Recurrent Miscarriage Support - tests, treatment, trying again - thread 10

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Welcome everyone - pull up a chair! A thread for anyone who has suffered multiple miscarriages and is in need of information, moral support, tea or sympathy. Newbies very welcome.

Can we start the thread with a recap of where we are all up to again, please?

longest if there is a possible link between sleep apnea and mc, I reckon you may as well cover all the bases and keep the go appointment. Even if its not the cause, if you do have sleep apnoea it must be making you tired.

barking which book is that? Some of the stresses of the last few years are finally starting to be resolved, and I think its time to be strict with myself - early nights, best diet possible, supplements, relaxation, acupuncture - who knows if it will help any future pregnancies but it can only be good for me anyway. Hope the holiday is going well.

Go not go

Try again..gp not go

cat I could just about squeeze in 45 Mina on a lunch break. Will look into it. Thanks for the encouraging words. How are you? The dreaded 2ww..hope you find some nice things to do for you in that time.

Trouble is I don't really do much in the way of relaxation..I have been so busy dealing with the said stresses, early pregnancy, mc, and trying to focus on my DS (he is usually the best tonic for me but not necessarily relaxing as such!) I used to like running, wine and film at home, stuff like that. May have to lay off the wine, but need to make time for relaxing again.

Morning bootles you do need some you time, hard as that is with a little one. I'm sure running again would do you a lot of good but I know it's hard to find the energy when you're ttc.

I would totally recommend some yoga if you can find somewhere that teaches it properly - I go to a dru yoga centre as I found yoga at leisure centres to be a waste of time.

I'm fine thank you. Trying to inject some positivity in to myself ATM. Got my friend's wedding today and I'm off work until Thursday so it's all good!

XX

Keep going with the positivity cat, and enjoy the wedding and time off. And try to believe it can happen for you..on the meds and TTC is a step on the way x

Glad you're feeling good Cat! Your week sounds lovely. I am off on holiday tomorrow too. Only to Wales but looking forward to seeing the sea. Bootles - I agree about the stress. The link with sleep apnoea was based on the increased stress hormones your body produces as a result of panic over not being able to breathe. The thing is I don't think I have sleep apnoea so feel a bit silly going to ask about it, but one thing I read said all women with infertility or miscarriage should get checked for it so along with the heavy snoring I thought I should make an appointment. But that advice was from a pretty evangelical site by some sleep expert so probably a bit over the top.

bootles it's 'The mind body fertility connection' by James Schwartz

waves to all- on my phone. I'm reading that book, too, barking, and have started cognitive hypnotherapy. got a thing to listen to at night and a session on Monday. We'll see. I think there's something in it, tho, as you always hear of couples who stop trying and immediately fall pg. I'm using the school hols to 'get my shit together', as it were.
Tanny, enjoy London. I'm off there today to see the tiger who came to tea with sister and niece and then back to the future later (fx). Am all dressed up in my retro frock
Enjoy the wedding, cat, and def get everything checked out longest, it can't hurt.
How are you doing , Bootle?
x

It's hard trying to relax when your mind is constantly doing overtime, thinking about ttc, mc and all that goes with it.
Love reading what all you ladies do for relaxing! While I'm not a hundred per cent convinced about the being stressed having an impact on falling/staying pg, I think there is a lot to be said about being in the right frame of mind, and I think it's very important to have 'me time'.

I tried the fertility yoga, but I have to say, I really struggled to relax during the sessions - it usually took me right to the end, when they did a 10min lie-down, with lights low, and the teacher speaking in a lulling voice, until I managed to chill out a bit.
However, I did notice I felt calmer afterwards, back at home, so maybe it was a delayed effect... I'm not sure I will go back when they start again in September (the teacher is away for the holidays), will have to see where I am then.

I find I relax much better when I have a massage or reflexology, something in that line. Or a facial!
At the moment, exercise is my main strategy - if I put enough effort into it, then I am so tired afterwards that I can't help but relax That's why I like going to classes at the gym, where I can just follow the instructions that are being shouted at me, without having to think. Running is good, too, just to switch off. I'm doing the C25K at the moment, which I am really enjoying.

I really need to find a reflexologist that will be happy to treat me! Having had a DVT a few years ago, they always want a signed letter from the GP that I can have reflexology - but my GP doesn't want to give me one because she claims she doesn't know enough about it to be comfortable signing. Hmph.

We are planning a trip to the Suffolk coast on Sunday, if the weather is nice, picnic on the beach and just chillin' (I hope).

JBrd, I find exercise helps, too. Especially swimming. I also realized that I need to reconnect with my body, which I was basically angry with. the hypnotherapy is supposed to remove or disconnect the emotional elements from my memories so that I can move on. that's the theory, anyway xx

Just I saw that. It was fab! Even more jealous about back to the future though. Love it!

BTW if anyone Lesley Regan's book about miscarriage, I can send it on. Baking sent it to me a while ago and I would like to pass it on (on the disclaimer i need to find it... it's somewhere in the house)

I would like to read it please Tiny though would obviously need to refund you for postage, unless you're ever passing my house or office.

No worries, PM me your address or we could meet up one lunchtime.

I work by St Paul's / Ludgate Circus

Great, thanks Tiny. Tried to PM you but let me know if it didn't work. If anyone wants to read it after me let me know.

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Blimey, 968 messages - we will be going to thread 11 soon!

Just got back from GP. She doesn't think I have sleep apnoea and didn't recommend anything for snoring, but didn't make me feel too silly (examined my throat and made me fill in a questionnaire) so glad I went I guess. She is approving of my get fit plan so will attempt to put that into action this week. Will look at C25K. Used to do a bit of running but haven't for ages so maybe starting from scratch would be good - and along the beach this week would be a nice way to start.

That is good. unfortunately for snoring losing weight is the only thing that helps... i also snore terribly (according to my lovely husband)

Yeah, I've always snored though, even when slimmer, and dh reckons it's got better recently if anything. To be fair to him he is the one person who rarely moans about it. If I go away with friends they all refuse to share with me!

longest its good you don't seem to have sleep apnoea..box ticked.

I used to do lots of exercise and it was definitely my stress buster. Gym and running mainly. Did bikram yoga for a bit - the one in a purposefully appallingly hot room, but the next day every muscle hurt so it must have been good for me. Now I am active, walk loads and run around after a 3 yr old, but not the same for stress busting.

I don't necessarily think some stress makes much difference to getting and staying pregnant, but for me personally, the high levels of constant stress that has covered all the main areas of life, I feel has affected me in some way. Guess will never know.

Hi ladies
Looking for some advice or just support really, I am just going through my 4th miscarriage in a row, all 4 I have miscarried around 6 weeks, I have been sent for tests (blood clotting,and hormones etc...) and all have come back clear. I was prescribed 200mg cyclogest pessaries to take one in the morning and one in the Evening Even though they said nothing is wrong with my hormones but that they wouldn't do any harm in trying them so I used these from my positive test on my 4th pregnancy but they have made no difference. I have to go next week for yet again another scan to check it had all come away and is a complete miscarriage. I am just at a loss now wondering what else they might try seeing as all my tests have come back clear, can anyone tell me there experiences and results as I am feeling at a complete loss at what happens next !
Thank you x

Hey ladies!!! I've missed you all so much! No time to name names but yay twwers and hugs to those that need one.

Thank you ladies so much I went to my first counseling session today!!!
I realized last week through my surfing and reading that I have been postponing my life for my son. I know this may sound crazy but my son has SMA1 and was given 2yrs life expectancy. So for the first 2yrs I did absolutely nothing for myself. No new clothes ect... so now almost 6yrs later I haven't got much accomplished for myself. To think people look down on the internet but it has truly blessed me. I'm putting ttc on hold but still going to get testing done ect. in the near future... because that is still a problem. I feel like a dark cloud has been lifted just realizing what I had been doing, waiting on the unthinkable. Thank you ladies so much for being yourselves! I'm on a few US sites and let me tell you the women on a lot of the sites are bitter. Even if you don't know the answer an encouraging word goes a long way!

Have a good weekend and welcome newbies!!! Your in good hands.

Welcome star I'm so sorry for all you've gone through and the pain you must be feeling right now.

You've come to the right place though. It's a great group of girls in here and I know they will offer lots of help and advice.

I've had years of infertility and two mcs (still no DC) and the only advice I can give is to push and fight every step. The NHS is poor at dealing with mc and infertility and you have to become the expert to get all the help that's out there.

I don't know where you live but there are special mc clinics. I'm sure the lovely ladies on here will share the details.

Feel free to PM me if you want a more indepeth chat / offload! XxX

Thank you catlover14
I'm live in the derbyshire area there is part of me wondering if I should go private but would it make any difference, has anyone gone private and had any better quicker experiences, I feel like when I ring my specialist reception for some advice that they think I am asking stupid questions!
Thank u x