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Recurrent Miscarriage Support - tests, treatment, trying again - thread 10

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bakingtins · 02/06/2014 08:07

Welcome everyone - pull up a chair! A thread for anyone who has suffered multiple miscarriages and is in need of information, moral support, tea or sympathy. Newbies very welcome.

Can we start the thread with a recap of where we are all up to again, please?

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bootles · 17/07/2014 06:23

Yes I have another scan next week. Drove myself mad with Dr Google last night which I MUST NOT DO. Also makes me even more knackered, and am generally desperate for sleep so its a bad move on all levels. This behind for dates thing is not good though.

Am in London

cat that's difficult with your friends. Hope they are able to try to be supportive of you in your situation, even if they don't understand it.

Justonemoretime · 17/07/2014 06:26

Bootle, I really recommend the EPU at uclh, Euston? They really are excellent and you can walk in and be scanned on the day. Look after yourself. X

bootles · 17/07/2014 06:26

Also, longest, how did your appointment go?

Catlover2014 · 17/07/2014 06:33

bootles hope you get answers soon. I know how awfully hard it must be. Try to take it easy on yourself and if you can don't ask dr google as it's full of inaccurate information.

just you've really made me chuckle this morning. X

barkingtreefrog · 17/07/2014 06:48

Bootle Angry to the limbo, it's the worst. And to the long silence at scans. Thanks . Step away from Dr google, that way madness lies! great at giving out advice I can't follow.

Just that's amazing. We need that on YouTube now! Go find yourself a puppet and get it sorted! WinkGrin .

twilight I'm in Yorkshire. We really are all over the place!

TinyTear · 17/07/2014 07:13

I'm in London too. About 10 minutes walk from the royal free...

Bootles. HB is good. But the measuring small not so much... In my last mc I also saw a HB in a too small one and it was all gone by the next scan... But I am just one person and I was told that up to 1 week off is OK as measurements aren't exact.

So focus on the fact there was a HB

JBrd · 17/07/2014 08:58

bootles Oh, so sorry that you're still pretty much in limbo! This is probably the worst case scenario - a heartbeat, but uncertainty around the size and dates... You must be walking on eggshells at the moment. Nothing I say can make it any better, but please know that I'm thinking of you! And please don't google.

tanny Good luck for tomorrow - how many weeks will you be?

I managed to make it through yoga without crying last night Smile But we didn't do the whole going round the circle introducing ourselves etc, that probably helped! But I am so struggling to relax, I sometimes feel like Miranda in that episode of Sex And The City, where she does this yoga class to 'find her inner goddess' because she thinks she's not feminine enough... And at one point she says 'I will find my inner goddess, and if it kills me!' - that's a bit how I feel at the moment. Hmm

I'm in Cambridge...

Triplespin · 17/07/2014 10:20

Ooh Bootles - that is awful this state of limbo - but a hb is great and you have some positive news now compared to your previous scan. When will you go again?

Jbrd - well done on making it through!! I am sure everyone there has there own story and so don't think you are alone. I have lived in Cambridge many years ago! DH and I met there and then moved to London when we started working :)

Tiny - what an awesome location. We were trying to move closeby ourselves as DS had a place at a v good school nearby but sadly we couldn't afford anything in that area.

My local hospital is Kings - their EPU is not bad - I am of course a regular visitor and so know all the procedures very well lol.

Tanny - one more day! Is your scan in AM or PM? Keeping everything crossed for you.

tannyLoo · 17/07/2014 10:45

Just, I'm sure I've seen that episode! x

Thanks for the posifrickentivity everyone. I'll be 6+3 tomorrow, and my scan is at 12.45. I won't be able to update on here til we get home at about 6.30.

Catlover2014 · 17/07/2014 12:14

Good luck tanny I'm crossing everything for you and your little bab xxx

TinyTear · 17/07/2014 12:31

triple which school?

We were lucky to have bought 5 years ago. Don't think we could afford it now... Top floor flat with no garden but worth it
[Smile]

Tanny will be waiting for an update

twilightstruggle · 17/07/2014 12:38

Just - that did make me laugh. That would be brilliant to share on Facebook.

Everything crossed Tanny.

JBrd - Cambridge eh. We're close. I'm just outside Saffron Walden (as of a few weeks ago). Well done for getting through yoga.

Waves at everyone else. X

longestlurkerever · 17/07/2014 15:11

Bootles what a headfuck eh? Everything crossed for you. What a rollercoaster that scan must have been. Sorry it wasn't unambiguously cause for celebration. Cat that sounds rough. I hope your SIL is understanding.

My appointment went pretty well. Unfortunately they couldn't get any results from the products I submitted as, despite the gynaecologist at the EPU confirming it, it didn't contain the pregnancy sac, so I am disappointed about that (and a bit confused as everything else I passed just seemed like blood) but Mr Rai was reassuring. His bottom line was that due to my age and record of conceiving I have a very good chance of a healthy pregnancy. I have submitted about 3 gallons of blood for testing, including for glucose tolerance due to dd's relatively high birthweight and some borderline glucose tests in pregnancy. I get the results in about a month which seems an age away but still, I feel much better for having the process under way. I'd be quite surprised if I have positive results for anything I'm being tested for but to rule it out will be helpful too.

He thinks I probably have some form of PCOS which is causing my long cycle, but doesn't think I should take chlomid or anything as for me the pay-off between increased fertility and increased risk of miscarriage isn't worth it as I am conceiving naturally (albeit not as quickly as I would like!).

I am in London too. I thought of you all in the St Mary's waiting room and thought how funny it would be if I bumped into one of you but there was no one else there. Maybe we should have a meet-up one day.

Generally speaking I am feeling much better than on Monday but have noticed a pattern of feeling better the days I am off work and worse again when I go back and I was off on Tues and Weds. Don't know why really as don't mind work.

Triplespin · 17/07/2014 15:41

Longest - I am so glad you have a positive meeting with Mr Rai and hope you are by feeling too faint about the gallons of blood. That is disappointing that the products you submitted for testing did not have the sac - so I guess it was inconclusive on that front?

Why does Mr Rai think that there is an increased chance of mc on clomid? You may want to ask him about another drug called metformin which is also often given to pcos suffers. I am on it and if anything it has helped me fit back into my trousers!!! When do you get your blood results back?

Tiny - it's a school called The Hall - good we didn't go as we would have been the poorest family there!

Tanny - eek less than 24 hrs to go. Not trying to make you nervous, but I am living through you too. Is your dh going with you?

Another pg announcement from someone 2 yrs older to me. Ooh I sure hope this one happens for me otherwise I will find it hard to recover.

TinyTear · 17/07/2014 16:53

triple have heard of it.

We are in a local private nursery but I think we might be the only ones going to state primary in 2 years... Grin

I went to St Marys in 2011 but Tanny and I were in Coventry a couple of weeks apart only.

BTW no results yet!

Triplespin · 17/07/2014 18:23

Hello ladies - sorry I am going in a panic. My cramps are gone but my cervix is now low and hard nose like. It is usually like this before AF arrives and has happened when I mc as well. It had been high and soft for past week and now this sudden change has me so worried. Any experiences?

Catlover2014 · 17/07/2014 18:55

Hi Triple please don't panic! I have never heard that to be a sign of mc. Hope you're ok xxx

TinyTear · 17/07/2014 19:00

No experience but I never looked...
Can you call the epu?

Triplespin · 17/07/2014 19:20

I will call them tomorrow. Hopefully I am just panicking. Trying to keep positive. Thanks guys.

Original poster
bakingtins · 17/07/2014 21:29

bootles sorry to hear you still have mixed messages, will keep FX it is all more positive at next scan.

tanny good luck tomorrow!

Sorry not to name check everyone....

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tannyLoo · 18/07/2014 06:32

Some interesting dreams last night. Full of jumping out of hospital windows and trying to avoid Cheryl Cole. Did anyone else know she speaks fluent Urdu???

Obviously shitting my pants about the scan, but knowing I have your support is great.

DH is coming, bless him. He's gone to make me tea and toast, the sweetheart.

Triple I really don't know about reading your cervix. The thing is that if it is going to end in a MC for either of us, there isn't anything we can do to prevent it Sad. I know it's like saying "don't think about a camel" but please don't worry too much about the signs. pot kettle black... Really hoping you are feeling a bit better and calmer today chuck.

TinyTear · 18/07/2014 06:55

Good luck today Tanny and Triple and everyone.
I have my first counselling at 4pm

tannyLoo · 18/07/2014 07:02

Ooh, good luck for that too. I always felt nervous going, but better afterwards!

Catlover2014 · 18/07/2014 07:46

tiny I hope the counselling helps you a bit. It takes courage to go and open up to someone like that but if he/she is anything like the lady I see you will find it very helpful. Let us know how you get on.

tanny crossing everything that today goes well. We will all be waiting to hear from you.

triple hope you're feeling a bit better today and you can get some reassurance at EPU.

Hugs to all you ladies who have become my lifeline! Just taken my third day's worth of fertility drugs and they are already making me feel pants. Hope this is all worth it one day :(

XX

Triplespin · 18/07/2014 08:07

Tanny - thinking of you today! The Cheryl cole dream is hysterical - and how did Urdu come into play. As pretty as she is - I bet she is not a multi-linguist!! Thanks for the kind words. I am really hoping that this is the one for you. As you say some of these things are out of our control - we have done our best and rest I leave to fate .....

Tiny - all the best for the session. Let me know how it goes. I have always wondered what kind of format they follow. Do they ask you questions or do you just lay it all out? I really like my privacy so I wonder if I would be fully honest about my feelings.