Recurrent Miscarriage Support Thread 15 - tests, treatment and trying again

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Information, support, hand holding, tea, sympathy and a hell of a lot of combined knowledge - all welcome as we try to make sense of the RMC roller coaster of tests, NHS admin, heart ache and (hopefully) happy endings!
Please start with a recap of your stats :)

Sorry for being awol for so long and coming back when I need something but I had a faint (very faint, dog making me re-test tomorrow with digital before he acknowledges it - even I'm doubting it) bfp this morning. Feeling sick too but that could be sick with anxiety. Could it be 5th time lucky?!

Will go back and catch up with the thread now.

DH not dog!!!

Hello brummiegirl and sorry to hear what you've been through. I had ERPC in Nov and shaved my legs too, then was given those extremely attractive surgical stockings, so there wasn't any blooming point! Funny the range of things you're thinking as you go through these things...

Hello everyone, here are my stats.

Me 36, OH 34.

Mc 1 - Dec 2007, mmc @ 13 weeks, was 7 weeks ish. Previous relationship.
Mc 2 - April 2014, natural miscarriage at 11.5 weeks. Had had no scans so no info on what happened...
Mc 3 - Oct 2014, mmc @ 9 weeks, was 6.5 weeks. D&C, genetic testing came back normal.

I am now awaiting an appointment at the RMC with Mr Toisin Ajala on 16th Jan. I have had bloods taken, and GP told me it was clear for Lupus. We will see what the other results say. Due to ovulate on the same day as the appt so who knows if we will sneak in ttc this month...

(Sorry, seemed to skip a load of posts there, am a bit late to the new thread!)

Ooooooh Twilight this is exciting, have everything crossed for you! Let us know how tomorrow's test goes but a line today no matter how faint is a BFP! X

Twilight, what a nice start to the year! FX for this one.. x

Congrats twilight! That's great news for the new year. And I'm glad it wasn't your dog that made you retest. Was getting a bit worried about your mental state there

How exciting Twilight! Good luck for the retest tomorrow! Do you have a treatment plan sorted? Good luck!!!

Twilight, yippee x

Woo twilight!. Great start to the new thread and fwiw I don't think digitals are more accurate - just less sensitive - so don't be too gutted if it's negative.

Well I'm at Worcester and in a bed!! Hospital is currently on a level 4 and like a cheesy club, it's 1 in, 1 out. Literally.

But no theatre yet. Staying in overnight. Could be tonight could be tomorrow morning

But I'm here. That's the main thing

Good luck Brummie, hope they get you sorted. Enjoy the drugs, at least.

Brummie, thinking of you x

Good luck brummie

Fingers crossed twilight

Good stuff brimmed. Thinking of you

Or brummie, even. Not sure what my tablet was thinking of there.

Hope you get taken in soon brummie and that it all goes ok

Good luck Brummie x

Thinking of you brummie hope you don't have to wait too long now.

Congrats twilight

Good luck Brummie hope you're in tonight, or at least manage some sleep and get in first thing in the morning.

Great news twilight, everything crossed for a sticky one .

Hoping you get in soon brummie. Having to wait around is awful. Hope you manage a decent night if it ends up being the morning.

I have a treatment plan of cyclogest 400 twice a day and 75 mg aspirin (I think aspirin too anyway. I seem to have lost treatment plan). I was unexplained at St Mary's so that's it for me this go. I stupidly decided to trust St Mary's so haven't had nk testing.

Can I ask, how many of you are 'out' generally in regards to your mc's? DH is training for an event this year that he's going to get sponsorship for. After much discussion we've decided he should do it for the Miscarriage Association. Although most of our close friends and family know about our mc's, and we've never deliberately hidden it, our wider circle don't know; so it does feel a bit exposed, for want of a better word. But one of the things that gets me about mc is the secrecy around it. If you want to keep it to yourself that's your business and absolutely fine, but this apparent expectation I've seen too often that you should keep it private is just not right. So we're going public. It struck me that given this secrecy, it's a charity that will miss out on a lot of sponsorship as people might want to get involved but can't do so anonymously so don't.
That was a bit of a stream of consciousness there, sorry! You can see my train of thought that led to our decision though!

Barking, I wholeheartedly agree with you. We're 'out and proud', and have both raised money for Tommy's, and my blog details the warts and all mc journey we've been on. Good for you and your dh for doing something for such a good cause.

Good on you Barking. I am mostly "out" and was contemplating referencing the mcs on Facebook when I finally get round to mentioning the pregnancy but I have found people less, I don't know, warm, in their acknowledgment of the mcs now I am pregnant. When I told people before they always sound very sympathetic but if I say something like "it's a bigger gap than we'd hoped for" or "I am still very nervous because of several previous losses" I get more of a "er, yes, right" response. Weird.