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Recurrent miscarriage support - tests, treatment, trying again - thread 8

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Bakingtins · 01/11/2013 07:35

Welcome everyone, pull up a chair! A thread for anyone who has suffered multiple miscarriages and is in need of company, information, moral support, tea or sympathy.

Can I suggest we start page 1 with a recap of where we are all up to, because my fuddled head can't keep track?

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TinyTear · 17/12/2013 14:47

Good luck. Thinking of you...

Iworrymyselftosleep · 17/12/2013 17:56

So. There was a heartbeat! The foetal pole only measured 6weeks and I should be 6+4 so it's slightly on the small side but the midwife didn't seem too worried. They will rescan next Friday and promised that if there were any problems I could phone and they would see me.

Since I've got home my nausea has abated and I've eaten loads. I'm going to regret it later and of course even though its only three hours since my scan, I'm panicking that my nausea has gone away cos my hormones are dropping and it's all about to go wrong.

But three hours ago there was a small bean flickering away. That's got to be good news hasn't it?

Thank you for remembering. It meant a lot Flowers

tannyLoo · 17/12/2013 18:29

Worry I am so relieved for you! Been checking my phone for updates. A heartbeat is a great start. Grin

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Bakingtins · 17/12/2013 18:30

That's great news worry so happy for you. Grin

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TinyTear · 17/12/2013 18:38

yay!!

butterfly86 · 17/12/2013 18:39

Great news worry so pleased, at my first scan it measured small for my dates I had calculated slightly wrong as I have a 32 day cycle but even taking that in to consideration I still measured a full week behind of course I thought the worst but they weren't bothered at all, by my next scan it had caught up a bit but now I'm still 3 days out but they say that's because I ovulated later than day 14 (which I do) so try not to worry about the dates too much. A heartbeat is a great sign :) know the reassurance doesn't last long a scan settles me for about a day! When will you be scanned again?

Notgivingup1 · 17/12/2013 18:45

Great news worry that has made me happy

DownstairsMixUp · 17/12/2013 19:29

Worry that's fab news! congratulations!

Iworrymyselftosleep · 17/12/2013 19:29

tanny baking tiny and just thank you. butterfly they'll scan me next Friday. The midwife told me they would scan me more before my booking in scan at twelve weeks, and I got quite emotional cos I've always felt like a nuisance for pestering for more scans and she suggested the date. I'll be 8 weeks exactly. Just got to get through Christmas - dinner at MIL will be interesting as I can't smell food without heaving and its my turn to cook the lunch - she asked last week. DP will have to do it but he has a broken arm Confused

I've just thrown up my tea.

I'm really grateful to you all. I know I keep saying it but I've felt so isolated Flowers

Iworrymyselftosleep · 17/12/2013 19:36

not and downstairs too of course - I'm so slow typing on my phone and it loses my posts if I try to check what's been said above which is why my posts are so mememe all the time. I'm barely sleeping and my heads away.

And butterfly the dates / size thing is comforting to know. Thanks for sharing - I don't dare venture onto the mainstream pg threads for info. I just feel inadequate with my worry against their excitement. I feel many emotions but honestly, excitement isn't one yet.

Justonemoretime · 17/12/2013 19:39

Congratulations Worry, great news! :)

tannyLoo · 17/12/2013 19:48

Don't blame you for not getting onto a pg thread yet. It can all seem a little vacuous there.

Stay here with us twisted lot for as long as you want! Grin

butterfly86 · 17/12/2013 20:44

Worry I read the pregnancy threads but never post I just daren't. Hope the time goes quickly until your next scan. I'm with you on getting through christmas dinner everyone is coming to us but I think someone will end up having to cook it for me I wont be able to stomach the smells, I've thrown up numerous times at work today! Really struggling to keep food down at the min but it will all be worth it :)

DownstairsMixUp · 17/12/2013 21:28

Ahh worry stay here as long as you want, I don't think I'll ever have the guts to post on the pregnancy boards, it helps being with others that have been through similar things to you. It's great the midwives are so understanding, a scan at 8 weeks will really help ease the worries, even if it is just for little bit. Will look forward to hearing from you!

No updates really from me, ov sticks have turned negative as of yesterday so just waiting for AF now, really don't think anything has happened this cycle so I'm looking forward to enjoying a few xmassy drinks at the work do tomorrow! Hope everyone is ok!

squizita · 17/12/2013 22:06

Worry that's great news. :) I don't know if you go over on the miscarriage association website - they have a pregnancy forum, but only for women with our history, if that's helpful. :)

JBrd · 17/12/2013 22:06

Fab news, worry ! Remember, one day at a time! I completely understand how you're feeling though, it's like walking on eggshells.

Downstairs I probably ovulated on either Sunday or Monday, got a Peak on the CBFM and a positive OPK on both days - we dtd on Sunday only though. Not the greatest of coverage, but... still possible, and I have managed to get pg before having dtd only once in the fertile window. We shall see... To be honest, I am dreading it (how awful is that)! I will probably never look forward to a BFP ever again, it's just too much negativity associated with it now.

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Bakingtins · 18/12/2013 07:40

worry there is a nice pregnancy after miscarriage thread on the MN pregnancy board, if you can cope with a halfway house. Everyone there understands your paranoia and nobody rushes out to buy a pram at 6 weeks pregnant Hmm I have not even peeped at the mainstream June antenatal threads this time. But I still feel most 'at home' here, and hope that nobody still testing or TTC minds the pregnant ladies hanging around....

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DownstairsMixUp · 18/12/2013 08:28

Jbrd wow we are def at similar stages! I'm pretty sure I ov'd on Monday... think we dtd Saturday, sunday and monday, not yesterday though but think we got it covered. No I agree with you. I said this to DP actually, when I get a BFP I doubt I'll dread it. It's sad that really, wish i could go back to the days when it was so happy to see a BFP, far too much has happened now. How long are your lutual phases?? Since the erpc mine have been a consistant 14-15 days so have a rough idea when AF is due.

bakingtins Funny you said that, someone i know has announced they are preggers with a PREGNANCY STICK!! So guessing they are very early on as no scan photos etc or updates about scan dates... I could never do that! Would be paranoid i think.

Iworrymyselftosleep · 18/12/2013 08:38

squizita I'll check out the forum, thank you!

JBrd I know exactly what you mean about the mixed emotions at a BFP. I cried. For a tiny second all I could see opening up before me was another chance to miscarry. My first emotion was fear. It probably still is.

baking I'll also check out that thread. I do hope the others here ttc or after mc don't mind us hanging around. I'm going to accept downstairs invitation!

tanny Grin

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Bakingtins · 18/12/2013 11:30

Morning ladies. Just to report that I had my 16 week MW appt and heard baby's heartbeat loud and clear Grin couldn't ask for a better Christmas present than that, really!

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tannyLoo · 18/12/2013 12:05

Baking that's really lovely. I hope you cried buckets! Xmas Grin

Purplefrogshoe · 18/12/2013 13:08

Yay baking wonderful news Xmas Grin

Great news worry Xmas Grin

Well I seen consultant and they do now want to do RMC tests Xmas Confused because of my age apparently but I've only just turned 37 Xmas Blush

Purplefrogshoe · 18/12/2013 13:09

Oops I meant to wave to everyone else Xmas Smile

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Bakingtins · 18/12/2013 14:05

Grab with both hands whatever is offered purple
The age thing makes no sense anyway, you get fobbed off with "it's because of your age" (some early 30s ladies been told that) but on the other hand they are testing "because of your age"
Surely you'd be eligible after 3 Mc anyway??
Hope you can get all the tests fitted in before March and then get the green light to TTC, hopefully with a diagnosis and a plan.

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squizita · 18/12/2013 15:25

Purple hmm - sounds a bit dodgy excuse as Baking mentions but glad you got what you want whatever the reason - I've heard of age as a reason NOT to test (it explains losses, so a 40+ lady might have 3 in a row due to egg age) but at 37 you're pretty prime age for testing for non-age-related problems. It seems to vary place to place! In London I have been categorically told from my GP upwards to Mr Rai at St Mary's that the very earliest they automatically consider age as a factor is 39/40 - but in rural areas anyone over 30 seems fobbed off!