please help, my baby just dead 35weeks.

[happywithit]

hi
it was very normal pregnancy, no problem, i did not feel no movement yesterday, and i did not click until the night, i waited until he morning i called the hospital, they tray to check for the heart but it not movement at all, so its confirm, she is dead, they give me a tablet, and i have to wait until sunday at 9am, go back to the hospital for take it out, normal birth.
just to have more ideas about what i have to except please, any experience out there? is it painful?

I am so sorry for the loss of your baby girl.

I wish you strength to get thorough the next few days and weeks

(On a practical note, there is a medication called cabergoline that inhibits milk production - ask if it can be prescribed if you think it would help.)

I am so sorry for your loss op x

so so sorry

I am so sorry for the loss of your baby girl. I can't imagine the pain you must be feeling. Wishing you strength to get the through the next few days. Xxx

Very sorry for your loss.

I'm so sorry you have lost your daughter.

Very sorry for your loss. I think the Sands website is useful.

I am so very sorry that you lost your baby girl.
Your labour will be very similar any other labour, with the same pain relief options. After the birth you can spens as much time as you would like with your daughter. They usually offer to make hand prints for you. And you can take photos.
Afterwards they may be ble to tell you why she died, though this may not be for sometime, and they don't always know.
Thinking of you.

Absolutely devastated for you. My friend had similar also after 2 CS. She had her baby by CS. I think she had a general anaesthetic. Wishing you much strength.

I'm so sorry ;( I pray that you get through this difficult time and hope you are able to slowly get through your loss my prayers and thoughts are with you how heartbreaking :'( x

Sorry. Wanted to add, another friend lost her oldest baby the same time as you. She delivered normally, with massive amounts of morphine. Physically far easier than the deliveries of her 2 younger children.

I have no words of advice - but just wanted to say your post made me cry, I am so sorry for your loss. Bless you and your little angel baby.

Sorry for your loss. No practical advice as I lost dc1 neonatally. However the stillbirth and neonatal death charity SANDS will be able to help. You could contact them and they should be able to give you advice.

The support I got from them really helped me as I knew I was not alone and how I was feeling was normal.

Hope you get some answers as to why this happened. Take care.

I'm so sorry that you have experienced this.

I gave birth at 38w, 4 days after being told there was no heartbeat.

Waiting was the worst bit as I found the labour itself very peaceful. The hospital did everything they could to make it as comfortable as possible. I was given pessaries when I was admitted, strong ones that they only give in stillbirth cases as they would distress live babies. I had about 3 of these to get me contracting. I took diamorphine and them had an epidural as soon as I could be taken to delivery suite. The diamorphine was probably a good idea as I dozed through most of it. I was in labour from 11am and my baby was born at 8.30pm on my second day.

Another thing that occupied my mind was what state my baby was in. I had no idea my baby had died and was having a presentation scan when I was told so had no idea how long I had been carrying him like that. I was really worried about seeing him but as soon as I did (midwife had offered to give me an opinion before I did) I knew it was the right thing to do. I held him and we stayed for 2 more nights as the pessaries had given me a very bad fever. We took lots of photos and were with him as much as we could be.

I had no birth injuries and probably had an easy as possible labour which given the circumstance I was very greatful for.

If you have any questions please feel free to pm me. I would definitely recommend the sands forum. I still use these almost 12 months on.

Just regarding the comment with it being harder with a dead baby to labour. This is untrue! What I found was that I barely pushed and let the contractions do all the work in getting my baby as close to delivery as possible. It is easier in a way as you do not need to worry about distressing the baby at all, just take it in your stride and the baby will be delivered. There's no rush. I think I pushed 3 time but had spent a while fully dilated with midwife saying letting contractions do the work.

So sorry for your loss

No experience but thinking of you and keeping you in my prayers

So sorry to hear about this happywithit, we hope that you get some useful advice and support here

A couple of posters have suggested that this thread may be better of in our miscarriage topic, as there will be posters there who perhaps have more experience with what you're going through, so we're going to move this thread in just a moment.

Wishing you the very best.

thank you, quietlysuggests as i have 2 c-section before i don't want to add an other one, incaise i decide to have a baby in the future, and you never know again what will happen, so i just decide to go for normal birth now so the possibility to having a c-section will be safe for the future.
thank you tsw i was very very worried about what i heard, but thanks to you for sharing your experience with me.

I am so sorry for your loss, and will be thinking of you xx

thinking of you xx

The one thing I didn't worry about was analgesia, take whatever you can, it is a different situation as only the mother's well-being matters.
I found the staff very supportive. This sort of situation is, thankfully, rare and I found staff really to try to help at this difficult time.