Recurrent Buns Graduates - Pregnancy and Beyond

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Thought it was about time we had a new home for all those lovely ladies who used to frequent the original Recurrent Buns thread, or anyone else who has been through the hideous journey of miscarriage, recurrent miscarriage, infertility, testing etc. and now finds themselves either pregnant and in need of hand-holding (or better yet) with their long-awaited bundle(s) of joy.

I know it perhaps seems a little inappropriate to start a thread in the miscarriage topic but it still seems the most relevant spot for those of us who haven't yet completed the journey - and nowhere else really seemed right or fair to everyone.

I do hope you'll come along and say hello. I do miss you all!

Aww how wonderful! i wasn't too far off with my guess then.

Massive congratulations Mummy. Hope you recover quickly.

Aww how wonderful! i wasn't too far off with my guess then.

Massive congratulations Mummy. Hope you recover quickly.

mummyabroad I'm so happy for you that you have Max with you in the world. You have been such an inspiration to me when I first came to this board over a year ago. I was so impressed with how you took control of managing your treatment and you inspired me to do the same. I imagine being a single parent to 2 small children is such a challenge, but you are so strong!

As it happens, I am officially 20 weeks today. My scan is on Friday to make sure that things seem OK. I'm quite impatient waiting for it to happen. I'm trying so hard to be optimistic and acknowledge that this time could result in a real live baby. Sometimes I do genuinely believe it and other times when I read about late losses, I get scared again.

Here's to hoping that the happiness continues for all of us!

Eeee for 20 week-ness LAF The fear of late losses runs through us all, it's totally normal. I just set myself little targets to help myself mentally get through it. "If I can get to 24 weeks..." Then 28, 30 and so on. I don't think I believed it was happening until I was 38 weeks and in hospital being monitored twice daily, then I felt safe and able to accept it. It's one of those things that isn't real until it's real iykwim. Good luck for your scan Friday, will be thinking of you.

I really hope in time there can more from the Buns thread coming over here. :)

Hello ladies, thanks for all the well wishes, I had a little read yesterday but was still a bit bowled over by the c-section/d&C/recovery. Feeling like I am recovering properly now though. I am so suprised Max turned out so small, what with the GD and previous big baby I was expecting a whopper. Everyone round here has already started calling him "mini Max" Unfortunately we are not a united family at the moment, DS1 is with his Dad and suffering very badly from a cold, so wont be able to meet Max for a few days yet however, it means I have a good chance to be much better recovered by the time he does come back.

I cant believe I have my little Worth The Wait Post Ashermans Miracle Baby Its so nice to be able to finally post that my baby has arrived safe and sound. I want to say an enormous THANK YOU to everyone on the thread for the months and months of encouragement and support, it has meant so much. If you were in close proximity I would give each and every one of you a huge hug and a kiss. Mwah!

LAF I am with you on the fear thing, I am just about to post news of my baby on FB for the first time, i really didnt want to count my chicken until it had hatched! You will get there though, lovely. Hang on tight for the rest of the ride.

xxxxxx

Spent ages writing a message on here yesterday which MN appears to have eaten. Wah!!!! MummyA mahussive congratulations! Utterly delighted to hear you have your beautiful petite baby boy at last! You are truly superwoman for all you've endured to get here. Oddly, now our babies are here, safe and sound, it doesn't seem so very long ago that we were sharing grim notes on our HSGs!

So, so happy for you and hope you're recovering well.

Yey for 20 weeks LAF! You are also a superwoman for having got this far without going completely mad. You're halfway now. I have everything crossed for you, but feel quietly confident that it's your turn for the good luck now. Xx

Waves to everyone else. Back with more at a more sociable hour, when little Miss decides sleep is a good plan! X

laf how did the scan go yesterday? :)

coconuts all was well yesterday, thanks for asking. I'm having a boy as I thought. We went on holiday to Cornwall, so on the phone, and I'm doing well to leave the Doppler at home!

LAF yey for your little boy! Fab news!!! Xxxxx

Oh LAF that is just brilliant news. I'm so happy for you. It really is your turn next :) xxxxx

Hi ladies, can't believe how rubbish I have been - stuck in a frantic little bubble of work and trying to keep head out of water at home (and a weekend away with DH for anniversary, to be fair) but I have barely touched a computer for non-work purposes in weeks.

MummyA, very belated congratulations on miracle Max. I don't know how i managed not to clock that Nov 1 was, like, last week - but I'm delighted for you! Hope you're feeling better, extra op sounds like something you could have done without.

LAF yay scan! Yay for another little boy! Am losing count, but we are def running to boys on this thread, aren't we?

V little else to report. Have done nothing but go to work, dash home, do some sketchy housework, pack bags, cook and do it all over again the next day. On an average of five hours' sleep a night, thanks to F and insomnia (takes the piss to get insomnia when you've only got 7 hours in bed anyway, IMHO).

Glittery and Lunatic hope the shouty phase is passing for now. I'm having one today because DS1 has had sillyitis, too. With a side order of ignoring me until I've told him four or five times and am actually yelling. Graaaaaarrrrggghhhhhrrrr. The poor neighbours.

Coconuts are you feeling less mad now? To be fair, as well as being all bigger-picture at you I should have confessed that I also got very bothered about my weight. I'd sort of forgotten until I re-read your post. I am putting it down to combo of vanity/being sick to the tits of maternity clothes, wanting to be back in control a bit, and feeling more 'normal' after second child than first, so couldn't understand why I couldn't fit into my real clothes. You'd think I'd have realised that I normally don't neck two Snickers bars a day...

Hi all, quiet over here lately....

mummy Max is just gorgeous, have seen the FB pics and they look really lovely. Hope you are recovering nicely, and plenty of visitors to make you tea

frazzled Hope you had a lovely anniversary weekend. Hope F is doing well.

I am still felling pretty mad. The brain isn't functioning the way it did. Simple tasks are not as simple. I find it impossible to even count to 5 to make the formula. I hate baby brain! Weight is still playing on my mind a bit, but I had a lot of issues with my weight growing up, so it is something that will always be with me regardless.

Things have been up and down here. T is doing great, was 11lb 11 at last weigh in so must be over 12lb now. He's a chunk! But a gorgeous one! Added a new pic to my profile.

Things with DH, not so great. Thread in relationships about it. We aren't really communicating the way we should and he has been working too much and not helping as much. So had a big chat and hopefully things will get better. Finding it really hard to maintain the relationship and look after the kids at the same time, as they're obviously my priority, not him.

Have started looking round schools for DD as well, so that's a big change, my baby is growing up.

It is quiet.

Hope everyone's just madly busy.

Glad T's doing well, Coconuts, but sorry for your trouble. I hadn't seen your thread. Talking is a huge thing, though, so it's a good sign that you can do that.

Is so difficult to have a relationship and a small baby, I remember times when DH and I felt like housemates. Getting our evenings back at the four-month mark was a major improvement.

Not having the best time. Utterly exhausting week, still can't sleep beyond 5am and often awake at 2-ish so averaging five hours' broken sleep a night. Feel like a bloody zombie this morning, had rare argument with DH and am being a grumpy cow with DS1.

Schedule killing me but alternative is to work three days in office and two at home, which would be easier for me but three hours' less with F each week, and childminder would be doing one school pick up and giving them tea. It's not a huge change but the idea really upsets me. Prob wouldn't if I wasn't so fecking exhausted, perspective first thing to go!

Hi ladies, long time no see! I think I was do paranoid about things going wrong in my pregnancy that I gave up all the mc threads

Little Olivia was born Saturday morning at 5:30am and is just gorgeous, I love her do much. DD1 is also smitten and refers to Olivia as "my baby" .

I am so happy the pregnancy is over but my now irrational side is thinking I'm back to square one when we start ttc again even though that's a few years away

Anyway, I've not read thru the thread yet but will do so soon

Oh banana that's such great news. I love the name Olivia (was on our list).

It was a long old road hey. Glad DD1 is enjoying being a big sister, my DD is just the same!

I am scared of being broody, I know I can never be pregnant again, it doens't agree with me

Huge congratultions :)

Busy at my end, I'm mad and have been decorating while trying to look after 3yo and and a baby! Got it all done now, just need to accessorise! :)

T has his 8 week check and jabs tomorrow and my postnatal. Hoping to get my stitches checked as they are pretty bad and still painful and actually bled the other day (tmi sorry) so I guess something isn't quite right with that.

Anyway off to cook dinner and get kids sorted for bed, big hello to everyone xxx

Sorry for prolonged absence. Crazy busy here.

banana huge congrats to you. Love the name Olivia, was on my list for ds.

Completely understand the anxiety of possibly ttc in the future. I am 99& sure Eliza will be our last for a variety of reasons, partly the fear of it all.

coconuts things aren't too clever here with my dp either. Lack of communication and my resentment of him being home so much more than me is making things tough. Things are improving though, fingers crossed it stays that way.

Not much else to add really. Eliza is doing great, she is 10 months old an weighs about a ton! She's just started taking her first steps (3 today unaided) and is growing up ridiculously fast :(

Will try and read back and do a proper catch up if I can get on the laptop later.

Ffs I meant 99% not 99&

I might look 99 but I'm not quite that old yet!

Ffs I meant 99% not 99&

I might look 99 but I'm not quite that old yet!

Oh I am so sorry, but my life is ridiculously busy. Trying to fit in work, breastfeeding, no sleep, school run and now I've added the gym to my list of weekly necessities. I am a truly hideous shape and weight and nothing seems to change no matter what I do. Hoping all the weight will just fall off when I wean my DD, but thinking i'm going to have to do something about the lard consumption. Whenever I try, I last about a day and then I'm so exhausted, I just reach for the biscuits. Still getting next to no sleep and running on empty. Still smiling, just feeling a bit run down. I'm sure I never used to have to think about what I ate so carefully. Anyway, enough of my trivial problems.

banana I am so thrilled for you. Olivia was on my name list too for a while. I remember being on so many mc threads with you a couple of years ago. I am so pleased it finally happened for you. Cherish her. The irrational thing is normal. I used to vigilant when it came to taking the pill, but find myself slightly sickened to be preventing pg these days, even though I know it's definitely for the best.

Coconuts I didn't read your other thread in rltsps, but sorry to hear you're struggling a bit with communication at the mo. If it's any consolation, I think all rltsps struggle in the early days postpartum. After both of my births I felt I was 'supposed' to get back to normal as soon as possible and be just as good a wife as I was a mother. It doesn't work that way and I agree with frazzled about the housemate analogy. DH and I are getting there now, but he's, thankfully, very patient. I struggle to even maintain consciousness most of the time, let alone be a supportive, chatty, loving person towards him. I also have zilch libido and feel about as unglamorous as I ever have, so that doesn't help! Give it time. It's really early days and you've had to go through a lot to get here. It's not surprising that things aren't altogether easy. Oh and a big yey to hear about your lo's weight gain. Despite being quite hefty, my DD is rather dainty. Very long and slender, but I guess bfing is different to formula - and I've never had a girl before to compare.

mumatron Sorry to hear things are tough for you too, but yey for Eliza's first steps. Wonderful. DD is now laughing at everything and playing with her toes. I love all the milestones. Just wish they didn't grow so quickly. 10 months??? How???

frazzled I think we have a similar problem right now. I am existing on next to no sleep and trying to carry on with work like someone without any children let alone 2 with no childcare. Tis rather silly. I'm hoping it will get easier, but not sure how?! I'm sure there are people out there who do far more, but they must have better coping skills! Know what you mean about a total lack of perspective and the sketchy housework made me giggle. I have overflowing washing baskets, but a G&T seems far more appealing than attacking any of it. I've noticed that I can't retain any information and DH occasionally snaps at me by pointing out that I haven't heard anything he's said, because I'm too tired to listen and take anything in. Rubbish. I'm also far snappier than I should be with DS. Not his fault that I'm too tired to function properly, but I feel bad that I almost feel glad when it's time for school so I can attempt to get some respite. Said respite is the weekly food shop or work though, so hardly a break. I think you and I need a weekend away just to sleep and do nothing else!!!

MummyA Hope you are having a wonderful time snuggling your new miracle addition. Can't be easy juggling everything on your own. Hope you are still getting some help with DS. I'm thinking of you often.

Justmee Still thinking about you and sending love, strength and support.

Love to Lunatic, Julez, LAF and anyone else lurking. I'll try to come back more often. I really will.

I wanted to pop in and offer my congratulations to banana I'm so happy that Olivia is here. I remember starting off on the RMC thread and you were there too and it is good to know of the success stories.

I'm amazed at all of your superwomen on here with 2 little ones. I can imagine how knackering it must be and what sort of strain it puts on you and your relationship. DH has already started thinking about number 2 before number 1 is even here, but I'm just going to ignore his comments for another year or so.

justmee I've been thinking about you and I hope that your DS is recovering and you won't be in hospital for long or are out of hospital.

I'm going to be 23 weeks on Wednesday, the last 3 weeks have flown by. I keep thinking that I am getting near the week of viability and that helps me relax a bit.

Guten morgen! :)

mumatron hope things with DP are gradually improving. It is really surprising how having a baby puts such a different perspective on things and relationships become strained. If anything I'd have thought it would bring couples together but it really is the opposite.

Glittery I know it's hard but you really need to look after yourself. At the end of the day what you eat DD eats. Not that you don't know that already so I'll shut up but what I'm trying to say in a half arsed way is that without you feeling half ok you'll become more and more tired and run down and it's a slippery slope. But who am I to talk, I just sat and ate a bag of doritos for breakfast

LAF week 24 was when I began to feel slightly more safe too. And every day on top of that is one more day of growing for baby. Less than half way to go now :)

I haven't heard from justmee for a long time but I do know from FB posts by her family that she is still in hospital and her DS has gained weight and had an operation. That is all I know. I know obviously she shouldn't be giving FB or MN a seconds thought but I'm always sending her my best wishes and telling her that you guys here are asking after her, so when she does see the messages she'll know she has support from us here.

In other news, i had my postnatal last week and DS's 8 week check and jabs. Jabs were horrible as ever and it has become apparent that he has clicky hips :( Now waiting for a scan and to take it from there. Bit worried about harnesses and operations but trying not to worry too much before we actually know there is a problem. At the minute it is just a potential problem.

And i also need to be referred to a gynae to get my stitches re-done as they are very painful and tight and causing me problems so that's another worry.

DS is officially 2 months old today, is getting big and is generally a very happy boy. Sleeps through til 4 most nights so only one feed in the night. He is a tummy baby and hates any position other than on his front which makes everything pretty tricky. Baths and nappy changes are terrible because he just screams at being on his back. It's weird. He has also found his thumb and is an occasional thumb sucker.

We are mad busy decorating also. I did the bathroom myself last week. Just decided to do it randomly and now have decided to do DD's room, the kitchen and the lounge. all before xmas. We're crazy!

Coconuts Sorry to hear that they've messed up your stitches. You poor thing. Sounds hideous. Also sorry to hear about the clicky hips, but you may find they sort themselves out, or a spot of physio does the trick. Can't help but smile at the frantic decorating. Nothing like taking on too much at an already tiring time!!!

Pmsl at the bag of Doritos for breakfast. Excellent! I know you're right, but patience is not one of my strong points and I'm worried that I won't be the sort of woman to lose weight once I wean her and I'm a bit worried that I might actually gain!

Speaking of weaning - I realise it's a rather controversial subject and daren't really ask the question out loud on this site without fear of reprimand - when did all you ladies with older babies start the process? My DS was so stupidly hungry that I weaned him far earlier than I probably should, but we never looked back and my GP wholeheartedly encouraged it. Oddly, I feel less comfortable doing that this time around, even though DD is feeding every 2 hours for at least an hour at a time through the night - which is killing me. I don't think she's strictly dissatisfied with milk as she always seems full after a feed, but the lack of sleep is really taking its toll on me. I hope that doesn't come across as complaining. I'd do anything for her - just a bit desperate for some sleep now we're 4 months down the line.

Waves to everyone else!

I weaned DD at 17 weeks, but she was FF. I too am wary of doing it so early this time, even though it worked brilliantly with DD. I feel like this time I have to do things 'properly', for some reason.

Are you planning on puree weaning or BLW?

Poor you on every two hours in the night, you must be exhausted. That is partly the reason I selfishly chose FF.