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Recurrent Miscarriage Support - tests, treatment, trying again - thread 12

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bakingtins · 13/09/2014 20:32

Welcome everyone! A thread for anyone who has suffered recurrent losses and is in need of support, information, moral support or tea and sympathy. Newbies very welcome.

Please can we start (as is traditional) with a recap of where we are on 'the journey'.

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squizita · 22/09/2014 12:41

Hi all. I was on this thread this time last year. Long story short... 3 losses, 1 was a partial molar ... got referred to St Marys and diagnosed with sticky blood, heparin/aspirin/loads of scans when next pregnant.

I thought it might give you guys a boost to heat the end of my story. A year on and I just brought my healthy 6 lb 14 oz baby girl home from hospital. In fact the birth centre because the meds worked so well I was a low risk gas/air and pool case by term.

All thanks to my RM clinic and the NHS.
Sending you all my testing and pregnancy good luck vibes!!!!
It's shit when you're low and uncertain but they can do so much nowadays!Grin

squizita · 22/09/2014 12:44

Lol just realised the Goss has reached you guys already!! Grin

charlieis30 · 22/09/2014 14:25

Argh, AF appears to have arrived. 2 weeks after the last one. B*tch. She's not welcome at my house :/

twilightstruggle · 22/09/2014 14:53

Fab news Sqizita. Congratulations and thank you for taking the time to pop over and give us all a morale boost.

Charlie - what an utter cow bag your AF is! She can bugger right off as far as I'm concerned!

charlieis30 · 22/09/2014 14:59

Thanks twilight we'll send her on her way with burning torches and pitchforks :)

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bakingtins · 22/09/2014 17:10

Fantastic news squiz so pleased you finally have her in your arms! Congratulations!

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WigglyBraddins · 22/09/2014 21:06

Aw squizita that is a lovely story and has cheered me up no end. Thank you for sharing. Well done and congratulations Flowers

girliesaints · 23/09/2014 07:15

Love the image of Charlie& Twilight with pitching forks!

Back to the hospital this morning for follow up after last mc to check everything has cleared Hmm Going to take the opportunity to raise again about further investigations, particularly as both MCs have happened at the same point (8wk measure 6 wk, heart beat seen initially but stopped) I don't think I'll have much luck as my pct seems to stick to the three occasions rule but it's worth a shot

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bakingtins · 23/09/2014 07:29

Hope you get the all clear girlie and good luck with asking for tests. AFAIK it's relatively unusual to have that pattern of miscarriages (sounds v similar to mine) as for most chromosome disorders (with the exception of some of the trisomies) the embryo never really gets going. Worth asking that question anyway - what can cause this pattern of losses? Hope you get a sympathetic hearing.

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girliesaints · 23/09/2014 08:02

Thanks Baking. I'm all cheered up so I would hate to who ever is seeing me at the clinic today! I do feel as I'm just about to embark on a battle...

Hope everyone else has a good day x

Bristolian1 · 23/09/2014 08:37

Good luck with that Girlie. I hope you get closure from this mc and some progress with tests. Thinking of you.

Thanks for sharing your story squizita it is so good to hear a positive outcome.

Sorry to hear about AF just and charlieCake

charlieis30 · 23/09/2014 09:37

got my chromosome test results from mc2... trisomy 15. feel so relieved to have an answer and know there was nothing i could have done. the relief!

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bakingtins · 23/09/2014 09:40

That's good, charlie (what a strange thing to say, 'tis an odd place indeed that we are all in) I'm sure having a reason, and particularly one that is unlikely to be repeated, makes it easier to come to terms with. Is that your all clear to TTC then?

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charlieis30 · 23/09/2014 09:51

Yes the gp gave me an all clear. I've had strange cycles, af on day 30 after erpc, then af again day 12 after that. She thinks i may have ovulated twice in quick succession. Apparently all is well now so shoukd be good to go, have told me I can have week 8 early scan at epu next time as well.

To me this is the best possible result from an awful situation.

Bristolian1 · 23/09/2014 10:15

Really pleased to hear your positive news charlie, I'm waiting for genetic testing results and I have to say that is the result I am hoping for (strange strange situation that this is!). How long did your results take to come through?

girliesaints · 23/09/2014 10:28

Charlie- pleased you got some answers Smile

I'm back from my appointment this morning and I've been given the all clear after the last mc but they are refusing to investigate as "they only find an answer in less than 1% of the cases" Confused

Appreciate that they might not find a reason but frustrated its a flat no. Only concession is they will scan me early at the epu next time.

Well I'm not going to let it stop me, off to make an appointment at my GP to see if I can get a more sympathetic reason. In the meantime off to John Lewis to enjoy my free cake and drink Grin

Bristolian1 · 23/09/2014 10:49

Sorry to hear that girlie and best if luck with the GP. Hope john's free cake makes you feel better!

charlieis30 · 23/09/2014 10:52

girlie that sucks, I'm sorry. I had an erpc and it was my GP who mentioned that I could pay for it so we went for that option as it was my 2nd MC. The first was a natural one so no idea what caused it. Did you get offered the thyroid trial by the hospital? I accepted so they tested my blood and it came back normal, at least it meant one thing ticked off the list. I know some GPs will hive a couple of the blood tests after 2 mcs.

bristolian my results were pretty quick, 4 weeks. They sent the results to the hospital not to my GP so I had to get the GP to follow up to request from the testing company. The hospital has never got in touch with me to tell me they have them so probably worth following up yourself.

butterfly86 · 23/09/2014 11:15

I haven't been on this thread for ages but I saw on another thread squizita had her baby, massive congratulations enjoy every moment of your precious baby girl you got there at last :) I hope it gives other people hope, I also gave birth to a baby girl in june following 4 miscarriages and never thought I would ever hold a baby in my arms, dont give up ladies if you can fight you will hopefully all get there in the end.

charlieis30 · 23/09/2014 11:25

thanks butterfly I love hearing positive stories xx

tannyLoo · 23/09/2014 11:32

Butterfly lovely to hear from you!

Charlie glad the result was definitive. Weird place indeed!

I got the job and start on Monday!

longestlurkerever · 23/09/2014 11:38

Sorry squiz - couldn't help but share your happy news! We are all delighted for you.

charlie - pleased for you too that you have an answer. I hope it gives you confidence that next time will be the one.

just - I am so sorry. Have you spoken to Coventry yet?

Am flying to Oz this evening. Will check in from time to time but am going to try and take the opportunity to unwind a bit. Not a great start as dd hit her head and had to take a last minute trip to A&E (all fine), plus a hunt round the woods for lost toy this morning (thankfully found this time) so now am feeling frazzled and unprepared but hey ho. Haven't been sleeping very well at all since my bfp so am slowly turning into a zombie. Scan is booked for the day we fly back though!

Bristolian1 · 23/09/2014 11:39

Congratulations tanny what great news!

TinyTear · 23/09/2014 12:10

great news tanny
Another friend of mine also changed jobs when pregnant

lurker have a great holiday and we will be looking forward to hearing all about your scan when you get back

TinyTear · 23/09/2014 12:12

and i just had my last counselling session.
it worked that with the cousellor ebing ill, then me having a meeting, then she having something else and we had only had 2 sessions (or 3) and then none for 4 weeks and I said i felt better and wasn't sure it was worth continuing.

i think i didn't click very much with her - she was nice, but not sure right for me - so this is it...

of course if things end up badly i can always refer myself back to them and see how it all goes...