Recurrent Miscarriage Support - tests, treatment, trying again - thread 10

[bakingtins]

Welcome everyone - pull up a chair! A thread for anyone who has suffered multiple miscarriages and is in need of information, moral support, tea or sympathy. Newbies very welcome.

Can we start the thread with a recap of where we are all up to again, please?

just good to know about UCLH..I always seem to have bleeds on weekends and can't get seen

tiny sorry to hear that was your experience in your last mc. I may well be heading that way. St.Marys do drive me slightly nuts with their 'positive and reassuring' attitude. I'd much rather they just said yes the small for dates maybe an issue - but they refuse. Yet I know its an issue. Also hope the counselling went well.

jbrd I am indeed walking on eggshells, and really messed work about, saying I was coming in then not (other issues involved there, but still, I hate being so unreliable)

longest that sounds like quite an encouraging appointment. Sorry to hear they couldn't get any results, that must be a little difficult to let go of.

triple how's it going? It is so so hard when you assess every tiny thing in your body, you know the best thing to do is let things be and take each hour at a time..but also how bloody difficult that is! Sorry I haven't got up to speed..are you on any new treatment this pregnancy? Any issues ever picked up? Let us know how you are...

tanny how are you?

Thanks to all others for thoughts. Ugh only time will tell. Felt v sick, dizzy and exhausted a couple of days ago..not so much now..

I refreshed this page last night but I missed a whole page some how!

Sorry...

Tanny that's fabulous! Hope it gets you through the next 2 weeks with a bit less stress

cat hard day. Have your dip/slump/weep, and then tell yourself it can happen for you too.

I like this'body restting' idea..

tiny at least you still have counselling in the pipeline...that's good.

Wow. Filled out the form last night and just got an email inviting me in Tuesday at 2!!

I will keep any of you London ladies posted as it could be a good resource for us.

And they link to mumsnet on their links page

tiny that's brilliant! Really think it will help. Wish I lived in London too now hehe. X

Hey ladies! How are your weekends going? Hormone tablets are kicking in, nephew has been born just over a week off what was my baby's due date, Prince George is one now and I'm an emotional wreck. I hope things are going to get easier soon. Counselling Monday thank goodness! X

Hello there! Yeah, too many new babies around. Prince George was born a couple of days before the EDD of my first mc, so that's a sad reminder for me, too (me and Kate were bump buddies for a little while!).
Keeping busy to distract myself - friends coming round for lunch, trying to get everything ready and make the house a bit more presentable...

So sorry to hear that :( Hope you have a nice day with friends and it helps to distract a little. Hugs to you xxx

I'm off to a BBQ at someone's house who is due in September. My mc5 was due in October... Oh hum...

Chin up, ladies - Prince George was born in the aftermath of my fourth miscarriage. A year can make a huge difference.
Hoping that you will all be too busy with your own little bundles next year to notice his second birthday

Hi everyone hugs all around, you girls are 6pages out! Hope your weekend went well.

Wont name names but congrats on the heart beats you two!

Yay to new cycles with help!

I've had a few drinks as this cycle failed. I say I'm not going to try again but my husband gets all to excited around O! Its like he just knows.... So who knows what we will do this cycle.

Were any of you ladies diagnosed with Implantation failure? If so what was the reaction during implantation and what were you prescribed?

Hello! Having an ok weekend thanks. Been feeling a bit flat and meh for much of it but suppose that is an improvement on actively hurting and have perked up a little today. My neighbour's little girl turned 3 and they had a little party in a park I didn't even know existed. There was a pond that was quite magical with flowering Lily pads and massive dragonflies. Can't believe the girls are 3 already! Remember my neighbour proudly showing me her over the fence the day they got home from hospital and I was nervous about giving birth to dd, whose birthday is next week.

The one thing I try and hold on to is that it goes so quickly so at least I still have all that to look forward to. Think I am stopping at 2, assuming I get there!

Just got in from city farm and have crashed out in front of toy story. Trying not to melt!

I am sorry about that coco. Do you mean ivf cycle or menstrual cycle?

Ps just got a letter from Mr Rai. He says he is happy for me to take the vitex agnus castus so will start that again tonight. Next appointment in 4 weeks.

The BBQ was OK even if tfl conspired to make us take 2 hours each way...

Managed not to think about bumps and babies...

longest which city farm?
I think we aren't too far apart. I want to go on the walk in the railway line you mention in your London thread (assuming it is the parkland walk)

Grr, was it in south London? Might as well be manchester (don't tell the people on the London threads I said that yes, parkland walk passes just by me- I am in stroud green by finsbury park (not some glamorous postcode as some assumed!). We went to Freightliners in Holloway today but sometimes go to the one in gospel oak which must be quite near you?

It was further north! The metropolitan line would be great but we needed the overground and two buses.

I have never been to that one. The Kentish town/ gospel oak one is great and the shoreditch one too.

Lots of people there with a chip on their shoulder...

And good luck with the vitex

longest sorry to hear you've felt flat but it is only natural after all you've been through. Hugs to you. Did your DC enjoy the celebrations? Glad Mr R has been in touch and said you're ok to take agnus castus. I have considered taking some myself, might head to Holland and Barrett this week.

tiny well done on enjoying the BBQ. It's great to let go sometimes and forget the worries.

coco please don't give up! I don't know anything about implantation failure. Did you say you're having fertility treatment or are you trying natural.

bakingtins thanks for reminding us there is still hope. How's Faith coming along? Hope you're all good!

Xx

Sorry all can I just ask... Since my ERPC in April I've noticed that I spot for 3/4 days after my period ends. Should I ask my consultant or is it one of those things that will probably just settle down? X

cat my cycles went awol after my first mc and were never the same after that and the clomid, not sure which was (or if both were) to blame. I would mention it next time you're in but don't worry about it.
bakingtins I'm just hoping I've got at least a big bump by the time George gets a sibling! George was born just before my first bfp then mc. I'd already been trying over a year when they announced she was pg.
longest glad you got an answer re the vitex.

Sorry, a me, me post again. Seeking more advice please.... It's now been over 4 weeks of bleeding since the miscarriage started. When it turned to spotting then stopped, but hormone levels were still up, I drank raspberry leaf tea and the spotting started again (this happened twice). Last blood test was Tuesday, levels still 200+. On Thursday (I think?) tmi alert I felt sick then passed what looked like a lump of cooked chicken, with blood and blue bits in it. Since then the bleeding has got heavier, thicker pantyliners can no longer cope and changing sanitary pads every few hours. Getting weird stabbing pain just inside my left hip. Not unbearable and doesn't last long, but had it on and off over the last week. Blood is now red and passed another clotty bit just now.
Could it be that the chicken-like lump was the bit keeping the hormone levels up and now it's over, and this is suddenly a period that has arrived? It is 4 weeks later, so timing might fit. Would it happen this way? It was heavy to start, passed the sac in week 1, then 3 weeks of bleeding/spotting, then the nasty lump and immediately after it my first post mc period arrives?
Oh, and I'm in France. For the next 3 weeks.
Never bloody simple is it?! (pun intended)
Do you think this is AF therefore I can ditch the pads now and go back to tampons?

Hi barking sorry this is all still going on. You must be so fed up. It sounds like your first AF to me, I passed some clots on my first period after both mcs. Hopefully some of the more knowledgable ladies on here can give more detailed information though. I hope France isn't too hard on you, I know the timing isn't ideal. X

Barking That sounds rough. I have to say that all my mcs have been physically fairly painless and the bleeding was over in a week, so I am not much use with the advice. Your theory sounds reasonable but I think you would ovulate before having a period? And that you wouldn't ovulate before your hg levels dropped? Sorry, biology not my strong point. Hugs though- it must be hard to move on while still bleeding and towels are awful aren't they?

I think I would try and speak to someone about the pain. I know easier said than done while in France but maybe you could phone your epu back in the UK at least?

Hi all, I'm on my phone so can't name check with ease but I read this today (part of ot , anyway?) www.amazon.co.uk/gp/aw/d/0956559948?cache=cc9ae001efcc7b85fa53d7a8e91016a7&pi=SY200_QL40&qid=1405895751&sr=8-1#ref=mp_s_a_1_1. Its about a woman who's 2 yr old died, so not directly comparable, but her expressions of grief really resonated with me. Maybe check it out. X

Interesting piece on BBC news this morning ladies! All about the lack of support available for partners of women who've mc'd.

The man being interviewed was offered counselling and joined a support group through the mc association, which really helped him.

How are your DHs doing? I need to revisit their website as last time I looked I couldn't see any groups in our area. My DH never really talks about it unless I do, I know it's hard for him though XX