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Miscarried yesterday..................

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Northerner · 18/04/2006 22:49

And feeling a bit low tbh. I was 9 weeks and last night I actually passed the feotus and I can't get the image out of my head.......

Have great support here, but it's always good to talk to people who have been there.

Am off to bed soon so if I don't answer I'll be back in the morning.

Thanks for listening.

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oliveoil · 20/04/2006 13:27

oh no, no no no no.

I am so sorry to hear this, I was just about to start a thread asking where you were for that Chanel stuff.

Sad

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Northerner · 20/04/2006 14:15

Oh yeah I'd forgotten about that. I'd still like it please.

Have you Cat'd me ? Cause my CAT address is at work and ovb I'm not there.

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oliveoil · 20/04/2006 14:18

I did CAT but have not had a reply, I still have it in my drawer for you though.

Are you ok?

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wilbur · 20/04/2006 14:19

I've only just seen this - I'm so sorry Northener.

monkeytrousers · 20/04/2006 14:20

so sorry Northerner x

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Northerner · 20/04/2006 14:20

Yeah, I;m OK all things considered. One minute I feel fine then I'm bawling like a banshee. Dh is back at work today and ds is at preschool so life goes on. MIL visited this morning and friend from work just popped round so I've got lots of support.

Colleagues will be checking my emails and will wonder why someone called Oliveoil is going on about Chanel makeup Grin

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CookieMonster · 20/04/2006 14:23

Northerner, so sorry to hear about this Sad. I remember you from a couple of meetups and thought you were such a happy bubbly person - you will be like that again soon. Take care CM x

oliveoil · 20/04/2006 14:24

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When are you back in work? You can email me on [email protected] if you want me to send it today.

But if you wait you may get a bigger package...........

oliveoil · 20/04/2006 14:24

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Northerner · 20/04/2006 14:26

Hi CM, haven't seen you around for a while are you OK?

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Northerner · 20/04/2006 14:34

Olive - have just emailed you. Am happy to wait for a bigger package (sounds ominous........) just send it when you can. Let me know how much and I'll ovb pay for postage.

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bambi06 · 20/04/2006 14:46

just to share your symapthy and tel you if you need to chat CAT me as i`m literally just going through it now..it started yesterday and its so much heavier today,dr told me by sunday it should have stopped more or less , yesterday i cried all day and had to take the kids to school where there was a mom with a newborn baby.it started me off again and i couldnt get out of the playground fast enough but today i feel a bit stronger emotionally but very tired and cant be bothered about anything..life i sh**t . so if you want to share a weep over a phone call me..love to all your family

CookieMonster · 20/04/2006 14:53

hi Northerner ... I've had a bit of a 'down' time myself these last few months. I am a bit better now but just lurk a lot these days. Hope you're feeling reasonably OK.

FirstNikki · 20/04/2006 17:09

Northerner so sorry to hear your sad news, I totally understand as I lost twice at 9wks and passed the baby. Don't be too hard on yourself you will have ups and downs...I still do but it really does get easier in time. Do you have a grief counsellor you can contact our hospital does, maybe yours does too? Its very sad and your baby will never be forgotten but in time you will learn to come to terms with it. The image of what you experienced is a strange one but again talking to someone about this may help you.

Look after yourself xx

PeachyClair · 20/04/2006 17:47

Sad thinking of you and yours X

sunchowder · 20/04/2006 17:59

I am so sorry to hear this Northerner. My thoughts and sympathies are with you.

Tutter · 20/04/2006 18:02

northerner and bambi06 - so sorry for your losses Sad. i lost 3 babies before my ds and i know it changes you forever, but it will hurt less in time. sending you love and strength.

hulababy · 20/04/2006 18:22

I am so sorry Northerner :( Take some time for yourself, to grieve for your lost baby and for your lost hopes.

I mc at around 7.5 weeks and also passed the feotus. It isn't pleasant but the images fade. But you will gradually start to feel like yourself again, just give yourself time.

Gingerbear · 20/04/2006 18:34

Oh you poor thing Sad
So so sorry.

kjq · 22/04/2006 15:40

Hi Northerner I've just read your post to me on the Nov post. Thanks. You and I must have been going through the same stages together ie due dates and miscarry dates, although it has taken till today for my body to reject the feotus.

To tell you the truth I haven't really had a good cry yet although i know I'm desperate to. It feels like the past week has been happening to somoeone else. My DH has been alright, although I think coz i haven't cried too much that he thinks I'm fine. Is he over it already?
His family haven't been near us although they just live 5 mins away. I find it all very lonely.

Anyway I would love to keep in touch with you, it is comforting to know someone is going through the same as you. I'm so sorry for your loss. xx

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Northerner · 22/04/2006 15:45

Hi there kjq. How are you doing?

I think you really need to cry hun, otherwise it might just hit you later and knock you for six IYKWIM. Your dh probably doesn't know how to react, if you were upset he would comfort you, if you aren't crying he might not know what to do. Does that make sense?

Can't beleive his family have not been around, that is awful Sad

Are you resting and looking after yourself? Do you have children?

Sorry for all the questions, don't answer if you don't want to. Yes, it would be great to keep in touch, if new friendships can be made from something miserable the I'm all for that. It will be nice to have someone to share frustrations with in the coming months. Particulary as we're always going to be seeing the due in November thread in active convos........

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kjq · 22/04/2006 15:53

Northerner - I have 2 DDs (3 & 2) who are really great but need a lot of attention. I have been trying to take things easy but find that when I'm busy i can put things out of my mind for a while.

I just feel that I want to get away from here for a while.

I think I might suggest a w/e away just the 4 of us.

We are about to go out just now for a bite to eat (DH thinks it will cheer me up). I will try to post tomorrow at some point.

TC x

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Northerner · 22/04/2006 15:54

Enjoy your meal.

xx

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toadstool · 23/04/2006 18:44

Erm, hello Northerner and kjq, a new transfer from the November thread, I've just found out I'm going to have an MC this week - embryo died 3 weeks ago, in fact. Still shocked (started bleeding this morning after a week of feeling not-pregnant, had scan this morning, so it's new, sort of), but glad there are threads here too. Just thought I'd drop in and say Hi.

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Northerner · 24/04/2006 08:52

Hi toadstool, I've just posted on the Nov thread also. I think this is about 4 of us so far Sad

How are you feeling? Did they give you any indication of how long it will take for nature to take it's course? So you kind of had it the other way round to me, I bled first so kind of had time to prepare myself. Also my pregnancy symptoms stopped just like yours so I knew something wasn't right. I have to have a scan on Friday just to make sure that everything has come away. I am hoping so.

I see you have a 4 year old dd, I have a 4 year old ds and they do keep you going don't they?

Hope KJQ is OK today too.xx

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