Recurrent Miscarriage Support - tests, treatment, trying again - thread 12

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Welcome everyone! A thread for anyone who has suffered recurrent losses and is in need of support, information, moral support or tea and sympathy. Newbies very welcome.

Please can we start (as is traditional) with a recap of where we are on 'the journey'.

Re: counselling, really do treat it like you would shopping for anything - you need to find the right one! And have a look at the differing approaches too, you'll get a sense of what "fits" you best.

This is quite a useful resource: www.itsgoodtotalk.org.uk/what-is-therapy (it also has a link to "types of therapy" and "find a therapist" with searches for in your location and the kind of therapist).

It can be SUCH a useful experience, but I think lots of people don't find the right person, or (esp, if it is on the NHS) just go for what is offered.

Hope you don't mind me pitching in with this - it's what I know!

Good luck today purple, will be thinking of you.

Good luck purple and just

boozle I am writing a symptom diary. Just 2-3 times a day noting how sore my boobs are (now 7/10), how thirsty I am, how tired I am (8/10) and how much I am going to the loo (4/10, but will get higher as day goes on). I may even plot it on a graph at the weekend as I am part geek. It has helped to reassure me.

Good luck purple and just

Oh a thought, there is a charity, Anxiety UK, based in Manchester but provide access throughout the UK for therapy services at low cost. Could be worth a look if anyone wants to try something outside of counselling?

Good luck purple & just- thinking of you x

Thanks for all the hand holding, in waiting room now. Lots to catch up on will update later

Good luck purple! Fx for you.

news from me, had 16w midwife app and heard a HB
it was great as with DD they couldn't find it at this appointment

still bloody nervous till the 20w scan, but can breathe a little bit

Belle that's a great idea - might actually give me a focus other than shitting myself! Hopefully getting heparin on Monday so that will also make me feel like I'm doing something! We find out the results of the last d and c on Monday too so it's going to be a funny old day. It's so sad I don't even get a tiny bit of the warm fuzzy feeling I used to with a BFP.

Great news, Tiny! x

Yay tiny

Good news from me too, everything fine and dates now match up so 11 weeks.

Dr thinks I'm a loon as I burst into tears, they made me appointment for the midwife for next week so I will be 12 weeks booking in.

Sorry on my phone and need to rush to work so will check in later and catch up with news.

Thanks again for all the hand holding, you are all fabulous

Purple, amazing, wonderful news! x

yay Purple!

11w is great
:-)

Yay purple!

This thread is very lucky !!

Great news, purple and tiny, keep them comin'!

Re counselling - I agree that you should 'click' with your counsellor, you are talking about incredibly personal things, after all.
Reading all your experiences, I realise how lucky I have been with mine, she is brilliant. Very gentle, yet determined to get to the bottom of things - it's not always comfortable, but it's never unpleasant in any way. She has/is helping me a lot. She is, however, specialised in dealing with mc/loss, so I imagine that gives her a distinct advantage over someone who is not so familiar with this.

Not much new from my end... I've been getting some very weird spotting in the last couple of days, Af is due any day now, but as usual, I fret about whether it has started or if it's still just spotting. So annoying, I never had that before!
Feeling very sad and desolate at the moment Thinking that this is it, I will never have another baby. Everything is such a struggle, and I would love to be at peace, one way or the other. But I'm not...
Which is not helped by the fact that I am meeting with a friend tonight who is 20+ weeks pregnant... Fortunately, she told me via email before, so I've had time to get used to that news. Looking forward to seeing her, but it's going to be a tough one.
It's just everywhere. All the others from my baby group have had their second babies now (except one other who is also struggling with RMCs), and I look at all of them and their babies, desperately wishing I could join. The idea that DS might be an only child is still breaking my heart.

Tiny and Purple that is brilliant! So pleased for you both x

Sorry missed your news Tiny!!! You are definitely in the safe zone now fx.

Brilliant news purple and tiny. So lovely to hear this positive news.
Sorry you're feeling so rubbish cloud. It's all just crap isn't it. Feels so unfair when you get left behind your other friends from number 1. Definitely feeling that too this week with various announcements.

The place I went for counselling actually did specialise in m/c. Her opener was "I've had a miscarriage" but I think it would have meant more if she'd actually said how difficult she found it etc, but it was just a statement, followed by silence. It felt a bit like she was trying to justify herself.

The cognitive hypnotherapy sounds good. And also thanks for the link flen, I'll have a look. I told myself before I went that if i felt we didn't click i'd say so and ask for another counsellor, but it turns out it's not that easy in practice!

Yeay tiny and purple. cloud, I am so sorry you feel so low. Please don't give up hope. I have everything crossed for you and everyone on this thread that we get our happy endings.

Not much news from me. Whittington has lost my referral form so I still have no booking in appointment or 12 week scan but that's ok. One step at a time - next st Mary's scan is a week today.

Looking after three kids today as it's half term and nurseries are closed. It is Hard Work tbh. 2/3 are napping now thank goodness but dd never naps any more despite being shattered and under the weather so she is just grumpy.

Cloud - so sorry you are feeling low. I go through these phases myself and am so jealous of friends and colleagues who have had easy rides. Girls who delayed getting pg but still found it easy in late thirties. When I feel low I remind myself how lucky I am to have a healthy DS.

I finally had my rmc appointment for bloods for karyotyping and so now another 8 weeks wait for those results. They scanned me and told me I had ovulated - good news and I had PCO - bad news! But that since I didn't present any other symptoms they would do anything about the PCO. I had previously seen privately a doctor who prescribed me metformin on the whim which I guess I will continue taking given the NHS confirmation.

I think next month we will start TTC as I don't want to wait more for NHS results. In two minds about visiting conventry - my last mc was trisomy so they can't do much about that but the scratch benefits are tempting.

Great news tiny and purple

cloud I'm sorry you are feeling so down about it all. Very hard to see friends jump the queue. I hope your friend handles it with some grace this evening and you are able to have a good time.

Agh, spotting again Trying to stay positive but its not easy...

Just - try to keep yourself busy today. Hopefully tomorrow's scan can relieve your anxiety.

Thanks Triple, busy marking 30 essays on good and evil.... and chasing the cat who escaped from his box when I was putting him in the car to go to the vets... I should probably have a nice cup of tea or something. Cat is fine, but we're going to leave the jabs for another day...