Recurrent Miscarriage Support - tests, treatment, trying again - thread 9

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Welcome everyone - pull up a chair! A thread for anyone who has suffered multiple miscarriages and is in need of information, moral support, tea or sympathy. Newbies very welcome.

Can we start the thread with a recap of where we are all up to again, please?

Hi - I've been reading for a while and feel like I'd to join in, if you don't mind.

2013 was a bit rough for me..

Just for the back story, we got married in late 2003 and started TTC in early 2005 (I still occasionally kick myself for that 'lost time').

Nothing happened though, which didn't worry me for a while but eventually we got investigations done. I had a lap and dye in March 2008 (nothing unusual was found) and got a natural BFP in May 2008 and had DS 8 months later.

So despite taking 3 and a half years to get there, #1 was, in retrospect, a breeze.

In Sept 09, we started TTC#2 - bit of deja vu, as nothing happened for the next 3 and a half years. Did 12 cycles of Clomid, and 6 cycles of injectables - nothing. Having all but given up, we went on holiday in May 13 for my 40th birthday, expecting AF, which didn't come. Surprise BFP! Sadly, we found out at the 12 w scan it was a m/c, it had stopped growing at 6.5. It was pretty devastating.

I then had another surprise natural BFP in Dec 13, but it all ended in the toilet as a complete m/c at 6w, a week before Christmas. I had hoped for that 'extra fertile' thing after a m/c to be true, but the first post-mc cycle ended in a BFN last week.

So here I am, 40 and still TTC#2.

Looking on the negative side, I definitely am not 'superfertile' and I definitely don't have an 'unfussy' womb..I have spent the best part of a decade TTC, it's only in the last year I have started being able to conceive.

But looking on the bright side, I have now conceived twice in the last 7 months - maybe I can do it again. What made the difference, I am convinced, is diet - I quit sugar a year ago.

I had a test this week for coagulation issues and that was normal. Every other blood test is normal. I do have low AMH (or did when I got it tested in 2011), but normalish FSH.

Sorry for essay, it's hard to keep it brief..

Good luck to everyone, especially Squiz today.

x

Good luck squizita I'm still waiting on appointment for tests hi to everyone else! sorry can't name check on phone at work

Welcome sherry hope you find some comfort from joining us. 2013 was a crappy year for many of us, but 2014 is going to be better. Also, may of us are a similar 'vintage' (I'm 40 this year) so you are in good company.

Welcome to the thread sherry I'm also one of the older 'vintage', I turned 42 a few weeks ago. There is also a lovely thread for the 40+ ladies on the Conception board, feel free to join there, too.

I agree that 2013 was a tough tough year - which should really mean that 2014 can only be better, right?!

Thinking of you squiz. They were so lovely yesterday so you are in good hands.

So basically it was nice not to be fobbed off and they did say that the combination of short cycles, v light periods and not getting pregnant (when it had always been v easy before) should be checked out. Going back next week for a scan to check lining and will do the day 2 hormone tests. Never had any of this done before. So will know more next week. Obviously don't want anything to be wrong but pleased I pushed for someone to investigate! DH is really struggling with this as the getting pregnant part was never the problem and he now feels like something else has been added to the mix. just he did say that short periods are not necessarily a sign that anything is wrong but given that I've had 4 ERPCs he just wants to check lining again.

lancashire so sorry you didn't get concrete answers. It's really hard to deal with when you are told it may be something you'd never even thought about. If you have more questions do go back to them once you've had time to think. I have some friends in RL who were dreading IVF but it all worked out for them.

Welcome sherry and sorry for the rubbish year that was 2013. You'll get lots of support here.

butterfly that's really lovely news and glad you are doing ok.

Welcome Sherry

Not glad you're getting somewhere. Hope it proves fruitful!

Sherry Hi! Yup 2013 was sh*tty indeed for many of us, fingers crossed.

So... there I am crying about how I'll never see a heartbeat with legs akimbo and the lady starts the fanny cam... literally 2 seconds later she goes "oh there's the hearbeat- grab that little monitor dear you'll see it better. Normal size for dates, normal yolk, normal fetal pole..." and that was it. I had to pinch myself. Official dates 6+4, embryo measured 6+2 but apparently that's fine as implantation etc cause variations?
Got the brusque-but-pleasant doctor (for once I needed no sympathy lol), he said my odds were 65-70% of success- which I'll take as they're well over 50% -and they're scanning me again 4th Feb. :)

He did say my single positive result actually meant I had 2 conditions combined (raised thrombo and antibodies) but that was why I'm on both aspirin and clexane combined.

So now it's back to living for the next jab/scan for a couple of weeks. A least I know I don't just produce blighted ovums!

Hi sherry and our recent newbies, sorry you're here. I hope you find it a useful thread. It's been a life saver for me tbh.

Squiz that is brilliant! Is that the first time you've seen that? Hope it is etched onto your memory.

Squiz how did I miss that???

Wonderful wonderful wonderful news. The words we all want to hear! Congratulations x

Baking :) Yes. All other losses were either sudden (so no scan before) or blighted ovum/partial molar (so loads of rather scary scans). Was scared my body couldn't make a bean!! :) Now just got to keep it going...

Glad it was a good scan Squiz!

Thanks for the welcome!

I'm eating lots of protein at the moment, convinced it will help my dodgy eggs along. Just had a pile of salmon+lime pickle, with a side of crispy salmon skin. Weird, but not horrible.

Normal is somewhere long in the past..!

So pleased for you Squiz! Fantastic news!

Great news!

Fab news, squiz! Now just one day at a time until the next scan

Makes you wonder how women managed before ultrasound...

Really good news squiz you've obviously reached a new milestone so first step to better things. Very happy for you

yay squiz fab news

Hi Sherry Welcome and sorry to see you here. X

Yay Squiz Did you have a internal scan then? I had a abdominal and it was so uncomfortable as I went ott with drinking. congratulations! You are a week exactly behind me, fx we both go full term, wonder who will pop first?!

Lovely about hearing the heartbeat butterfly nothing beats that little thud thud, so reassuring.

Ah ok ruggle fair enough, everyone has their own coping mechanisms. I always find it interesting to hear how different we all cope with these things.

Sorry haven't been on, I am literally wiped out, been napping when I get home from work. I feel like a cat, eating, sleeping, work, back to sleep, bath, eat, back to sleep! It's wiping me out this time, worse than my only succesful pregnancy with DS. Also really moody. Obviously I am still polite with customers as it's my job but inside I am getting annoyed at things ha! Such a moody cow :-)

Hey guys

squizita great news on the scan! Sounds like we had the same pre-scan experience, I too was crying before I'd even laid down on the bed for my 6w1d scan today. Thankfully also heart beat found for me too. Next scan is next Tuesday.

Hi everyone else, welcome sherry and good to see you freelancegirl I'm not on fb now but will update on here every now and then. This board is such a comfort to know we're not on our own.

Randomly today in my appointment with my consultant he has also said I should go on clexane. Now my bloods that I've had so far have been negative for thrombolias, but I do get v-veins, migraine with aura and have haematomas. I presume that's why he has prescribed it, so I'm now on this every day at 40mg. I am hoping that starting this at 6w 1d isn't too late. Anyone else started this then?

Tum congrats on a good scan! If bean has a HB then clexane is in time I guess, best of luck.

thanks everyone for your kind words!

Downstairs I'm quite emosh at the moment too. erm I cried at power ballads in my car yesterday haha!

at squiz I know something is up to as I usually hate mushy stuff people post on Facebook but it sets me off lately.

Great news squiz and tumtimes :) seeing that little flicker is lovely isn't it!

Good news tum I started clexane at 5+4 after my first scan and it has been fine.

Hmm ... talking of clexane, mine has started to bruise again after 15-20 days of hardly anything. Same needle/brand. Same routine. Odd! Great big blue bruises too, gonna run out of space soon! Before was like a dot bruise of less than 1/2 cm.

...also St Mary's have me on 20mg with a diagnosed condition. I double checked yesterday too- is this the standard dose?