thoughts about Zita West???

Boozle80 · 24/01/2015 20:17

I had a brief look at her after my last MC, as I live miles away i discounted relaxation CDs as I figured it'd take me a lot more than that to relax! However, my dentist swore by her and recommended her to me - she said she found her massively helpful (not sure the reasons she went to her but she's just adopted to little boys). I like my dentist - she's lovely - I don't know much more about her other than she seemed pretty informed on it all. Just read this back and it doesn't seem very helpful at all, sorry!

Boozle80 · 24/01/2015 20:19

By the way Brummie, how did you not lamp her - only someone who hasn't been here would say something like that. My head teacher told me 'not to let her down on this one' last week, that almost made me get very cross. Stupid people!

longestlurkerever · 24/01/2015 20:32

I think everyone reacts differently. I have always been more distressed by the loss of a pregnancy than the loss of a baby, if that makes sense, so probably do have a lot in common with women suffering infertility- the whole longing for a baby and being unsure if it will ever happen is no joke whether you have lost babies or not. But it's always a bad idea to presume you know how someone feels, especially if your experience is not the same.

Flen · 24/01/2015 20:44

brummie I am taking the vita west supplements - they were recommended to me by a family friend acupuncturist who also works for her (I am also a brummie girl!!)

Brummiegirl15 · 24/01/2015 21:02

Aahhh a fellow Brummie girl!!! :-) I live in Worcestershire now but will be always be a Birmingham gal

I don't really understand how Zita West is different to other vitamins?? Confused

bythesea82 · 24/01/2015 22:10

Hi all,
Just checking in as back from a week snowboarding & have worked hard to catch up! Was great to get away from everything & managed to fall & bruise my ribs pretty badly so the pain of breathing is keeping my mind off the first 2ww since MC 3! Can I join thr 2ww club? No idea where in the crazy cycle I am so it's not very scientific for me Confused

baking thinking of you and sending huge hugs, life really does deal some shitty hands. Hope you're all hanging in there, I really hope you get some reassurance from the next tests. Xx

I am sorry not to mention everyone, but nice to be back, hi to the new faces, I am sorry you find yourselves here.

Sorry for the garbled message, just wanted to say hi before sleep Flowers

Rebeccaelizabethxo · 24/01/2015 22:11

Hormones are all over the place today. Woke up angry and trying to argue over nothing with other half. Been grouchy all day and now after seeing pictures of a friends toddler being the cutest thing possible I want to drown in a pool of my own tears. I think today calls for wine. Lots and lots of wine.

Brummiegirl15 · 24/01/2015 22:16

Rebecca wine is ace. I had 3 glasses tonight - Pinot Grigio Blush

Rebeccaelizabethxo · 24/01/2015 22:25

brummiegirl good on you ! I've just opened a bottle of Merlot and the cork was quite apt in saying "life is too short to drink bad wine"

Serena13 · 24/01/2015 22:56

Hello, I had 2 miscarriage, one about 10 week which was natural miscarriage I had spotted blood red and then I was bleeding heavily went to hospital they said if miscarriage was happen it will happen we can't do anything .i was left so devastated about what happened I lost the baby .so I gave it 1 year before I had my second pregnancy this was again was miscarriage was but was different I spotted brown blood and I knew something was bad I was so scared. I went to doctors he gave me appointment with epau I went there at 6 week they send there is a baby but the baby is measuring really small they gave me a viability leaflet because the baby is small there was no heartbeat come back in 2 week nd we will see if there is a heartbeat waiting was so hard I was crying scared.i went in 2 week the nurse scanned me and told me that I'm really sorry the baby has got no heartbeat I was so devastated .i opted to have the mva done the operation .been referred to miscarriage unit done routines blood test going to get my result on 30th .i can't cope if I go through another one .people say tht your young your only 21 .i dnt want my husnad to start resented me blaming me .thank you

Rebeccaelizabethxo · 25/01/2015 01:09

serena no one will blame you. I feel your pain as I am a similar age to you. Have some faith, I know it's hard, but we will get there some day. All my love to you, it's a hard time but we are strong women and we will get there one day. Xx

Serena13 · 25/01/2015 01:40

Thanks you I'm happy that I can talk to u lot I just feel that it will alway happen ,going to get my result on the 30 January from epau ward ,see what they say the cause is .

Belleende · 25/01/2015 07:46

Hi serena Sorry you find yourself here and sorry for your losses. Just a word of caution about your results. There is a reasonable chance that nothing will show up on these tests and you may need further investigation. I am not saying this to scare you, but it is horrible to be expecting clear answers only to get none, so you may want to prepare yourself just in case. The good news is, this is the place for advice and support, so you won't be lost.
barking I hope there is a big party in your womb right now.
oh and I have joined the baby aspirin gang, to help my old placenta along. It seems to be prescribed for everything.

Marchgirl · 25/01/2015 07:46

Hi serena, so sorry you find yourself here but this bunch of women are amazing and full of advice and support. You shouldn't ever feel you are to blame and don't give up hope. We have about 12 pregnancies on the board at the moment, some of them in the very late stages, so there is absolutely hope for us all. Glad you have got some testing done after 2. They mostly wait until you have had 3, so it is good that they're not. Do you know what tests they have done?

Rebecca, sorry you've had a bit of a hormone crash. The wine sounded nice! Are you still taking pregnancy vitamins? I found they helped me stay a bit more stable in the first few weeks after the mc (i had stopped them and felt awful, but was advised to start by the board and they helped)

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Justonemoretime · 25/01/2015 08:15

Serena, welcome and sorry for your losses. Hope you get some help. Remember, your chances are still very good. Sorry you've had to have this heartache in the mean time.

Belle, how come they prescribed your the baby aspirin? Was it something that came up at your 20 week scan? Hope it sorts you out and all is well?

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Justonemoretime · 25/01/2015 08:22

Also, Belle, were you on the heparin up to 12 weeks? Sorry for the questions, just wondering. Smile

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Rebeccaelizabethxo · 25/01/2015 08:25

march no I'm not, I was going to wait until the miscarriage was over and then start again ? Prehaps I'll start today though if the help to balance me out, went through the mill with emotions yesterday. The wine tool the edge off though Grin

longestlurkerever · 25/01/2015 08:34

Glad you had a good time bythesea. I have never been skiing or snowboarding. Sounds great.

Sorry you feel rubbish rebecca. I hope your oh is being understanding. I am in a grump with mine after he was crabby at me for keeping him awake coughing. .

Sorry you have had to join us serena. It really is rubbish but we keep each other sane and there are happy stories on here too.

girliesaints · 25/01/2015 08:56

Welcome Serena. Sorry for your losses and hope the lovely ladies on here can provide the help and support you're looking for.

I was told by my local epu unit to keep taking the pregnancy vitamins after my last MC as it helped the body recover and as you suppose to taking them 3 months before you ttc then it was planning to keep on trying then I shouldn't have a break.

Last night I went out for a friend's birthday and it was the type of event when you see people you haven't seen for years....

Lost count the amount times DH and I got asked when we were going to have a sibling for DD, or were we stopping at one. For once I was pretty cool (wine induced) smiled and replied and said we had two MC and we'll have to see what would happen in the future. It was brilliant as each person didn't know what to say! Ha, felt like I had control for my emotions for once!

Although wish I didn't have a wine induced headache this morning ??