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Recurrent Miscarriage Support - tests, treatment, trying again - thread 10

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bakingtins · 02/06/2014 08:07

Welcome everyone - pull up a chair! A thread for anyone who has suffered multiple miscarriages and is in need of information, moral support, tea or sympathy. Newbies very welcome.

Can we start the thread with a recap of where we are all up to again, please?

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Justonemoretime · 30/06/2014 06:09

*able to afford

barkingtreefrog · 30/06/2014 06:34

cat that article wouldn't make me think twice about taking aspirin if I'd been prescribed it, it even says that the 'seven fold increase' is down to only 3 mc, and the women wouldn't have been taking the asprin unless they were high risk anyway.

Catlover2014 · 30/06/2014 07:11

just that's really interesting. I wonder why they said after 12 weeks it's ok. I can't get past 11 weeks from 1st two pregnancies so we shall see.

Treatment is two drugs - Letrozole day 2-6 and progesterone days 16-28 and if BFP continue with progesterone until 12 weeks. It's worked at getting me pregnant both times I took it but i had missed miscarriages with each so not sure it's going to work out any better.

I will see prof Q if I mc again for another opinion. I just want to give my current consultant one more go!

Barking how are you? Thanks for taking a look and sharing your opinion. I did think the same but makes you worry all the same!!

Xx

Justonemoretime · 30/06/2014 07:21

Catlover, I think its because it can interfere with implantation and blood flow to the placenta? Good luck with your treatment. X

Catlover2014 · 30/06/2014 08:41

Thanks just. All the best to you too. Let's hope there are good times ahead :) x

JBrd · 30/06/2014 12:35

Hi all! Quick wave from me, after two weeks away on holiday I am well and truly out of touch... It was a much needed break, and as much as I love my MN threads, I made a conscious decision not to read anything while away.
Instead it was 2 weeks in sunny France, with great food, wine and company, relaxing.

I'll catch up properly on here when I have some quiet time.

Oh - we finally have an appointment for the post-mortem, 22 July. In spite of me telling them 3-4 times when we will be away (and seeing them writing it down!), they gave us a date during the holiday. So now we have to wait until the next available appointment, which meant another 4 weeks Angry. Apparently, the consultant only does these clinics once a week. Sigh...

TinyTear · 30/06/2014 13:16

Once a week? blimey! that isn't much...

glad you managed to relax on holiday

Catch up - tanny had a BFP and I am on my 2ww... eeeeeek!

JBrd · 30/06/2014 15:07

Oooh, tanny, that is some news. Did you not want to have a break ...Wink Instead, it's back on the rollercoaster, eh? (Sorry, I don't meant to sound cynical, honestly!)

How are you feeling?!

tiny Fingers crossed for you!

Catlover2014 · 30/06/2014 15:31

Jbrd glad you've had a nice holiday but sorry they've messed you around with dates :( Let us know how it goes. I know it's going to be a hard time for you. Xx

tannyLoo · 30/06/2014 17:13

Hey JBrd, you've missed all the fun! I've had a break of 4 months, which feels like a lifetime!

I'm absolutely petrified tbh, and having to tell myself to calm the fuck down.

Waiting to hear back from Coventry, hopefully with my results, physically feeling ill with ms, but the progesterone affects me like that.

Sorry to hear about the delay in getting the pm results. I hope your holiday has done you good...

Homelander · 30/06/2014 21:26

Hi everyone, this thread moves quickly doesn't it?!

Having a bit of an emotional day. It is less than 4 weeks to my due date with MC3. He was the one I got to hold after I delivered him, so it feels worse than my earlier 6 and 7 week size pregnancies, even though he was very early at 17 week gestation.

It's 4 months since I lost him and I am starting to think work must be losing patience with me as I am still having time off for therapy and today I just couldn't go in at all. Hoping that once we get past the due date it will be some sort of closure, but who knows.

I have my follow up appt at the RMC at the Royal Free next week. Starting to wish I had requested a referral to St Mary's, but I guess we will have to see what they say now that I have had the tests they requested which were blood on the day of my last appt (not sure what they tested for, but I am guessing the usual APS etc), a scan (which was normal) and blood taken on day 1-3 of my cycle - I guess that is for hormone levels?

Tanny, I am sending you positive vibes. Jbrd, sorry that you have to wait so long for the PM results, it kind of hangs over you finally have that meeting IME. For me, once it was over, it was a bit of a relief, felt like I had passed one more milestone IYSWIM? x

Catlover2014 · 30/06/2014 21:47

homelander hugs to you. Can't imagine how hard that must have been. I'm so sorry :(

My due date is also coming up in four weeks. Doesn't help my brother's gf will have her boy at that time. Happy for them but also a green eyed monster.

It's just so hard isn't it? Work also annoyed with me but not coping but it's impossible to pretend life is normal when it's anything but.

Hugs xxx

tannyLoo · 30/06/2014 22:02

Homelander that is shit. Really shit.

I hope the due date passing will bring a bit of peace for you, and be kind to yourself.

I think yours and JBrds losses are so much harder to bear than my own, and you are remarkable for it. Big hugs x

TinyTear · 01/07/2014 14:14

Homelander, so sorry for you...
due dates are hard and I can imagine even harder after a late loss...

I just went past mc4 due date (June) and have mc5 one coming up in October. I made myself forget the details (can't remember the day) but knowing the general weeks is tough...

On other news, CD21 and first cyclogest inserted (yuk... all for the greater good!)

tannyLoo · 01/07/2014 16:29

Feeling the fear and hormones so badly this afternoon! I have phoned Coventry every day since I found out and no news yet.

Everything is paralysing me Sad .

Sorry, I should be happy to be pg again, but it is so fucking scary, knowing this is it.

I can't even articulate it properly. Sorry.

Justonemoretime · 01/07/2014 16:35

Tann, email Profs tonight, its their phone clinic evening so one or both should be at their desks. Cc them both. Prof Brosens is normally pretty quick to respond if you catch him at his desk. Good luck. X

Triplespin · 01/07/2014 17:28

Can't blv they are making you wait so long. How long has it been since you had the test? Fx you get your results soon.

tannyLoo · 01/07/2014 17:53

It was 5 weeks on Friday and I'm the equivalent of 4 weeks today. The trouble is that the window feels very small as I usually start to mc soon after 5 weeks.

Just do you know their email addresses? Kerri said she'd forwarded my email to Prof B this morning and had chased the lab to get the results, but maybe I need to stress the timescales.

Justonemoretime · 01/07/2014 17:58

I'll pm you. X

Catlover2014 · 01/07/2014 18:48

Tanny sorry to hear you're feeling so anxious, totally understandable.

Have you tried anything to maybe help relax you? Maybe a nice massage or an acupuncture session?

Hope you hear back from Prof Q soon.

Hugs xxx

longestlurkerever · 01/07/2014 18:55

Fingers crossed for you tanny. Thinking of you homelander.

I got my funding confirmed from my insurance thing. They are giving me £1500 towards tests which Dr Rai's Secretary reckons should cover what I need. Have an appointment with him at St Mary's on 16 July. Hoping hormones will have settled by then and I have results of tests on the embryo.

Physically a lot better and back in work but emotionally a bit wobbly. Better today than yesterday though and please to have appointment sorted.

Catlover2014 · 01/07/2014 18:57

Longest that's really good to hear! Hope the tests go well and you start to get the right help very soon :) x

tannyLoo · 01/07/2014 19:00

Cat thanks, I've been doing mindfulness but haven't been able to focus the last couple of days, and I have acupuncture booked tomorrow. Having a plan is what will really help. I am rubbish at uncertainty!

I've emailed them both, so will try and focus on bedtime routine and getting over-involved in the tennis...

tannyLoo · 01/07/2014 19:01

Great news, Longest x

Catlover2014 · 01/07/2014 19:28

tanny that's good to hear. Watch Nadal's match from today if you can, he's out and we have a new rising star to gaze upon!!

Acupuncture tomorrow will help you relax and hopefully you will hear back from the hospital soon. Keep us updated on how you get on. I've got everything crossed for you.