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Recurrent Miscarriage Support - tests, treatment, trying again - thread 9

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bakingtins · 19/01/2014 07:41

Welcome everyone - pull up a chair! A thread for anyone who has suffered multiple miscarriages and is in need of information, moral support, tea or sympathy. Newbies very welcome.

Can we start the thread with a recap of where we are all up to again, please?

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bakingtins · 27/02/2014 10:56

tanny sending you HUGS. I hope the counselling is helpful in the long run, if difficult at the time. I think agreeing to have a TTC break for a bit is probably healthy too, you've been through so much. It will all stand you in good stead if you decide to try again a few months down the line.

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Justonemoretime · 27/02/2014 21:07

Quick question, I now have my appt booked for prof Q. I'm also still under st Marys. Is it OK to have both? Would St Mary's still see me if I was following prof Q's advice? Don't want to bite the hand that feeds me and end up out in the cold...
Hope everyone else is coping? Hugs to Tanny, a break to recover sounds wise.
Welcome newbies, sorry you find yourselves here.

vicki2122 · 28/02/2014 06:43

Hi second miscarriage now I cant believe my luck I didn't think it would happen again HmmI'm getting tired of ttc now but husband is more determined now than ever to have our first child

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bakingtins · 28/02/2014 07:26

just I don't know about St Mary's, but my local clinic were happy to provide the treatment recommended by Prof Q. They weren't offering me any answers or any treatment other than their already failed protocol, so I don't think they had any room to object! I think she had said something about offering private prescriptions if I had trouble getting the meds, but GP did the prescriptions based on her report and RMC clinic did the scans and follow up.
vicki sorry to hear you've had another MC. The 2nd one is hard to bear, I think everyone feels "why me" at that point. You've already had your share of bad luck. Sad

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Mrsgiblin1983 · 28/02/2014 10:29

Hi vikki, im in the same 'bad luck' boat as you! Good luck with ttc. Are you doing ov testing? At least you know you trying when you need to be xx

Notgivingup1 · 28/02/2014 19:13

Hugs tanny - it's just rubbish and you need time. Welcome newbies - that second miscarriage is horrible as you just get sent home with no plan or answers. I did do some testing privately (which all came back normal) and just needed to do something!
just I've asked myself the exact same thing and I would have thought they are very used to this but I know what you mean - wouldn't want them to suggest that they therefore wouldn't do the monitoring. I would ask Prof Q for her opinion on how best to manage it. Sorry I can't remember what your treatment plan with St Mary's would be for next pregnancy?

Justonemoretime · 28/02/2014 19:24

Thanks Baking and Not, I will see how the land lies once I've got a plan from prof Q. My plan from St Marys is repeat TEG and then possibly 150mg aspirin if TEG not normal. I'm a 2x unknown and 1x genetic cause with uterine abnormalities (now corrected). So, off to Coventry next Friday and take it from there.

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bakingtins · 28/02/2014 19:27

It's only an issue if she finds something that needs additional treatment, cross that bridge if you get to it.

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Notgivingup1 · 28/02/2014 20:29

I agree. I think they've got to expect you to get a second opinion. Surely we are entitled to that. I've got a provisional apt booked with the Prof in mid March so be interesting to see how you get on next week - hope it goes well for you. St Mary's can be annoyed with both of us!

Justonemoretime · 01/03/2014 08:46

Thanks. I think I'm getting a bit paranoid that something else will go wrong. Shock Too much thinking, not enough action! I will let you know what comes of my prof Q appt. Feeling weird not to be ttcing this month, but thinking of the big picture...

vicki2122 · 01/03/2014 20:40

Thanks for the support everyone start to think y me?

TinyTear · 04/03/2014 11:55

Number five.

Will write more later

[Sad]

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bakingtins · 04/03/2014 13:05

tiny I'm so sorry. That is shit. Are you having spotting/bleeding or do you already know for certain it's over? Wish I could give you a real ((HUG)) but virtual one will have to do.

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tannyLoo · 04/03/2014 13:19

Tiny no! I can't express how sad I am for you. You poor poor thing. I so thought you'd make it this time. We're all here for you, please use us to vent... Big hugs and "fuck the world" vibes from me xxx

TinyTear · 04/03/2014 14:12

Hi. I know for certain.
Two weeks ago measured 6.2mm and today only 4.7mm and the HB was gone

Opted for medical management but as I want it over the weekend I will go there to take the tablet on Thursday.

Next and final attempt will be going to professor Q

TinyTear · 04/03/2014 14:45

And no spotting, bleeding, cramps or pains.
this fucking body thinks it is still pregnant. so much that the bastard sac had actually grown a bit!

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bakingtins · 04/03/2014 15:49

Sad I am gutted for you.

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Justonemoretime · 04/03/2014 20:38

Tiny so sorry for you Sad xx

Notgivingup1 · 04/03/2014 22:25

tiny so so sorry. It is totally shit. Big hugs xx

Lancashire21 · 05/03/2014 11:26

Tiny - am so very sorry, it's unspeakably awful. Thinking of you. x

TinyTear · 05/03/2014 13:39

A line is not a baby
A line is not a baby
A line is not a baby
A line is not a baby

Just had to leave my birth group from my daughter as there have been about 4 people posting photos of pregnancy tests.

Funnily enough I don't mind the photos of 12w scans as much...

I know I will go back in a few days as they have been my support for more than 2 years, but I need a break

sweetsherry · 05/03/2014 13:49

Tiny - sorry this has happened again, it's just rubbish.

AFM, I must confess, I have been lurking rather than posting, because after long-term infertility and now RMC, I just don't really know where I belong IYKWIM.

There quite a few BFPs a few weeks ago and I thought it was too BFP heavy to be a comfortable place. And then would you believe it - I got a BFP myself about 4 weeks ago. And then another 3 weeks ago m/c at 5 weeks..

So, I have now had 3 and have been referred to a specialist, albeit with no idea of when I might actually get an appointment.

Back on the TTC treadmill (again!) but OV is in hiding.

x

TinyTear · 05/03/2014 15:02

I left here when I got the BFP and went to the RM October thread, but we were then asked back Smile

One thing I learned after all the mcs is not to stuff my bfps where they are not wanted....

anyway... i asked yesterday about more tests (just in case) but as i had DD after mc 3, the count reset and would only be offered tests again after a 3rd it seems

JBrd · 05/03/2014 15:32

tiny It's so tough, especially when people start announcing pregnancies. Have you told any of your birth group friends about your mcs? You might be surprised at their reactions - as far as I know, anyone who has had a mc in the past becomes very cautious with sharing pregnancy news. Everyone (well, most people anyway) who knew about mine was always kind enough to email or text me before they were going to announce it openly, so that I could be prepared. And I am planning to do the same, if/when I get to announce this one.
It is such a shame, I think sometimes, that mc is not talked about more openly. But then again, it is such a personal thing... Not easy!

I hope that the tests will give you some answers and that you will get the support you need from the medical team. Don't be afraid to ask about timelines etc., sometimes they need a bit of a push in the right direction! Good luck!

TinyTear · 05/03/2014 15:35

yes, they know, i posted yesterday...

one of the two who announced it today actually sent me a private message apologising afterwards as she didn't think... which was a nice thing to do...

I guess I could do with a few days break anyway...