Recurrent Buns Graduates - Pregnancy and Beyond

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Thought it was about time we had a new home for all those lovely ladies who used to frequent the original Recurrent Buns thread, or anyone else who has been through the hideous journey of miscarriage, recurrent miscarriage, infertility, testing etc. and now finds themselves either pregnant and in need of hand-holding (or better yet) with their long-awaited bundle(s) of joy.

I know it perhaps seems a little inappropriate to start a thread in the miscarriage topic but it still seems the most relevant spot for those of us who haven't yet completed the journey - and nowhere else really seemed right or fair to everyone.

I do hope you'll come along and say hello. I do miss you all!

He's absolutely gorgeous coconuts congratulations!!!!

Still thinking of you justmee

Massive congratulations Coconuts! He is absolutely beautiful and your relief must be immense, despite his difficult entry into the world. Lots of love to you all. Well done you.

So happy to hear from you coconuts and thomas is gorgeous. He looks quite relaxed, so you'd never know that you went through a difficult labour.

justmee your family is in my prayers. Hoping that your hospital is helping your son get better.

Lunatic 5? DD1 is 5???? How did that happen?! Slightly manic at this end too - hence my lack of input. Back at work 3 afternoons a week in between breastfeeding. It's not easy, but keeps me out of mischief. Hope there is more good stuff than bad at that end.

Coconuts Just another big congratulations! Hope you're recovering and have had a bit of time for sleep. What a beautiful little family you have. Enjoy it. Newborns grow so fast. You forget...but I can literally hear DD growing!

Justmee Big hugs and lots of love to you. I am thinking of you all the time and keeping everything crossed that your little man is fighting and getting stronger.

LAF How are you feeling? Well, I hope.

MummyA How long to go now?

Waves to everyone else.

Still not really sleeping at this end, but I don't care! Have been a bit plagued with night sweats (YUCK!) which I'm led to believe is quite common when breastfeeding. Pretty gross though. I did hope it would help me lose some weight, but I seem to be gaining if anything!

Thanks for the congrats everyone, he's just beautiful and I still can't quite believe he's here, that we made him and he's safe.

He's so good and sleeps until his feed, has quite a few alert sessions throughout the day already.

Bit of a dodgy start with feeding but after BF until day 5 we are now FF. He was jaudiced and a sleepy eater and wouldn't latch on properly, my nipple were cracked and bleeding and when he did get it right he was draining my breasts quicker than they were filling. After sitting in tears at 4am and him screaming for ages I caved and decided FF was the way to go. Obviously, nothing compared to glittery ordeal with mastitis but we have made the right move and he has gained 6oz in two days after originally losing quite a bit.

Stitches are healing well I think and the only problem I have is the pains in my rib muscles, where they are trying to go back into shape.

lunatic Glad your DD had a lovely birthday party :) and hope the good stuff happening outweighs the bad.

glittery Hats off to you on the BF and to returning to working so quickly.

justmee sending love and strength to you and hope DS's operations go smoothly.

mummy it's your turn next :) Can't be long now!

waves to mumatron laf digi

Congratulations, Coconuts and I LOVE your photos. Glad little T is settling well and you're recovering.

Hi everyone else, too - salutations to Lunatic on the party, and also to Glittery on going back to work so quickly. No way would I have been together enough to do it.

In fact, I go back to work next Weds and the thought of it has sent me into a terrified hermit-like state of denial. Have huge and complicated schedule to deal with, DS1 still crying at the school gates in the morning, and have to hand F over to childminder and head off 30 miles into town. The thought makes me want to wail, especially this morning because I couldn't sleep till after 3am.

And breeeathe.

Hope everyone else is OK, especially justmee - I am thinking of you often and checking back to see if you've posted.

mumatron, any useful tips on managing work with more than one DC? And julez, hope you're getting a bit more sleep now?

Waves to everyone else.

Congratulations, Coconuts and I LOVE your photos. Glad little T is settling well and you're recovering.

Hi everyone else, too - salutations to Lunatic on the party, and also to Glittery on going back to work so quickly. No way would I have been together enough to do it.

In fact, I go back to work next Weds and the thought of it has sent me into a terrified hermit-like state of denial. Have huge and complicated schedule to deal with, DS1 still crying at the school gates in the morning, and have to hand F over to childminder and head off 30 miles into town. The thought makes me want to wail, especially this morning because I couldn't sleep till after 3am.

And breeeathe.

Hope everyone else is OK, especially justmee - I am thinking of you often and checking back to see if you've posted.

mumatron, any useful tips on managing work with more than one DC? And julez, hope you're getting a bit more sleep now?

Waves to everyone else.

lf nope. No tips. I'm barely coping tbh. I've never been so tired :( I've just dropped a day so from next weeks I'll be having a wed off. I've just brought ds to scouts 20 min early so I can get 5 mins peace in the car.

Will try do a better catch up later. I haven't even seen the laptop in over a week :(

obviously my earlier post was for you frazzled and not lf

i was hoping to catch up tonight but i cant keep my eyes open much longer. will try better tomorrow.

glittery I hope when you say your back at work already you mean working from home? god, E is 8 months and I'm really struggling to get a half decent work/life balance!

Just a quickie to let you all know I'm 12 weeks now. Dating scan is next week, so fingers crossed!

justmee I'm hoping no news from you means you're still in hospital and that he's hanging in there. Lots of hugs.

Can't believe some of you are back to work already! Feels like there are two different time streams - quick one for you lot and a slow one for me.

digi Time went so slowly for me in the beginning also. There were pregnant folks on the buns thread such as Glittery and her pregnancy was going so fast compared to mine! Totally normal! Until you hit 36 weeks and are very unprepared then time can't go slow enough! The weeks between the two scans are the worst for slowness I found. Good luck for your dating scan next week :)

hope everyone is well :)

Coconuts I don't think it matters how you feed them, provided it works for you. I have had experience of FF and BF'ing now and I wish I'd not let myself feel so guilty for having to mainly FF the first time around. In my albeit limited experience, BF'ing either works very quickly, or not - and no amount of advice or people telling you what you should do makes one sod of difference! Even when it works, it seems to be fraught with problems like blocked ducts and mastitis. Thankfully, things seem to be settling down for us now, but it's taken a few weeks to get into any kind of routine. All that matters is a healthy, happy baby. I hope you're getting some rest and loving every minute.

Lunatic Thanks for the comforting words on night sweats and weight issues. It concerns me greatly that the sweating thing is probably what I've got to look forward to in a menopausal state. It's horrible and makes me feel quite poorly at times. Hoping I'm shut of it soon.

So sorry to hear about your cat. I think you mentioned that you'd need to make a judgement call sooner rather than later, but didn't say that you'd done that. It's so hard to do what's best for them, but better to let them go when they're suffering. And scary times for you and your DH. Must have been a big relief when he got the all clear.

Digi Massive congratulations for getting to 12 weeks without going completely insane. You seem much calmer than I felt. Had to giggle at Coconut's comment about my speedy pregnancy. It felt like the longest few months of my life. Now my little lady is here, time has sped up even more. It's not fair!

frazzled I'm not surprised you're feeling wobbly with all that to contend with. My situation is much easier in the sense that we have a family business and I am allowed to take DD with me as I'm practically self-employed. Obviously, I'm still BF'ing around the clock, so it wouldn't work any other way. I only do three afternoons a week while DS is at school and I do feel as though I'm running backwards through treacle most of the time because I'm doing everything badly rather than a few things well. Please don't think I'm back at work in the accepted sense. After everything I've been through to get my little girl, you must think I'm awful to be dashing back so quickly and it isn't really like that. I don't have a boss breathing down my neck and my setup is very relaxed. I'm there to do as much as I can, but most days that doesn't feel like a lot. My babies come first, but it is nice to spend a few hours a week doing something with my brain, even if I'm completely knackered! I hope you start to feel a bit better once you're back at work. The first few days will be the hardest. A lottery win would be lovely, wouldn't it? Then we wouldn't have to leave them.

Waves to mumatron, MummyA and anyone else who is lurking. Julez I do hope that no news is good news. Love to you all. xx

evening all. very very quiet here lately. hope all is well.

justmee any news? hope things are going ok for you all.

coconuts how is the baby? your dc are adorable.

frazzled was it the big return to work today? hopefully it wasn't too painful.

lf how scary for you and C. very glad to hear he is ok.

any news from MummyA?

things aren't great here, really struggling with the return to work, feeling very hormonal and just a bit of a mess in general. i'm thinking seeing the gp, for the first time ever i think i may need some AD. i cant explain it, but i just cant shake this anxious feeling, it's like i'm permanently scared of something. i'm not sleeping to well either. i'm crap at explaining myself :(

on a brighter note E is doing well. she likes to think she can walk, but the reality is that the top half of her body goes a lot faster than her feet! she is very cute though and has perfected a spectacular cheesy grin! see here for an example.

not so good are the tantrums she has started throwing. I don't think i have ever seen such a strong willed 9 month old. probably the only good thing about being back in work is the fact I don't have to deal with them so often.

anyhoo, off to try and get some sleep. night all.

digi congrats on getting to 12 weeks.

waves to glittery and julez

Just a quick post to say i am still alive. Sending love to all, struggling alot at the moment, DS1 been diagnosed with Dypraxia and possible ADD, DS2 i the process of being investigated for ADHD and Oliver has had a few allergic reactions to other foods and has been ill. Feeling like the worlds worst mother atm :( (Eggs, tomatos, strawberrys, soya) Been referred for allergy testing. I had a tooth out last week too, so it feels as though its all come at once.

Will be back later, I am home alone with DH and we plan to sleep the day away lol :)

lf the anxiety is really wearing me down. I'm not sleeping because of it. i need to get my act together and see a gp.

congratulations on the anniversary and well done L for the weight gain.

cheers!

Evening all,

This still isn't a proper update (I'm nearly asleep) but I just wanted to say hello before it got ridiculous and I could never return from sheer shame at how long it had been, or something.

Return to work was horrible and great and weird and weird because it wasn't weird, all at once. Now stressing that nice do-able arrangement won't survive the christmas review, not that I'm prone to borrowing trouble or anything.

Sheer level of organisation required is doing my head in, though.

Have afternoon off tomorrow, will try to post something then. Love to all, x

Hi all,

This thread had almost dropped off threads I'm on so thought I'd give it a bump for everyone.

Hope you are all ok.

mumatron love your halloween name, very imaginative! As you can see I haven't bothered! How's your fantasy football going? I haven't done any tweaks on there in weeks so god knows what's happening with my team!
Hope you've managed to see the GP re the anxiety? There's nothing worse than an anxious feeling. i used to suffer from panic attacks and anxiety and was on beta blockers for it so I know how you feel.

lf Wow on L sleeping through and I hope you had a lovely anniversary :)

julez sounds like you're having a rough time of it at the mo, hope things start looking up soon.

glittery Hope I is doing well and you are coping ok with the Bf and work :)

Not much to report from here tbh. T is three weeks old now, is cuter every day. After all the feeding blips in the early days my little man is a right piggy now. Already on 5oz hungry baby milk every 4 hours. He's a grunter though, so eventhough he sleeps at night from feed to feed he keeps me awake pretty much all night with his racket! Much more alert and awake in the daytime and I swear he smiled already but everyone tells me it's wind I could just see it in his eyes IYKWIM.

DD loving full time playschool, skips in gleefully everyday after an initial hatred of the place, so that's good news. She's loving being a big sister and is very helpful - sometimes a bit too much though but she means well.

DH back at work after PL. Was abit of a shock to the system but trying to get my own routine going in the day to keep on top of things and think I'm doing ok. Still manage plenty of MN and FB time so can't be going to badly

coconuts T sounds adorable. E was very noisy at night and we all got so much more sleep when she moved into her cot.

Not been keeping up with football tbh, I may have a tweak later.

The anxiety seems to have eased for now at least. I'm sleeping a bit better as well.

Work is still hellish and I'm now looking for a new job :(. It's such a shame as I love the company and the majority of my team but the role is unrecognisable from it was a year ago. I'm not hopeful of finding anything that fits in with my current hours either.

So glad to hear you're sleeping a bit better, perhaps the lack of sleep was contributing to the anxiety, viscious circle maybe?

Sorry about the work situation Hope you manage to find something feasible hours wise.

I have T in his cot tonight for the first time so will report back on the noisiness!

How did the cot move go, Coconuts? DS1 was the same, unbelievably noisy while sleeping. I lasted till 12 weeks and then kicked him next door to his own room and slept SO much better. Don't know if F was quieter or I was more knackered but didn't have the problem this time round, but I remember it well.

Mumatron, I am in almost the exact same situation at work. Team still great, I really like what I do, but the workload has almost doubled while I was on mat leave, the extra work is taking priority over what I was hired to do, and the top brass Have Views on it which is going to make it almost impossible to do well. And I also have v specific hours I want to stick to, which I doubt I'd get anywhere else.

What's happening with your DH's job at the moment?

Apart from the aforementioned changes, things are actually going OK (I held off posting for a few days partly because I am bloody EXHAUSTED, and partly because it would have just been a massive whinge before).

Schedule is insane - am on the 6.58am train two days a week and home at 7pm. Two days a week leave at 8am after dropping kids with childminder, travel 90 mins into London, work till 1.30pm. Leave (feeling dagger glares from top brass which I may or may not be imagining...), work in train on way home, pick boys up, stop work.

One day a week working at home, thank God. And am planning to take a pay cut and make this a half day so I get a bit of one-on-one time with F.

I'm packing and organising like crazy every night, even down to showering and laying out my clothes, so there's nothing I have to do but get up and dressed and breakfasted before I leave. No idea if I can keep this up longterm. We shall see.

So how's everyone else? more to point, where's everyone else? Hope it's just busy-ness rather than anything bad. Love and waves to all (and justmee, if you're reading, I think of you every day and am still keeping fingers crossed).

Cot move went ok thanks, he makes less noise but only if he's on his tummy. Going to invest in a sensor pad thing i think then I will be a bit calmer about things. The only bad thing about the cot is that I actually have to get out of bed in the cold to get him out for a feed whereas in his carry cot i just had a little stretch of the arms