I'm miscarrying right now (mmc found out this morning) what can I expect? Scared.

[FoeufFighter]

Went in for a scan this morning, 9 weeks today, bean measured 6 weeks and no heartbeat. Was booked in for repeat scan next Friday to check (cause a grown woman can't possibly know her blooming dates ) they didn't give me any info or advice on what to expect or what to do, who to call, stay at home, come into hospital, nothing.

I had a little bleeding brown and red last few days and now it's gone heavier and numerous large clots coming away. No pain as yet. have popped a couple of codeine, put on large thick pad, comfy leggings, sorted out my hot water bottle, had a bit to eat and got comfy with duvet on sofa.

What can I expect? I don't want my baby to go down the toilet

[FoofFighter]

Yes I got a Cadbury's Creme Egg one MrsDV :) have eaten half but still not into chocolate as went off it somewhat.

Anyone know how long the hormones and stuff take to go out of your system? When will I stop having symptoms like peeing all the time, going off foods etc

[OhDoAdmitMrsDeVere]

Peeing all the time should stop pretty quickly.
From what I can remember (it was along time ago) the more physical symptoms stop soon.
The hormonally ones can drive you bonkers for a bit though

Weepiness etc.

I did get back to 'normal' in a couple of weeks but I expect everyone is different.
I know its a cliche but I also got pregnant very quickly too.
So you need to be careful if you would rather wait a bit.

I hope you dont mind me mentioning it.

[FoofFighter]

OH is up for it. I'm not sure. This pregnancy was such a huge shock to me and I struggled badly getting my head around it all - not that it wasn't wanted, far from that, just never thought it'd happen, grieved for a few years and then put it to rest somewhere deep in my brain never to be got out again.

I'm 40 next year, statistics are against me and i don't think i could risk another m/c but then I owe it to OH who has no children to try I think.


very early days yet

[FoofFighter]

that stupid edf advert keeps getting me, the orange blob looks a bit like an undeveloped baby and the song with it, Electric Dreams is breaking my heart

[OhDoAdmitMrsDeVere]

Yes it is very early days and too early to be able to think straight about it all.

Stupid advert.

[FoofFighter]

ah tis just my hormones I know that. I looked at cheese and tomato pizzas in Asda earlier ( my only craving) and welled up.

After pains - still normal the day after? Nothing i'm needing tablets for, just a warm bottle

[PestoPenguin]

It sounds normal Foof . I'm sorry you're having to go through this.
DH v kindly went out and bought me some of the foods that I'd missed like pate and posh cheese. It didn't exactly make me feel any better, but it was lovely of him.

[FoofFighter]

Thank you both :)

I should have bought some brie, it's the only thing I have been lusting after! well that and nice red wine but with blood loss I guess best to hold off that for a few days eh?

[funthatisfunny]

oh foo. Don't drink wine! You will get veer drunk veer quickly and then get a banging headache and just feel poorly. eat choc, drink water. Did you really get out to asda? heck woman, get thee to the settee and remain there!

Ah, weeping... I cried at radiohead's 'no alarms and no surprises... please...' song on in the rovers on corrie. Blubbed mah wee heart out. Hormones be damned, but we WILL be ok.

I'm really sorry you have had to go through all this foo :( x

[FoofFighter]

no I didn't buy any wine and there's only san miguel in the flat. I know a drink won't help me feel any better, more likely worse!

yes we WILL be ok x and I'm not going out for a fwe days yet I don't think, it knackered me!

[FoofFighter]

Phoned EPU they want me in Wednesday morning to scan and not to wait till already booked appointment on Friday. Hopefully can then put this chapter to bed and get on with healing.

[Calamityboo]

Hope managed to sleep ok last night. I am pleased they have brought your appointment forward. How are you feeling today?

[FoofFighter]

a bit bereft and not quite knowing what to do with myself. limbo. OH gone back to work today, offered to stay off again but can't afford it and it really makes no difference as it doesn't feel like he's here for me, rather here to play x box.

god I'm such a cow

[Calamityboo]

No your not, don't be hard on yourself. Is there anyone else you have who can come over for a cuppa? Otherwise distract yourself with crap bank holiday tv.

[FoofFighter]

No not really, don't know if I want to be alone or not. same as this scan coming up, told OH not to come, we can't afford him to take more time off anyway but his mum offered to come, I kind of want someone there but also kind of don't. I just don't know! I don't know what I want.

I'll probably just tidy up and pretend everything is normal and waste the day on here, fb and watching shite on TV x

[Calamityboo]

Oh foof, today do whatever feels best for you, I would suggest having someone with you on Wednesday though. They are not going to expect sparkling conversation, you might be grateful for a hand to hold though. You waste your day, do whatever takes to get through, there are no right or wrong ways to deal with what you are going through, and keep posting, you have an army of ladies here to help you.

[FoofFighter]

First poo after mc, not unlike a first poo after giving birth, a bit ouchy and tender!

Have yet to have a good sob and sorely needing one but can't seem to. Although did just have a wee cry on phone when saying to OH to unbook his half day off for when we should have been having 12 week scan

[Calamityboo]

Oh love, moist tissue is your friend right now for the first issue, the cry will come when you least expect it, and probably at the most inconvenient time!

[jodidi]

I feel like I've been sobbing for ages, but it's only been a day. I don't know whether the crying is helping me deal with it though, I just feel a bit pathetic to be honest.

I agree that you should take someone with you to the scan. If I decide to go to mine (which I don't know that I will yet) then I will have my dp with me, and my dad will be driving us there and back.

[karinajack]

Don't feel pathetic u have a reason to break down I can't imagine what ur going through but take it easy.
It's upto you what you feel like doing and noone will expect anything. Though you may have to have a scan to make sure everything has healed properly. So sorry just take it easy and eat loads of crap food xx

[karinajack]

hugs to u all
Take care

[FoofFighter]

Thank you all once again, I think I'm done here now, onwards and upwards but of course will never forget and I certainly won't forget the kindness of random strangers on the tinterwebby