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please help, my baby just dead 35weeks.

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happywithit · 21/02/2014 22:23

hi
it was very normal pregnancy, no problem, i did not feel no movement yesterday, and i did not click until the night, i waited until he morning i called the hospital, they tray to check for the heart but it not movement at all, so its confirm, she is dead, they give me a tablet, and i have to wait until sunday at 9am, go back to the hospital for take it out, normal birth.
just to have more ideas about what i have to except please, any experience out there? is it painful?

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NeverQuiteSure · 21/02/2014 22:28

I am so sorry Sad I don't have any experience I can share with you and don't have any words to lessen your pain, but I couldn't read and not reply.

RandomMess · 21/02/2014 22:28

So sorry for your loss. It will physically be the same as a full term birth. Flowers

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happywithit · 21/02/2014 22:29

thank you.

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SauvignonBlanche · 21/02/2014 22:29

I'm so terribly sorry for your loss.

Sadly I do have experience of this. You will be given tablets and pessaries to start your labour, take every pain killer going. You will given tie with your little one to say goodbye.

Look at the SANDS website for practical help and advice.

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ExBrightonBell · 21/02/2014 22:30

Oh, I am so sorry for your loss, and I didn't want to read and not reply.

I have no words to say how much I feel for you at the moment. I hope you have some support (family/friend) who can stay with you this weekend. Did the hospital give you any contact numbers - can you ring someone to ask these questions? It sounds like you need to speak to them again - don't be afraid of going in again if you need to.

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happywithit · 21/02/2014 22:30

thank you, i will do

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KiwiBanana · 21/02/2014 22:31

I'm so sorry to hear about your lovely baby :(
I've no experience myself but I expect you will have to be induced and give birth. They will push for you to give birth vaginally as this is the safest way.

Do you have plenty of support from your family/partner?
Look after your self Flowers

rockybalboa · 21/02/2014 22:33

I have absolutely no advice but just wanted to say how terribly sorry I am for your loss, you poor poor thing. Thanks

KiwiBanana · 21/02/2014 22:33

If you feel up to it at the time I would suggest taking pictures of your baby, or getting the midwife to do this for you. They'll be invaluable.
Thinking of you x

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happywithit · 21/02/2014 22:33

they explain, but i want to hear for some one experience, as i heard from some friend its more difficult because its dead baby, i have to do all the work by myself as the baby is dead, so she is not going to push or try to go out. i am very worried.

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Boltonlass1972 · 21/02/2014 22:38

I'm so sorry for your loss. My baby died at 15 weeks but I never met him. Try and see the Labour as a way of seeing your little one. You looked after him, cared for him for those weeks: you were a mummy for a very short time, but you gave baby everything they needed. For some reason he was unable to survive. Give him/her a name, take a picture..You may not wish to look at it now but it's better to have a photo you never look at than wish in a years time that you had. Lots and lots of love. Xxxx

WaxingGibbon · 21/02/2014 22:38

I am so so sorry. I am thinking of you.

Mitchell2 · 21/02/2014 22:38

Thanks so sorry for your loss. I have no experience to impart but I send my thoughts.

Re advice, maybe head to the miscarriage/pregnancy loss threads as well as there maybe someone there as well who can provide you with some advice.

Thanks
Gwlondon · 21/02/2014 22:42

I am very sorry. It is such an awful thing to happen. There is a section on mumsnet called miscarriage and pregnancy loss. Someone there might have had a similar experience and can tell you more. X

PartTimeDomesticGoddess · 21/02/2014 22:46

I'm so sorry Sad
I do have experience of this, and my baby boy was v big when I delivered him as a still born (10lb 4oz). Even given his size, I was given stronger pain relief which helped.
One tip I would share is that unfortunately your milk will come in anyway, making your breasts v painful. The best thing to deal with this is to keep a savoy cabbage in the fridge (or somewhere cool) and place 2-3 leaves in each cup of your bra. Replace every few hours. Sounds bonkers, but really helps.
Those are my practical tips. There is no easy way to deal with the situation, look after yourselves/each other. Planning a big holiday to Australia together and keeping a journal helped me get through the darkest days Thanks

BrianTheMole · 21/02/2014 22:48

I'm so sorry Flowers

Greydog · 21/02/2014 22:48

I am so sorry for you x

halfwayupthehill · 21/02/2014 22:49

So sorry for your loss.

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happywithit · 21/02/2014 22:49

thank you all for your support, just to say that i have 2 boys, 5years and 2 and half years, but this was a girl, and my both babies was c-section.

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halfwayupthehill · 21/02/2014 22:49

So sorry for your loss.

venturabay · 21/02/2014 22:54

I'm terribly sorry too. I hope you have family nearby to help.

CrispyFB · 22/02/2014 00:49

I am so so sorry for your loss, what a horrible shock - I can't even begin to imagine Thanks

I hope everything goes as well as it can do and you have good support around you. Nobody should ever have to face this.

moreyear · 22/02/2014 00:58

I am so sorry for your terrible loss. I have no advice I'm sorry but I couldn't read and not reply. Take care of your self as best as you can. x

Jolleigh · 22/02/2014 01:18

I can't begin to imagine how horrible a time this is for you. I'm so sorry for your loss. Thanks

HeavenK76 · 22/02/2014 01:24

so sorry for your loss