Recurrent Miscarriage Support thread 14 - tests, treatment, trying again

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Information, support, hand holding, tea, sympathy and a hell of a lot of combined knowledge - all welcome as we try to make sense of the RMC roller coaster of tests, NHS admin, heart ache and (hopefully) happy endings!
Please start with a recap of your stats :)

Yay Bootles!!

Welcome SJ sorry to read your post and for your losses . It's hard to accept one but two is even harder. I would ask your GP to run some blood tests, mine ran some for me after two. Like blood clotting, hormone and thyroid. Do mind me asking how long you've been TTC? Do you have any DH?

Hugs to Cloud, this journey is so so hard but I believe you WILL get there. Try to enjoy a few well earned glasses of over Christmas and know that 2015 will be a better year for you!

Excellent news Bootles, getting past the 8 mark is a big milestone. Really happy for you .

I wont be back on here until after Christmas now as me and DH are off to the peak district for a quiet time of peace and reflection.

I wish you all a very merry Christmas and good fortune and health for 2015. Healthy babies and happy endings are ahead for us all.

Longest keeping fingers crossed for you and DH too.

xxxx

Fab news bootles !!

Great news bootles! Hooray!

Cat have a lovely break - me and OH are also off for a few quiet days' reflection on the Welsh borders on Sunday. Sometimes it feels like what's needed.

Cloud that sucks. I agree with baking - riotously drunk until after Christmas.

Hello SJ, I'm sorry to hear what you've been through. Everyone on here is ace, so it's a good place to be when bad stuff has happened. I found my second m/c the hardest, so you have lots of sympathy from me.

excellent Bootles! 10mm in 10 days, what a little grower!

Fantastico bootles with all the great scan news you would think it was Christmas. I predict Jan will see a run of bfps.
Just finished worK. Two weeks off sheer bliss.

Bootles- Great news to round off all the recent scans.

Have a fab time Cat, think you've earnt a good break.

Oh Cloud, pants news & timing but on a small positive you can now have a prescription of lots of ????????????????

Sj- welcome to the thread & sorry for your losses. There's a few of us in a similar position to yourself, feel free to ask any questions you have or vent as much as you want. I have managed to get an referral after two MCs after seeing my GP (EPU clinic weren't initially interested) My biggest learning from the lovely ladies on here is don't accept the first medical opinion you get if you're not happy with it x

Bellende- don't tempt me with talk of bfp, I'm desperately trying not to ttc again until I have my appointment in the new year. Better not have too many ???? this weekend! Enjoy your two weeks off lovely lady x

Welcome sj sorry that you find yourself here, and for your losses. Indeed the second one really tends to bowl you over. I agree with all that the others have said, and hope you will find useful information and support on here. You will - it's a lovely group of ladies on here.

Dammed AF..sorry cloud. Its so gutting, month after month. This is such a tough time of year too, when you're feeling down, but I hope you manage to have some quality time, and are able to ingulge in whatever it is that gets you through. Then roll on 2015 and that consultant appointment, and plenty of DTD. Personally I think they will tell you all is NOT lost.

cat and flen enjoy the quiet reflection, I hope its peaceful.

Welcome sj, sorry that you find yourself here although it is the best place for you. There is a wealth of knowledge and as much hope as there is heartbreak, and amazing support 24/7.

Feeling quite emotional this am. Going to a friends house tomorrow for christmas party. Over the years this has morphed from pissed up twenty somethings misbehaving to tiddly thirty somethings with several kids in tow. I suppose it has been one of those annual landmarks, where I have thought, maybe this time next year I will have a bump or a new born. I didn't go last year, it had gotten too hard. Now it is tomorrow and I have a little bump, and I can't stop crying! I think I may not be the ideal party guest.

Great news bootles!! Really delighted.

Aw, belle. You have been waiting so long too. Enjoy your bump. Have you told friends yet?

Can I have a bit of a handhold please? Am waiting for dh to come out of his colonoscopy and am feeling very tearful. My dad died of bowel cancer when I was 25. Dh's dad died of the same thing when dh was 21. Have always been scared of this possibility. Xx

Longest, hand holding for you. There's probably nothing to worry about (although you are sensible to be cautious). But, you and dh are in the right place, doing the right thing. Even if there is a problem, catching things early means really successful treatments. Did you know, the dj Chris Evans has a similar family history and has a colonoscopy every year to make sure that anything that does happen is caught early? But I'm sure your dh will get the all clear and then you can enjoy the holidays without it playing on your minds. ((hugs))

He is fine! Nothing even to send off for testing! Brave old thing even managed without the sedative so weekend plans are back on. Merry Christmas everybody!

Thanks just. Crossed posts. Df's surgeon told me we should have annual screening from age 35 which is next year. Apparently they can remove all polyps before they turn cancerous. If only df and fil had screening, dd and this bump would still have their grandads. Oh well, at least they will have their daddy!

Brilliant news, Longest , enjoy your weekend!
Hope the party goes ok, Belle.

Oh longest. Best wishes for your dh. Fingers crossed it won't be anything like that. My dad had bowel cancer just over 5 years ago and it was scary, but he's just had his 5 years all clear, so please don't think the worst even if that is the diagnosis. It will hopefully be something much less serious than that but he's doing the right thing getting it checked. Hugs

Cross post. Was trying to find the right words but that's great news!

Thanks march! Pleased to hear about your dad too. Xx

longest I am so pleased for you both! Now it's time for some very deserved relaxation.

belle hugs, I can completely understand how overwhelming that feels. It makes me feel a bit tearful thinking about it!

Longest- brilliant news and an excellent start to the festive season. Hope you do something nice today to celebrate.

Belle- hope you enjoy your party and if you want to be, be the centre of attention with your bump, or be smug knowing that they are there with you.

I've got my girly night tonight and I'm going but going straight to the restaurant and avoiding seeing my friends baby. One of my best friends has offered to come with me and miss the baby hugging so I'm not alone, which is lovely of her. Determine to enjoy myself and about to take dh to grandparents for sleepover so I can go to hairdressers and then have a luxury afternoon getting ready in peace as OH will be at football. Hope everyone else is enjoying the weekend x

Brilliant news longest

girlie and belle enjoy your night out. I shall be staying in watching Strictly and entertaining Madam, who has decided sleep is for wimps.

longest big hand hold from me. Two things, the chances are it will not be cancer, but something less worrying lots of stuff can go wrong with the guts. Second thing is, I work in cancer research and so much has changed in the last ten years. Cancers are being caught earlier, treatments are so much more effective, the nhs has really upped its game, so it really isn't as scary a prospect as it once was, although with your family history it must be a constant worry. You will get through this, and it will be ok.

Shit missed your post. Fab news. The screening programme really does work, but yes it is such a shame that so many lives were lost as we only have had the programme for the last few years. So pleased for you. You might want to ask about genetic testimg and/or taking part in a prevention study. I think there is a big aspirin trial on going.

Bless you Bakingtins, remember how tough when little madam's decide they don't like sleeping. Hopefully she'll behave tonight x

Great news longest!!