Recurrent Miscarriage Support Thread 15 - tests, treatment and trying again

[Justonemoretime]

Information, support, hand holding, tea, sympathy and a hell of a lot of combined knowledge - all welcome as we try to make sense of the RMC roller coaster of tests, NHS admin, heart ache and (hopefully) happy endings!
Please start with a recap of your stats :)

Hey All! Sorry for the prolonged absence, slight incident involving my phone, a loo and a blank screen and then I quite enjoyed not being able to be contacted for a while so haven't rushed to replace it! I was, however, missing all you guys.
Brummie shit, shit news, I'm so sorry. Enforced breaks are rubbish too - I was terrible at them.
Hope everyone else is ok, I've had a quick scan back but also have two five year old girls singing frozen inches from my face!

Confession time... I have never seen Frozen

I wish I hadn't! I seem to have seared the songs into my head...

Just, my advice, keep it like that for as long as humanly possible!

The worst thing I ever did was teach the girls how to use the CD player - they just have it on repeat CONSTANTLY! Last night I had to ballet dance round the kitchen with them to it - it was special...

lol my niece loves it so I have read a few books with her but avoided the main event.
Right, I'm going to bit the bullet today and go to mothercare for some stretchy trousers. I've been improvising with hair bands and belly bands all week. I need something proper, I think. Mind you, I still just look like I've eaten all the pies, and I wouldn't say I've 'popped' yet. No more flutters, either. Hmmm. Holding my nerve... repeat: this is normal, this is normal...

Ha, thanks to the sales I now have more maternity clothes than I truly need and am trying to decide if I will grow into my maternity cozzie or if it will fall down in the pool.

I swore I would keep dd away from pink and princesses as long as possible and in many ways she is a tomboy but she seems drawn to floaty dresses, "girl" colours and all things royal. Grr!

OK girlie here are some more positives for the 'enforced waiting'

1. Prosecco
2. Stubby bottles of lager
3. Cycling
4. Runny eggs
5. A break from the hideous roller coaster that is my inner life for the last 2.5 years. (I find being pregnant really distressing- experience tells me it won't last at a ratio of 5:1)

Thanks longest, I'm dug in for the duration now!

I bought DS frozen soundtrack for Christmas as he loves it. That was really daft right?

just You should watch Frozen, it's ace!

I'm contemplating buying the Frozen soundtrack for DS, too... He has seen the film, and we have the DVD, but for some reason he doesn't want to watch it anymore - but he loves watching the song clips on youtube. Alternatively, I might just buy the songs off iTunes (DH will hate me ).

For me, the biggest Plus from taking a ttc break is/was getting back to a normal life, not having to spend every waking hour fretting about cycles, ovulation, poas etc. I can highly recommend it.

10 DPO here, and FertilityFriend has started to do that annoying thing when it tells you '34.2% of positive pregnancy test are reported before 10 DPO...' and giving me 16/100pts for early pregnancy signs. Not to mention that statement 'If you conceived this cycle your due date would be: September 23, 2015'
Yeah, a break from ttc has a lot to go for it...

girlie pâté sounds lovely, that was a favourite of mine when I was on an enforced break.

I'm feeling really down ladies. I don't know how to get myself out of it and don't know if I even dare, it might be wiser to stay down in case it's bad news. This pregnancy just feels so different (I know I could see this as a good thing, but I'm not sure it is).
With mc#3 I was really thirsty all the time, this time I have to force myself to drink - that can't be good. Not because of sickness, I just don't feel thirsty.
I'm not hungry (lost 5lbs), my boobs are sore but not as sore as with the other mcs. I feel nauseous every now and again but haven't been sick. No night sweats, I feel relatively normal (albeit teary and hormonal). I've decided I'm not going to the reassurance scan on weds (6 weeks) because if they can't see anything they will want me to come back the following weds - so I'd prefer to have bad news once instead of twice. I hope I'm wrong (after all I thought everything was fine when we saw the heartbeat with #3) but I just don't feel that pregnant. Sorry to be so egocentric I just can't turn to anyone else :(

ourday to be honest you sound quite pregnant. It really messes with your mood. My symptoms didn't kick in until a lot later and even then have come and gone so many times. I have never been actually sick, had night sweats or had sore boobs. Try and stay positive. Tyap. Xx

Glad I'm not the only one on an enforced break. Although panicking slightly about how long that might be.

Was planning on waltzing out of appt and straight into DTD. This may not happen then???

My main worry is that for me every cycle missed is more time that I'm wasting. I'm 38, 39 in October so for me, time is of the essence.

But, the main thing I can enjoy about an enforced break is the pressure off DTD and we can get back in the habit of doing it for fun rather than for "making a baby"

Plus DP and I love going out for really nice dinners and drinks. Long leisurely lunches that involve prosecco and nice wine. Looking forward to that.

But scared how long the wait will be

longest thank you - does this pregnancy feel different to your mcs? I wish I had a little window so I could see what was happening. I need to stay calm, I know that I can't change anything. Thank you xx

ourday a few months ago I was in exactly your position. I was a bit thirsty - but not the raging thirst of previous pregnancies. I was not particularly hungry, food just wasn't that interesting. Oddest of all I wasn't tired, people kept telling me how well I was looking. I was conviced that all was not well. I waited til 8 weeks for reassurance scan, as I wanted to avoid long periods of limbo. Two days before the scan the symptoms kicked in with a vengance and I am now 17 weeks pregnant. Symptom spotting, although unavoidable, is not the most reliable of yard sticks, they just vary too much from person to person and pregnancy to pregnancy. I do think waiting a bit longer than 6 weeks for the reassurance scan is a good idea. In previous pregnancies I went too ealry and it really wasn't helpful.

Brummie I always needed quite a break to recover between my mcs, so not enforced break, just my body telling me what I needed. I was gutted not to be pregnant before 40, we have all seen the fertility after 40 graphs. I booked a lovely holiday to Venice for my 40th to drown sorrows. Turns out that even though we weren't trying, a little sperm snuck through the week before my birthday, and I am just beginning to feel the first flutters of movement! I do think that what you lose form the biological clock you gain in terms of being more mentally and physically ready.

Just back from first pregnancy yoga class - completely blissed out - hence all the good vibes.
cloud loving the montster dispatching methids, sounds like you have a very practical young man on your hands. We will be going to NCT classes, not least of all as we should be moving Feb/March time, so will be good to make new friends. I know OH could suprise me and be amazeballs, I will give him the benefit of the doubt.

Frozen is a must for anyone of any age or sex. Particularly good if you're having a bad day. Quick burst of "let it go" always sorts me out.

Just been to a 4 year olds frozen birthday party (!) Got baby bombed and had a mum who I hadn't seen since our kids were 6 months old asked when I was going to have another one...... I smiled the whole way through.... Just!

Brummie- don't take my break as an normal example, as I am an extreme case. We have been talking about going private if can't get appointment brought forward but I will see what happens first.

Our day- your symptoms sounds just fine. My successful pregnancy I had no symptoms until 9 weeks whilst with the MC I've been knackered/ sick. Always wondered if sign my body was overcompensating. Remember as well that Bellende had the same panic as you as she said and she got the same advice from others x

Frozen is a must for anyone of any age or sex. Particularly good if you're having a bad day. Quick burst of "let it go" always sorts me out.

Just been to a 4 year olds frozen birthday party (!) Got baby bombed and had a mum who I hadn't seen since our kids were 6 months old asked when I was going to have another one...... I smiled the whole way through.... Just!

Brummie- don't take my break as an normal example, as I am an extreme case. We have been talking about going private if can't get appointment brought forward but I will see what happens first.

Our day- your symptoms sounds just fine. My successful pregnancy I had no symptoms until 9 weeks whilst with the MC I've been knackered/ sick. Always wondered if sign my body was overcompensating. Remember as well that Bellende had the same panic as you as she said and she got the same advice from others x

belle wow that is fab to know, I've cried at both yours and longest replies, it's very reassuring and I hope these are good signs for me too. That is also fab advice for brummie I found out that on my break whilst waiting for my results that my periods went from 36 days to 30 with ovulation going from cd20 to cd16, made me wonder if it was what my body needed.

girlie thank you, think I must have been typing when your reply popped up. Yes I'm definitely going to try and stay positive since you ladies have had similar and all has been well. Thank you - wish I would have posted all this yesterday when the doubt started to seep in xx

I've never had a successful pregnancy so no idea what to look for as being a good sign

Ourday I know it's hard but try not to worry about not having to many symptoms yet. Remember every pregnancy is different. With my dd we were on honeymoon in nz for 4 weeks after conception and i had no symptoms at all, and had no idea I was pregnant. They came on with a vengeance at 7 weeks. I'm sure they will appear soon but in the meantime try to make the most of feeling well. (Easier said than done,I know)

Good to see you back boozle. How many weeks are you now?

Ourday, try not to worry (impossible, I know). I was feeling fin and spotting until 7 ish weeks, and am 16 weeks now. I'd also say go for the early scan if you can face it; there is evidence (according to prof Regan's book) that reassurance scans and TLC actually can contribute to a positive outcome. I know they're scary - I was in tears before I'd got my trousers off at my first early scan this time, but felt better for being proactive. Its a personal choice, though.
Just returned from maternity shopping hell with v little to show for it. Going to look online this afternoon. Another week of hair bands holding my trousers up...

Just I liked Jojo Maman trousers, Mothercare one were just terrifying!

can't escape Frozen here either despite having boys. Ds2 went to an amazing totally over the top Frozen party last weekend and now wants one when he is five....

Thank you just and march seems to be lucky number (week) 7 then. I have read prof reagans book but at my epau the nurses aren't always as sensitive as they should be and I worry that it would be stressful for that reason. Maybe a private one would be better, I'm not sure

Thanks Baking, just ordered a few bits in the sale :)
Ourday, sorry your EPU are not as supportive as they might be, the last thing you need. Hope you are able to relax a bit through the coming weeks, whatever you decide to do. Hugs to you.