Miscarried yesterday..................

[Northerner]

And feeling a bit low tbh. I was 9 weeks and last night I actually passed the feotus and I can't get the image out of my head.......

Have great support here, but it's always good to talk to people who have been there.

Am off to bed soon so if I don't answer I'll be back in the morning.

Thanks for listening.

Hi Northener, saw your message on the Nov list, thank you do much! I've been back into the EPU today to decide formally about outcome as nothing is moving (not even spotting overnight, and today very minor psotting with no cramps); since the baby seems to have died 3 weeks ago, they said it could take as long as another 2 or 3 weeks of spotting, minor clots, etc., without guarantee of when or where the actual MC would start. I can't cope with that, especially with DD around (who is so lovely - keeps wanting to play 'restaurants' as I'm sitting down a lot!), so I decided to go for the op - I just want to get the physical bit out of the way so I can start mourning. This being said I've just had a horrible experience with the hospital specialist who seemed to think it would be of interest to me to tell me 'what will happen from the baby's point of view' WTF??? How insensitive is that??? Must have been a (very) clumsy attempt to say 'I can describe what will happen inside'. Hmmm, some training needed there, I think.

In your circumstances toadstool I think you ahve made the right decision, I would do the same in your shoes. YOu can not wait around for weeks waiting for something to happen, beacuse how can you then move on?

I hope on Friday my scan gives me the all clear, then I know it is teh end of this chapter IYKWIM.

Take care.

Toadstool
I was on the Nov thread too and had my op 3 weeks ago now. Physically it was fine and had no problems with it. I didn't even bleed afterwards! Although I think this is unusual.

I was in a similar position as you ( baby had died a week prior to scan) and the thought of weeks of waiting to see what happens was to much to bear. For me it was definitely the right decsion.

After my scan within 10 mins I was sat in front of doc who was booking me in for the op - all seemed a bit quick as it hadn't really sunk in!

Hi girlies how are you today?

Toadstool I'm so sorry that you've had to join this thread. Hope all is well with you.

I seem to be ok. This time of day is great coz I have just had a wee snooze and feeling better for it. My DDs are wondering why on earth they need to go to bed in the afternoon coz willie winkie isn't due till night time .

I had an appt at the hospital on Tues to test my blood hormone levels. They kept me for 50 mins and then you heard them saying "will you see who that woman is in the waiting room, don't know who she is or why she is here" (even though I had appt booked from prev week). It got worse when the mw was asking why i didn't work (the shock of it), when I explained I have 2 small children she said "it's nice for you then to come here and get a bit of a break" AARRRGGGHHH
She then said "I had 3 children all under the age of 4" - well so would I have had you insensitive b!tch.

As it turns out the preg hormone is still high so i need to go back this tues .

Sorry for the long rant but I thought I was getting back to 'normal' until all this happened. Maybe one day I'll look back and laugh - yeah right!

Hope you are alright Northerner, and Cece too if you are reading this. TC xx

Hi kjq, just seen this. Sorry you're having a crappy time.

I was back at the hospital today for my scan, they said everything was fine and back to normal so that's good. The EPU is just not a nice place to sit around in as lots of ladies there are upset. I came away with loads of leaflets today, they should have given them to me on monday when it happenned but they were crap in A&E.

Feeling much stronger now it is all over. Feel I can close the book on that chapter IYKWIM. Although I am prepared for those feelings to return at some point...

Hope all the ladies on here are OK.

Take care.

Hi,

It is 4 weeks today that I had my op. It does get better but I still think about it daily. The tears have stopped - apart from when I've had too much too drink - much to the horror of DH in a restauarant recently! The day I was supposed to be have my booking app and scan were hard though.

Hi all,

cece I'm sorry the EPU was so awful. I encountered someone who insisted on talking about my ERCP request as if I'd asked for an abortion, WTF?? I guesss it's an emotional business even for the ones who deal with it every day, and they just don't know how to say things sometimes. This being said everyone else was sympathetic and kind. 3 days on from the op, and physically it's been fine - no cramping, some slight bleeding. I have a strange feeling of incompleteness, as if going through the whole mc would have been better, but I know the incompleteness is in fact the loss itself, so I'm letting it ride.

Argh, sorry cece, and apologies to kjq for muddling your names!!!

I'm so sorry northener.