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Recurrent Miscarriage Support - tests, treatment, trying again - thread 12

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bakingtins · 13/09/2014 20:32

Welcome everyone! A thread for anyone who has suffered recurrent losses and is in need of support, information, moral support or tea and sympathy. Newbies very welcome.

Please can we start (as is traditional) with a recap of where we are on 'the journey'.

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Justonemoretime · 31/10/2014 08:23

Tiny, I keep one on my lanyard at work. There are a couple of other ladies who have had RMC or support SANDS, so I don't feel too weird about it. Some of my 6th formers know about mc 3 as we were discussing tfmr in ethics and I told them about my turner syndrome baby in that context. The way I see it, it's a part of my life and so I wear the pin.

TinyTear · 31/10/2014 08:24

Good idea Just shall start again next week

Belleende · 31/10/2014 08:39

curtains march so sorry for what you are dealing with. I have always found the periods of limbo the hardest to deal with, but when you really aren't expecting it, it must be really tough.
tiny hope you have another reassuring scan. I have my first in two weeks. Time is going soooooooo slowly.

I have been having rude and very odd dreams too, mine involved a swedish shipyard. I am 6 + 2, could this be the placenta kicking in (hopeful face)

I am feeling vv knackered atm and a bit breathless.

TinyTear · 31/10/2014 08:46

Swedish Shipyard Grin

Justonemoretime · 31/10/2014 08:51

Glad its not just me, Belle, although yours sounds more elaborate than mine! Grin

Justonemoretime · 31/10/2014 08:53

DH has just done my injection as I didn't have the nerve... must overcome that... Shock

TinyTear · 31/10/2014 08:55

my DH didn't even want to look.

I tended to do mine at 7-ish pm when I had time to sit for 10 minutes afterwards - i found it minimised bruises

Marchgirl · 31/10/2014 09:14

Thanks for all the nice messages everyone. After a few years last night I've tried to turn it into a positive as it must just be my body saying it needs a bit more time to recover this time.

Good luck today tanny. Hope your wee one behaves for the scan

tannyLoo · 31/10/2014 09:32

Thanks, I feel so much more relaxed (a majority of the time) since I can feel movement regularly.

Just I developed a whole ritual for the injections, also in the evening, getting comfy on the bed with something good to watch on the laptop and a nice drink. My biggest tips are to test the site with the tip of the needle until you find somewhere less tender, usually below and to one side of my bellybutton, and to do everything really slowly. Inject at your own pace, you're not a stressed nurse, so you can take your time. It never stopped being unpleasant, tbh, but I also felt that I was making a difference, which was empowering in a weird way...

No really sexy dreams for a while here, but some earlier on, and my libido is in overdrive! Would happily get it on every night if I wasn't so bastard tired! Blush Grin

Justonemoretime · 31/10/2014 11:28

Thanks Tanny, I've been doing mine in the thigh (well, nurse and Dh did them) and it didn't hurt too much. I guess it all goes into your system and she said thighs or tummy were fine. I plan to move it around daily. Luckily the school nurse has said she can help me if I need it, too, so I can do that if I need to. Or get over it and do it myself! Wink
Glad its to hear you're feeling full of beans, anyway! Wink

Itscurtainsforyou · 31/10/2014 17:32

Thanks all. I think I'm finding it hard because the bleeding had stopped and I was feeling much better in myself, also because I know there's no chance of dates being out. Hoping it all happens soon.

Marchgirl · 31/10/2014 18:51

Oh curtains, that's totally crap. It's awful to be in limbo when you thought you were getting on with things. And 10 days between scans is such a long time. They only made me wait a week between for confirmation. Can they not scan sooner? Sad
Fingers crossed for it to all be over soon. Have you thought about getting the products (sorry, horrible word) tested? I know it's probably the last thing you want to think about but might help to give you closure. Hugs Flowers

longestlurkerever · 31/10/2014 18:55

march. I had that wait with two of mine, though not after as long bleeding as you. It's cruel really as you know you're not wrong but a tiny part of you wants to believe you might be. I actually felt better when bleeding started in earnest and left no doubt.

Awful, awful news from the pregnancy after mc thread. A poster who supported me through mc2 delivered her baby at 27 weeks and he died a week later. Everyone's worst nightmare. Can't stop thinking about her.

longestlurkerever · 31/10/2014 18:56

Sorry, curtains, not march. Head not working

Flen · 31/10/2014 19:13

Curtains that is so hard, I'd push for an earlier scan if poss. We just had to wait a week and that was hell, so I can't imagine how having to wait any longer must feel.

Flen · 31/10/2014 19:15

And March that is horrible. Thinking of you and sorry to hear it is going on so long.

tannyLoo · 31/10/2014 19:58

Me too, longest, its just awful.

Justonemoretime · 31/10/2014 20:05

What a shock. I haven't been on that thread for a while but I have checked tonight and its so sad. I guess she's off for a while to recover, understandably. Sad

TinyTear · 31/10/2014 20:15

Oh that's so sad. I never really joined the thread

Marchgirl · 31/10/2014 21:42

Oh gosh. That's so sad. Everyone's worst nightmare.

Itscurtainsforyou · 31/10/2014 22:20

What a complete nightmare for her. Life is so inexplicably cruel sometimes.

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bakingtins · 01/11/2014 10:02

That's so sad. There is no justice in any of this. Sad

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Purplefrogshoes · 01/11/2014 11:03

Hugs march and curtains Sad

I'm still really struggling with sickness, got sent home from work yesterday, even though I'm over 11 weeks I still can't bring myself to tell anyone, maybe I will just wait until it's obvious

Hope everyone is doing ok

Marchgirl · 01/11/2014 11:43

I feel for you purple. The sickness is utterly miserable although hopefully a good sign of a strong pregnancy.
I read an interesting article about telling people about pregnancy, which questioned why we feel the need to keep it quiet. I know there are reasons why we might not want to if we worry about jinxing it or whatever, but it really made me think about whether I would keep it quiet next time or not, particularly from those that i would tell about a future m/c anyway. It would certainly make it easier if people just knew. I'll try and find the link to the article

Flen · 01/11/2014 12:10

March was it this one?

medium.com/the-archipelago/im-pregnant-so-why-cant-i-tell-you-271659d03f36

I read it recently and it really chimed with me (although it is not written by someone who went on to have a miscarriage). In our last pregnancy both myself and my partner agreed that we would tell people, where appropriate, because we both felt we would need the support. We also had the horrible experience during our second miscarriage of having to tell people it was happening when they didn't know we were pregnant to begin with. Of course everyone makes their own choice, but we have really felt that it helped with the most recent loss.